The Nerve of Her!

lovelexi

lovelexi

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I was at my job (work at subway restaurant. summer job ya know) making this lady a sandwich. She had orangish, reddish, brownish micro braids in her hair. She had noooo edges and her nape looked so bad. Her scalp and the braids looked so dry and disgusting. Now Im stretching my relaxer. My edges arent smooth and I've been wearing my hair in a messy updo with curls. Lady starts small talk saying that shes a stylist that works next door and that I should come in for a relaxer. She could get my hair on point. Im looking at her like...you, with non-existent edges and a dry scalp could get MY hair on point. Now part of me wanted tell her a piece of my mind but I just nodded and said I'd come check out the salon later secretly laughing and smh.
Sure enough I walk by the salon to see a bunch of bald headed chicks getting weave glued in. Hot irons frying the hair. And relaxers being combed through their strands. :nono:
Needless to say I wont be setting not even a foot through that door. The nerve of that woman! :lachen:
Any of you LHCF ladies ever encounter situations like this?
 
lol...I have had "offers of help" from well meaning folks. I usually just :look: and KIM.
 
lovelexi said:
Sure enough I walk by the salon to see a bunch of bald headed chicks getting weave glued in.
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:lachen:

Welcome to the natural world.....that is just one of many dumb comments to come.
When I first went natural I was in a pizzeria waiting for my order when an overweight balded head stylist from next door walked in. While we were both waiting she asks , while nodding, " you're getting your hair done?"
I said in a stern voice " i don't "DO" my hair."
("DO" = straighten)
 
I've been handed plenty of business cards from busted-looking chicks telling me they can give me a touch up.:rolleyes:
 
Sadly, she represents the majority. Any trace of NG, folks are ready to relax. I stretch for about 5-6 mos at a time, and was told that someone actually said that "I'm letting myself go." Clueless of the fact that "I'm letting myself grow" and retain length. Meanwhile, she can keep overlapping her relaxers and frying hers, while being stuck at NL.

ETA: She was speaking in reference to my hair, and that I needed to "get a perm quick."
 
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lovelexi said:
I was at my job (work at subway restaurant. summer job ya know) making this lady a sandwich. She had orangish, reddish, brownish micro braids in her hair. She had noooo edges and her nape looked so bad. Her scalp and the braids looked so dry and disgusting. Now Im stretching my relaxer. My edges arent smooth and I've been wearing my hair in a messy updo with curls. Lady starts small talk saying that shes a stylist that works next door and that I should come in for a relaxer. She could get my hair on point. Im looking at her like...you, with non-existent edges and a dry scalp could get MY hair on point. Now part of me wanted tell her a piece of my mind but I just nodded and said I'd come check out the salon later secretly laughing and smh.
Sure enough I walk by the salon to see a bunch of bald headed chicks getting weave glued in. Hot irons frying the hair. And relaxers being combed through their strands. :nono:
Needless to say I wont be setting not even a foot through that door. The nerve of that woman! :lachen:
Any of you LHCF ladies ever encounter situations like this?
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LOL thank uuuuuuuuuuuuuuu for the laugh
 
This happened to me when I went to the beauty supply store to buy Lekair when it was 49 cents.
Girlie is handing out her flyer for a salon and stops me before I enter the store. She said something to the effect that they could take care of my hair.
I said, I'm natural and I take care of my own hair.
She said I'm natural too. I just gave her and her weave an up and down look. I was just thinking, leave me alone but I did not want to be too rude.
She tells me that they can give me a deep conditioning.
I told her I do my own deep conditioning every week and that I had no plans to go to a salon until after my hair had grown past my behind.
She said, Oh and left me alone.
Yeah, Baby...I can take care of my own hair.
 
wow, that is a lot of nerve...you are nicer than i am 'cause i would have told her exaclty what i thought of the fake mess on her head!
 
I don't understand why you would approach somebody and it look like somebody just massacred your own hair?
 
These stories are making me laugh.....I've had a woman working at Wendy's hand me her business card to call her when I was ready for my touch-up. (I was transitioning). I looked at her hair (all jacked-up), smiled and took my food.
 
