The True Meaning Of Marriage

[FemmeFatale]

So my mom had surgery (a hysterectomy) this past week and it was just absolutely amazing to see how my dad made sure that everything was taken care of. I know that is what husbands and wives are supposed to do but it was just very special to see it in action.

My parent have been married for 34 yrs and together for 36 yrs, I am one of five siblings and I'm the middle child, two of my siblings live out of state so they haven't been able to come visit yet, I had to work the morning of my mom went in but I was there as soon I got off, my baby sis had school and her SAT prep course to attend so she was unable to attend until later on that day. My dad was the one who took off for the rest of the week and was in the hospital from beginning to end. He even insisted in spending the night but my mom told him to go home He made sure she had everything, he took all her calls, directed everyone and even answered the doctor's questions when my mom was unable to.

I say all this to say, at the end of the day when the kids are all grown and living away from home, that spousal support is really something beautiful and special. To have that partner there for you through sickness and in health is truly amazing. Now I understand why the bible says that the husband (or wife) come before the children.

It also makes me wonder how do single people do it ?

 

[TayMac]

That's very sweet.

 

[UrbainChic]

I agree. My Dad is not perfect, but the way he took car of my mother while she was dying showed me what real love was.

 

[Transformer]

Congratulations to your mom and thank you for sharing this story. I've been married about the same length of time but know DH would not have taken off work and would have lost the directions to the hospital even though he has navigation in his car.

 

[FemmeFatale]

Congratulations to your mom and thank you for sharing this story. I've been married about the same length of time but know DH would not have taken off work and would have lost the directions to the hospital even though he has navigation in his car.

You'd be surprised what men remember when their heart (wives) are in distress

 

[FemmeFatale]

I agree. My Dad is not perfect, but the way he took car of my mother while she was dying showed me what real love was.

Aww that is just so amazing. I'm sorry about your mom UrbainChic :hugs:

It was weird yet adorable when my mom started instructing my dad on where to find the dinner that she prepared the night before the operation. I was like come on mom, you just had surgery.. he is worried about food now .

 

[Transformer]

You'd be surprised what men remember when their heart (wives) are in distress

I wish that was the case but been there done that.

 

[isioma85]

It's true. I have memories of my mom and dad not having a problem free marriage (who does) but when my mom was sick with hyperthyroidism and some amateur nurse was starting an IV on her arm and kept poking and poking and my mom is normally tough but she started crying because it hurt My dad walked up to the nurse and said You need to step away from my wife and stop hurting her. NOW.

Same thing when I went home to visit and accidentally ate what I thought was leftovers but was actually my dad's food in the fridge. My mom almost ran me over. What is my husband going to eat when he comes home from work? You want him to be hungry, eh?

 

[naturalmanenyc]

And that is exactly how it should be. I've seen this with friends and family, usually during difficult pregnancy or illness. My uncle was very similar when caring for his wife with MS. He was always super nurturing but when she took a turn for the worse, he retired to take care of her.

 

[moneychaser]

My father is in hospice and through all his suffering his major concern is making sure my mother will be okay once he leaves us.
A couple of weeks ago he shared his last wishes with my husband and most of them were revolved around ensuring my mothers well-being (making sure he shoveled her driveway during snow storms etc.) It really touched me.

 

[Lucie]

That is beautiful. What a blessing and tremendous example set out for you and your siblings.

 

[Rainbow Dash]

Very sweet. I love marriage. This is how marriage should be. Thanks for sharing.

 

[*5+5]

How beautiful!! My Mother had a stroke 3yrs ago and my Stepdad treats her like a baby in a good way...it's so amazing to watch.

He's very overprotective of her and does everything for her even tho' she's able. He's a great man, I nudge her and tell her that all the time.

 

[FemmeFatale]

My father is in hospice and through all his suffering his major concern is making sure my mother will be okay once he leaves us.
A couple of weeks ago he shared his last wishes with my husband and most of them were revolved around ensuring my mothers well-being (making sure he shoveled her driveway during snow storms etc.) It really touched me.

This made me tear up, that is beautiful.

 

[SoniT]

My dad is the same way. My mom has a lot of medical issues and my dad has been there for her through it all. He takes her to all of her doctor appointments, dialysis, and when she was in the hospital he was there every day. He's definitely been there "in sickness and in health." They celebrated their 45th anniversary in August.