There are some things that I am going to say about long hair...

[lisajames96]

Did Blossom actually say she had an epiphany? I got it was more of just her thoughts and opinions she was gonna share? I'm just saying, she does have the right to post them even if they may seen to contradict something. Actually, I think I might get my toes stepped on cause I am still in the PJ phase and loving it and want long hair regardless, but I am curious as to her opinions. I really like this site and you ladies are sooo helpful.
-lisa

 

[Impresaria]

No...Blosssom hasn't said anything yet. But this thread is taking it's own turn while we wait. Since technically, it really doesn't have a topic yet. We waiting for Blosssom to tell us what we 'sposed to be talking about. Of course she has a right to post them even if they are controversial in nature. No one is telling her not to, and if you know anything about Blosssom you are best to believe that she will post exactly what she feels .

ETA: Something has changed here on the hair forum in the almost two years since I've been here. Maybe it's just me, but I remember the biggest disagreements around here were on the lines of relaxed versus natural. Now it's like you need a double-blind study and it's results from 3 or 4 well-renowed sources with pictures just to recommend a product. Or just to even ask about it. Why? I have had certain information for a while that I thought would be useful to the board but I don't post it until today. Why? Maybe because I feared getting laughed at...but I leave for Iraq in two weeks so fear for me has taken on a greater meaning. But that's another thread, too.

Did Blossom actually say she had an epiphany? I got it was more of just her thoughts and opinions she was gonna share? I'm just saying, she does have the right to post them even if they may seen to contradict something. Actually, I think I might get my toes stepped on cause I am still in the PJ phase and loving it and want long hair regardless, but I am curious as to her opinions. I really like this site and you ladies are sooo helpful.
-lisa

 

[sprungonhairboards]

... Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of glueing other people's and animal's hair on their scalp?

It sounds sooo nasty when you put it that way

 

[DragonPearl]

I can't speak for anyone else, but I personally do not take mega doses of suppelements, nor do I get relaxers or do any of the afforementioned, BUT, and this is a big BUT,
I am not going to tell someone what to do with their hair or body. Just that simple.

The same here. I do none of these things, though I did wear human hair once and it grossed me out, and I used relaxers until 5 years ago. I have no intention of using MTG and I refuse to use mega vitamins for hair growth. BUT I will not ridicule others for their choices. I have seen that happen too often on other hair boards and it was and is still a real turnoff for me.

If this thread can generate in-depth and honest thoughts and contemplations on the reasons for wanting long hair, and the means to achieve it, and actually bring the women here to achieve a healthy balance between what is good for them and what is just obsessive and destructive, then I think it will be a wonderful thread.

 

[secretdiamond]

No...Blosssom hasn't said anything yet. But this thread is taking it's own turn while we wait. Since technically, it really doesn't have a topic yet. We waiting for Blosssom to tell us what we 'sposed to be talking about. Of course she has a right to post them even if they are controversial in nature. No one is telling her not to, and if you know anything about Blosssom you are best to believe that she will post exactly what she feels .

ETA: Something has changed here on the hair forum in the almost two years since I've been here. Maybe it's just me, but I remember the biggest disagreements around here were on the lines of relaxed versus natural. Now it's like you need a double-blind study and it's results from 3 or 4 well-renowed sources with pictures just to recommend a product. Or just to even ask about it. Why? I have had certain information for a while that I thought would be useful to the board but I don't post it until today. Why? Maybe because I feared getting laughed at...but I leave for Iraq in two weeks so fear for me has taken on a greater meaning. But that's another thread, too.

What is the info?! I'm very curious now.

And I completely understand what you're saying about being laughed at. I've been here for a little over a year and the environment of this board has changed. It bothers me, but I try to still use the valuable info I get from here everyday to help me better take care of my hair. I just try to ignore the negative comments and steer clear of being a target of some of them by keeping my opinion about things to myself.

Anyway, while we're waiting for this now infamous (don't know why yet) thread to begin, can you PLEASE start another thread about your info like you said? PLEASE. Just by looking at this thread alone I know there are open-minded ppl on this board who won't laugh, but research and take into consideration what you have to say. We're ALL here to help each other! Like someone said b4, others not on the board already think we're crazy so let us crazy ppl help each other! lol. If not, can you PM your new info to me?!