Pompous Blue said:
These stories are making me laugh.....I've had a woman working at Wendy's hand me her business card to call her when I was ready for my touch-up. (I was transitioning). I looked at her hair (all jacked-up), smiled and took my food.
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No offense at all to food workers... but maybe that's why she was working at Wendy's instead of doing hair :lol:
 
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I haven't encountered anything like this but the whole scenario you described at the salon is what scares me about a lot of 'stylists'.
That's the problem... they only care about styling the hair (real or fake) and making it look good. Hair CARE goes right out the window.
Everytime I go to a salon it saddens me to see a bunch of women getting tracks glued to their scalp or hair combed over to cover bald patches. And these hairdressers actually think they are helping to remedy the problem :nono:.
Over processing ladies' hair, using excessive heat, raking the comb through hair with excessive force. Seen it all. I could go on aswell.
Sometimes I wonder if they really have qualifications.
 
I don't have a problem with stylists marketing and trying to increase their busines but they need to have healthy hair themselves (I don't care about their length just the health), and they just need to advertise their services not suggest things that you should do to your hair before you even step foot in their salon or ask for their assisstance.
Like when you get a mani/pedi and they ask if you want your lip waxed too. No my upper lip is just fine but thanks for the insult.
 
vestaluv1 said:
I haven't encountered anything like this but the whole scenario you described at the salon is what scares me about a lot of 'stylists'.
That's the problem... they only care about styling the hair (real or fake) and making it look good. Hair CARE goes right out the window.
Everytime I go to a salon it saddens me to see a bunch of women getting tracks glued to their scalp or hair combed over to cover bald patches. And these hairdressers actually think they are helping to remedy the problem :nono:.
Over processing ladies' hair, using excessive heat, raking the comb through hair with excessive force. Seen it all. I could go on aswell.
Sometimes I wonder if they really have qualifications.
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I wonder the same thing. But I think its all one big cycle. They use all this excessive heat and force to get it to look straight but they know in about a week it will be a frizzy broken haired mess so then you'll have to come back. Its a business.
 
bimtheduck said:
I don't have a problem with stylists marketing and trying to increase their busines but they need to have healthy hair themselves (I don't care about their length just the health), and they just need to advertise their services not suggest things that you should do to your hair before you even step foot in their salon or ask for their assisstance.
Like when you get a mani/pedi and they ask if you want your lip waxed too. No my upper lip is just fine but thanks for the insult.
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I am over here dying laughing! This is an awesome thread!!!!
 
bimtheduck said:
I don't have a problem with stylists marketing and trying to increase their busines but they need to have healthy hair themselves (I don't care about their length just the health), and they just need to advertise their services not suggest things that you should do to your hair before you even step foot in their salon or ask for their assisstance.
Like when you get a mani/pedi and they ask if you want your lip waxed too. No my upper lip is just fine but thanks for the insult.
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I'm SAYING!! I get the whole up sell and promote...run your business hunny!! Butteerrrruhmmmmm...I'm gonna need for folk to TRY to refrain from force feeding me your services while simultaneously putting me down. My eyebrow lady?? It NEVER fails that she is on me about MY upper lip...LADY!!! If you don't get somewhere and GET with it!! I finally told her one day the hair is keeping my upper lip warm...

But I digress...

That has ALWAYS been my issue with stylist (hair and nails alike):: Them not knowing what constitutes ADVERTISING versus straight up/dormant insult. And them not knowing they are a walking billboard for their services. Looking better does not automatically make you better at what you do, but it makes it more believable. How hard is that concept to grasp??


~S~
 
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Shananyganz said:
I'm SAYING!! I get the whole up sell and promote...run your business hunny!! Butteerrrruhmmmmm...I'm gonna need for folk to TRY to refrain from force feeding me your services while simultaneously putting me down. My eyebrow lady?? It NEVER fails that she is on me about MY upper lip...LADY!!! If you don't get somewhere and GET with it!! I finally told her one day the hair is keeping my upper lip warm...

But I digress...

That has ALWAYS been my issue with stylist (hair and nails alike):: Them not knowing what constitutes ADVERTISING versus straight up/dormant insult. And them not knowing they are a walking billboard for their services. Looking better does not automatically make you better at what you do, but it makes it more believable. How hard is that concept to grasp??


