I do not like the term "Nappy/Natural Nazi". Why? Due to the historical significance of Nazism I do not think the term should be used lightly. I do not think that the relaxed/natural debate is so serious that it is on par with Nazism. I feel the same way about the word "lynch" being used in casual conversation. The historical significance is acute and I don't think the word should be played with under any circumstances.
Yes, I think all women should step away from the relaxers. And, yes I believe that the continued use of relaxers only supports the prevailing idea that natural hair is ugly and unacceptable. But, just by saying that I'm considered a "Nappy Nazi" and I think that characterization is unfair and uncalled for. I have never entertained the idea of killing someone because of their hair choices so to lump me in with a group of people who encouraged, supported, and carried out the murders of millions of people is just wrong.
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Regarding the bolded above: I feel that the problem is
not relaxers, but the way people generally think about nappy hair. I get that many feel that wearing relaxers promotes the idea of shame in one's natural hair, but really that supposed shame is only the result of the bigger problem: It's all about the negativity associated with type 4 hair as in bad hair, pelo muy malo. The hair itself, relaxed or not relaxed. Having relaxed hair does not give you the 'good hair' pass in society. It just gives you 'bad' hair that has been straightened. This concept of bad hair
period is what needs to change & could change as society begins to become more aware of
healthy (
keyword) type 4 hair whether relaxed, fully natural (especially natural) or somewhere in between.
I truly believe that if
everyone (all races) in the whole world had always had type 4 hair, someone
still would have invented the straightening comb, relaxers, curls etc. Why? People like to experiment, be different, see something new, play, manipulate hair & styles. There would still be people with long hair fetishes, and those love short & sexy styles. Some people would like wearing their hair tighter coils, and others with looser coils. Some would like it straight, others would like braidouts. Diversity is a beautiful thing.
That is why I think there should be more focus on
healthy hair of all types, straightened with relaxers or not. Think about it, even 100% naturals straighten their hair with heat every now & then, not cuz they believe straight is better, but it is something different to do. Relaxed heads are the opposite & sometimes manipulate their hair to mimic natural hair. Each can wear hair as they want the majority of the time, & when bored, change the hair.
The anger & frustration in the naturals vs relaxed argument really needs to diverted into more positive energy aimed toward changing the mentality that type 4 hair is bad & showing the world how
healthy, versatile, & lovely type 4 hair can be NO MATTER HOW THE PERSON WANTS TO WEAR IT IN THAT MOMENT.