OT: you're leaving for Iraq?! Wow. are you in the army or something?

ETA: I just saw the new thread you made... I'm guessing this is the info you were talking about?

 

[Koffie]

The same here. I do none of these things, though I did wear human hair once and it grossed me out, and I used relaxers until 5 years ago. I have no intention of using MTG and I refuse to use mega vitamins for hair growth. BUT I will not ridicule others for their choices. I have seen that happen too often on other hair boards and it was and is still a real turnoff for me.

If this thread can generate in-depth and honest thoughts and contemplations on the reasons for wanting long hair, and the means to achieve it, and actually bring the women here to achieve a healthy balance between what is good for them and what is just obsessive and destructive, then I think it will be a wonderful thread.

Agreed. And I think I know what hair boards you are talking about too.

Though I don't see anything wrong with humor (as I am guilty of myself), as long as no one is offended.
But when there is name calling involved and condescending attitudes towards folk, then I don't like that either.

 

[Impresaria]

Actually, california beat me to the punch. In reading hair loss boards I came across the studies that show that ketoconazole, the drug in Nizoral, stimulates hair growth in rats (we not rats, but a lot of the products we use were tested on animals) by blocking the hormone DHT. If you are losing your hair or have a head full of hair, it STILL supposedly blocks DHT and stimulates hair growth. When she started talking about Monistat, a bell started ringing in my head, because correlations have been drawn in studies that show that miconazole, the active ingredient in Monistat, and other anti-fungals behave in the same manner. But I can just imagine the reaction if I would have said "Hey ladies, there are some anti-fungal creams that might stimulate your hair follicles, and maybe grow you some hair too!" And then say "but it's the same stuff stuff that treats vaginal yeast infections, foot yeast infections, jock yeast infections and scalp yeat infections!" I seen the MTG and Lenzi's Request fallout and decided not to join the fray, until I seen california's post, and I didn't want her to stand by herself if I had info that might help. I have not used it myself, I have a ton of other products that I'm trying to finish off, I was not trying to PUSH this...I was just saying "Hey there is some research that supports this!" Since I thought that that is the direction that the board was headed...COLD HARD FACTS ONLY!!! LOL...And then you point people in that direction...and they don't even read it or care to research and that is FINE if it's not for them. I am ecstatic that people have found what works or what doesn't work for them! I'm still looking though...

And no, I am not in the Army. I am a federal contractor. I have an 8 month contract in Iraq.

What is the info?! I'm very curious now.

And I completely understand what you're saying about being laughed at. I've been here for a little over a year and the environment of this board has changed. It bothers me, but I try to still use the valuable info I get from here everyday to help me better take care of my hair. I just try to ignore the negative comments and steer clear of being a target of some of them by keeping my opinion about things to myself.

Anyway, while we're waiting for this now infamous (don't know why yet) thread to begin, can you PLEASE start another thread about your info like you said? PLEASE. Just by looking at this thread alone I know there are open-minded ppl on this board who won't laugh, but research and take into consideration what you have to say. We're ALL here to help each other! Like someone said b4, others not on the board already think we're crazy so let us crazy ppl help each other! lol. If not, can you PM your new info to me?!

OT: you're leaving for Iraq?! Wow. are you in the army or something?

ETA: I just saw the new thread you made... I'm guessing this is the info you were talking about?

 

[Enchantmt]

And no, I am not in the Army. I am a federal contractor. I have an 8 month contract in Iraq.

OT but Wow...once you get there let us know what the atmosphere is like and try to post pics. We get so much contradictory info on the news, it would be nice to hear some first hand info about the general climate and attitudes of the people. Keep in touch and be safe. I will keep you in my prayers for a safe journey and safe return.

 

[TwistNMx]

What is this all about?

 

[Impresaria]

Thanks Enchantment! I will stay safe and prayed up, any extra love sent my way is fine with me. I'm laughing because we can't be off topic if there is NO topic! LOL....I will definitely let you know the deal. My DH is already over there...he has been there, also as a contractor for about 2 months now. He encouraged me to apply for a job over there, telling me that it is not anything like what I think it is. I trust my DH and know that he would not even suggest me going anywhere where I'll be in danger. So I grabbed the bull by the horns and off I go!! I have a blog where I've been running my mouth, please ignore my insanity, and I have some pictures posted that DH has sent me. He's sent me much more. I will definitely be updating my blog with life, as I live it, in Iraq with LOTS of pictures. Here's the blog link...tread carefully! LOL

www.spicedtee.blogspot.com

OT but Wow...once you get there let us know what the atmosphere is like and try to post pics. We get so much contradictory info on the news, it would be nice to hear some first hand info about the general climate and attitudes of the people. Keep in touch and be safe. I will keep you in my prayers for a safe journey and safe return.

