Here is a chapter from the book the Power of Prayer to Change your Marriage. The chapter is the first chapter " If Communication Breaks Down"
http://www.familychristian.com/chapters/58024.pdf
Here are the prayers from that chapter, I pray that this will be a blessing: (kinda long)
PR AYERS FOR MY MARRIAGE
Prayer for Protection
Lord, I invite Your presence to dwell in our marriage. I pray
that You would protect my husband (wife) and me from any kind of
breakdown of communication. Enable us to always share our thoughts
and feelings and refuse to be people who don’t talk. Teach us to trust
each other enough to share our deepest hopes, dreams, fears, and
struggles with one another. Help us to spend time communicating
with You every day so that our communication with each other will
always be good. Teach us how to openly express love for one another,
and keep us from any laziness or selfi shness that would cause us to
neglect to do that. Help us to refuse to speak words that tear down,
but only words that build up (Ephesians 4:29).
Deliver us from any temptation to lie to each other about anything
or deal falsely with one another (Leviticus 19:11). Help us to
be totally honest and open about everything. Teach us to speak with
truth, wisdom, instruction, and understanding. We don’t want to
be “always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the
truth” (2 Timothy 3:7).
Teach us to listen to one another and recognize the signs in each
other that give us greater understanding. Help us fi nd things we enjoy
doing together so that we will grow closer and not apart. Enable us to
be able to communicate love, appreciation, and honor to each other
at all times. Teach us to recognize the enemy’s plan to steal, rob,
and destroy our marriage. Enable us to understand his methods and
see his attempts to stir up strife and miscommunication between us.
Help us to take instant authority over any attack he brings against
us—especially in the area of communication. Help us to settle all
matters of disagreement between us in a loving, compromising, and
considerate manner. Enable us to always be in unity with You and
with each other. In Jesus’ name I pray.
Prayer for Breakthrough in Me
Lord, I invite Your presence to dwell in me and change me where
I need to be changed. Reveal any times where I have not said the right
words or communicated the right things to my husband (wife) and I
will confess it as sin, for I know I fall far short of Your glory (Romans
3:23). Teach me how to communicate openly and honestly so I will
speak excellent, right, and truthful words (Proverbs 8:6-9). I know
I cannot live in Your presence if I don’t speak the truth in my heart
(Psalm 15:1-3). Take away any deceit in my heart and any perversity
in my mind so that evil will be far from me (Proverbs 17:20).
I pray that Your love will be so much in my heart that it comes
out in everything I say. Give me the right words for every situation.
Help me to remember to show appreciation to my husband (wife)
for the good things he (she) does. Open my eyes if I am not seeing
all of them. Give me ears to really hear what my husband (wife) is
saying so that I can bear some of his (her) burdens by simply listening.
Make me quick to hear and slow to speak (James 1:19). Give me the
wisdom to have a good sense of timing.
Lord, You are greater than anything I face and stronger than all
that opposes me and our marriage. Thank You that You have given
me authority over the enemy. I pray I will always recognize his hand
in our lives so that I will not allow any of his evil intentions to disrupt
us. I pray that “my mouth shall speak wisdom, and the meditation
of my heart shall give understanding” (Psalm 49:3). I thank You in
advance for the answers to my prayers. In Jesus’ name I pray.
Prayer for Breakthrough in My Husband (Wife)
Lord, I thank You for my husband (wife) and pray that You
would open his (her) heart to all that You have for him (her) and
for our marriage together. Help him (her) to know You better, to
understand Your ways, and to see things from Your perspective. Help
him (her) to view the two of us the way You do. Make changes in
him (her) that need to be made so that nothing will hinder him (her)
from fulfilling the purpose and destiny You have for his (her) life and
our lives together.
Lord, fill my husband’s (wife’s) heart with Your love so that it
overflows in the words he (she) speaks. Help him (her) to understand
the consequences for any careless or hurtful words. Help us both to
be more discerning about what wounds the heart of the other. Speak
through us so that our words to each other will be Your words. Help
us to be instruments of Your peace and grace every time we speak to
each other. Convict my husband’s (wife’s) heart of times he (she) has
said words that have hurt me and did not glorify You. Enable him
(her) to speak words of life and not death, words that build up and
not tear down. Increase his (her) knowledge of Your ways so that he
(she) will refuse to speak negatively. Help him (her) to communicate
openly, and not allow a cold silence to exist between us.
Lord, help my husband (wife) to be honest about everything.
Convict his (her) heart about any lies he (she) has told me or anyone
else, and break down any thought in him (her) that lying is acceptable,
or that there are different versions of the truth. Strengthen him (her)
to resist the father of all lies and refuse to fall into any temptation to
lie (John 8:44). Help him (her) to stop all deceit (1 Peter 2:1). May he
(she) refuse to be snared by his (her) own words (Proverbs 6:2). May
there be no division between us, because we are of the same mind
and have the same good judgment (1 Corinthians 1:10). Where he
(she) has not communicated well in the past, help him (her) to do so
now. Thank You that You are our rock and our Redeemer, and You
can redeem all things (Psalm 78:35). In Jesus’ name I pray.