 

[hopeful]

in my opinion and im thinking about blossoms posts and everyone elses and im guessing the breaking point was the monistat wasnt it?

thats the breaking point for me as well..i think that was the most ridiculous thing ive ever heard (not meaning to knock it for those who actually try it) i think we as women of all colors, races, and backgrounds, need to realize most importantly that we define ourselves. not other people. society makes us afraid of ourselves- of our big lips, our overly curvy bodies, our wavy hair, our skin color...we get scared. we dont want to be thought of as anything less than beautiful. we dont want to be considered outcasts because people dont understand our beauty.

i guess the breaking point for me was weave. ive never been a fan of it and ive asked men of all different races (for general consensus) and all of them agreed that theyd rather have a natural woman not afraid of her hair or her beauty than to have someone with synthetic beauty (once again not attempting to talk down at anyone just a personal experiment)...i think the first step of acceptance for us is to realize, acknowledge, and adore what you have. body- hair-- anything. a man may say he wants a women with long hair etc., but the thing is if they dont love you anyways, all that crap about having long hair didnt matter from the beginning.

i think the second step is to nuture yourself and your image. nuture the way you look. start taking pride in yourself for who you are. you may already be confident with relaxers, growth agents, etc., and thats fine if it works for you. but realize that doesnt make you who you are. and anyways, youre beautiful without it.

id rather be stuck with my nappy ass hair that wont ever grow than to be something im not- im not straight naturally...i dont even know if im meant to have long hair genetically. but instead of struggling to be happy with myself, i want to start now from the inside and then work my way out..

Me too Meia. I really liked your post.

 

[hopeful]

Wouldn't it be funny if this was all a joke? What if Blossssom was pulling our legs and just wanted to get us talking? Even if she says nothing on Wednesday she has already done plenty for a lot of us. Thanks Blossssom . I'm tired of striving for long hair. It's exhausting. I have already achieved what I wanted when I came here. I wanted my hair to stop breaking off in the nape area. That's it. Well it's no longer breaking and it healthy and growing. But somehow it's so hard to be satisfied when I see so many people with hair flowing down their backs. I do not feel satisfied. In all my life I never even dreamed it possible for me to have shoulder-length hair, not to mention armpit, bra-strap, waist-length. Just because it may be possible does not mean it should be so consuming. I achieved my goal damnit and I should be proud and I should be happy. I'm gonna focus on that for li'l bit and just be grateful I have healthy hair, that I'm alive, that I haven't been through a hurricane, that I haven't lost a loved one in Iraq... For just a li'l bit I'm going to be satisfied with my 4 or 5 inches of thick, texturized, 4a/b, healthy hair. Tomorrow morning I'm going to smile just a little more. God bless all of the ladies with really long hair and maybe one day it'll be me too but until then I ain't got no reason not to be proud and happy.

 

[TigerLily]

I hear ya, hopeful! I agree!

 

[caligirl]

Wouldn't it be funny if this was all a joke? What if Blossssom was pulling our legs and just wanted to get us talking? Even if she says nothing on Wednesday she has already done plenty for a lot of us. Thanks Blossssom . I'm tired of striving for long hair. It's exhausting. I have already achieved what I wanted when I came here. I wanted my hair to stop breaking off in the nape area. That's it. Well it's no longer breaking and it healthy and growing. But somehow it's so hard to be satisfied when I see so many people with hair flowing down their backs. I do not feel satisfied. In all my life I never even dreamed it possible for me to have shoulder-length hair, not to mention armpit, bra-strap, waist-length. Just because it may be possible does not mean it should be so consuming. I achieved my goal damnit and I should be proud and I should be happy. I'm gonna focus on that for li'l bit and just be grateful I have healthy hair, that I'm alive, that I haven't been through a hurricane, that I haven't lost a loved one in Iraq... For just a li'l bit I'm going to be satisfied with my 4 or 5 inches of thick, texturized, 4a/b, healthy hair. Tomorrow morning I'm going to smile just a little more. God bless all of the ladies with really long hair and maybe one day it'll be me too but until then I ain't got no reason not to be proud and happy.

Amen to that!

 

[esoterica]

This sure is a long thread considering Blossssom hasnt actually said anything yet.

 

[MzTami]

Wouldn't it be funny if this was all a joke? What if Blossssom was pulling our legs and just wanted to get us talking? Even if she says nothing on Wednesday she has already done plenty for a lot of us. Thanks Blossssom . I'm tired of striving for long hair. It's exhausting. I have already achieved what I wanted when I came here. I wanted my hair to stop breaking off in the nape area. That's it. Well it's no longer breaking and it healthy and growing. But somehow it's so hard to be satisfied when I see so many people with hair flowing down their backs. I do not feel satisfied. In all my life I never even dreamed it possible for me to have shoulder-length hair, not to mention armpit, bra-strap, waist-length. Just because it may be possible does not mean it should be so consuming. I achieved my goal damnit and I should be proud and I should be happy. I'm gonna focus on that for li'l bit and just be grateful I have healthy hair, that I'm alive, that I haven't been through a hurricane, that I haven't lost a loved one in Iraq... For just a li'l bit I'm going to be satisfied with my 4 or 5 inches of thick, texturized, 4a/b, healthy hair. Tomorrow morning I'm going to smile just a little more. God bless all of the ladies with really long hair and maybe one day it'll be me too but until then I ain't got no reason not to be proud and happy.

Amen Sista. For years I have been criticized and teased about my skin complexion because I was the light skin of the family. I remember I would sit in the sun for hours to become darker so that I can fit in with my siblings. All I got was a face full of pimples.

I was tired of men and women referring to me as yella bone, red bone, high yella, red devil, yellow devil, and the most hated name of all "red."

It wasn't until I met my husband that I have learned to tolerate my complexion. I say tolerate because I hated it. People made me hate my complexion. One day, I was paying to put gas in my car and the cashier looks at me and says "oh look John(white guy) she has freakles just like you." ha ha ha. Man I was pissed when she said that. Then about 2 months later she said something smart to my husband and I had to go in and tell her a**off. I was still pissed off about the freakles comment.

It still affects me today but I realized that I can never be brown, blue, purple, green or pink. I can only be what God made me to be. I've learned to take criticism from ignorant people like a grain of salt. Today, I am content with who I am. Tomorrow, may be a different story. Therefore, I live for the moment and enjoy it while it last.

I know this is off topic***

 

[MzTami]

Dang I should have went to the off topic discussion for all of that.

 

[hopeful]

Dang I should have went to the off topic discussion for all of that.

Girl you are funny. The trip though is that I was called high yellow too throughout grade school. It was very painful to be hated for something I had no control over. I'm over that now but just wanted you to know that I went through the same thing.

 

[Nightingale]

bumping back up.

 

[MJ]

Okay, it's Wednesday, where is Blossom?

 

[CandiceC]

Okay, it's Wednesday, where is Blossom?

Right! Where are you? It's almost time for the main event.

*Grabs popcorn and waits for the image of Blossssom in her robe as she approaches the ring.*

Let's get ready to rummmble!

 

[rai]

This sure is a long thread considering Blossssom hasnt actually said anything yet.

LOL! I'm waiting for her to come.

 

[Enchantmt]

Technically she has until midnight.

::runs out the thread, ducking the flying tomatoes::

 

[Cinnabuns]

*taps fingers and waits*

 

[Queenie]

Blosssom, um Bloooosssssssssoooooomm where are you???

 

[rai]

Technically she has until midnight.

Midnight where? I'm sure it's midnight in some country!

 

[kedra70]

Um Blosssom, go ahead chile -- you got the mic ...

Kedra

 

[sugaplum]

The "Waiting patiently".....IS OUT THE DOOR!!

Don't let me have to drive down there Blosssom.

 

[pink_flower]

I rarely see Blossom post during the day,so yall may be waiting awhile...

 

[MeccaMedinah]

someone bust out the 'Google' search and see where Blossom is posting today!!!