~S~
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:lachen::lachen::lachen: i would have looked at her with a blank stare like...hmmm

its so bizzarre what our ppl consider unkept hair..new growth is a beautiful thing...it means ya hair is growing...

lmaooo ppl with no edges kill me--wtfudge

C'MON SON:ohwell: doo doo braids..ugh



lovelexi said:
I was at my job (work at subway restaurant. summer job ya know) making this lady a sandwich. She had orangish, reddish, brownish micro braids in her hair. She had noooo edges and her nape looked so bad. Her scalp and the braids looked so dry and disgusting. Now Im stretching my relaxer. My edges arent smooth and I've been wearing my hair in a messy updo with curls. Lady starts small talk saying that shes a stylist that works next door and that I should come in for a relaxer. She could get my hair on point. Im looking at her like...you, with non-existent edges and a dry scalp could get MY hair on point. Now part of me wanted tell her a piece of my mind but I just nodded and said I'd come check out the salon later secretly laughing and smh.
Sure enough I walk by the salon to see a bunch of bald headed chicks getting weave glued in. Hot irons frying the hair. And relaxers being combed through their strands. :nono:
Needless to say I wont be setting not even a foot through that door. The nerve of that woman! :lachen:
Any of you LHCF ladies ever encounter situations like this?
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OMG. I wasnt going to say anything but last night I went to get a weave sewn in as a PS.
My hair is about 12months post and my texture is 4b. I made sure to wash and air dry my own hair (last time she washed it, ripped through the tangles and blowdried it with a comb at the end causing more damage. THis is something I've always allowed stylists to do, thinkin that's just what I had to do to get my hair done...smh)

So last night she tried to blow dry it, I did not let her and she told me how I was just damaging my hair because if she braided my hair as it was, it was going to "dreadlock" under the weave (???).
When I mentioned possibly texlaxing, using essential oils for my scalp condition, using sulfate free products, or using jheri juice (which does wonders for my dry hair) she is full of negative comments!
If I hadnt done my research on this forum, I would have felt discouraged.

Did I mention her hair was extremely dry and ear and neck length?

I simply emphasized that I want my hair to grow and thus am focusing on doing things I have never done before to get what I've never had before.

I know this is off topic, but its an example of how listening to other ppl can be discouraging but how having this forum for support can ensure that we are on the right track......*sigh*
 
I have had this happen to me before. I was in Sally's buying some hair rollers and as soon as I stepped out of the store this lady walked up to me and said that I needed to pay her a visit. (I was 4 months post at the time with my hair in a bun) I allowed her to have 2 minutes of my time so she could explain what she could "do for my hair". I told her that I would check her out another time as I was busy but there was NO way that I was gonna let someone near my hair and their head looked as if she were growing pubic hair for her edges...no thanks! :naughty:
 
Ozma said:
I've been handed plenty of business cards from busted-looking chicks telling me they can give me a touch up.:rolleyes:
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I get the ladies who tell me my hair would be so long if I straigthen it. I look at them and tilt my head to the side and tell them, my hair is already long unstraightened (Blink Blink). Then I walk away. What a dumb thing to say. UGH
 
WOW, glad you didn't fall for her okey doke!:rolleyes: Just because she's able to do hair doesn't mean she can do MY hair! Great thread!:lachen:
 
this thread is indeed awesome. When I was in school I had a few girls/friends who had hair breaking all over their shirts everyday, mad dandruff, one had NO EDGES, and it smelled like burnt hair everyday-- and they would try to give me advice. Now even then, I wasn't armed with lhcf but I knew some of that could not have been right. at all.

When a damn stylist chopped off a good few inches from my hair with the worst 'style' ever, that was when I found lhcf. it also seems to me that stylists are never ever able to give a cute style, but maybe that was just my luck.
 
One day while was dropping my kids at school, this little girl told her mother to give me a card..she's a stylist. They happened to see me again the next week after I straightened...they nearly tripped over each other looking...hilarious!
 
A friend of the family said she would help me braid my hair. (My hair was in old canerows that I was going to take out and do myself but I was in no hurry.) I said no thank you but then she had the nerve to tell me that I don't look pretty at all and that she can make my hair look really nice like hers.

Now this girl had braids that were tight and her hairline was forced to lean back, she had a draw back basically. My mum (i love her) said "H. have you seen your hair?" and then all was silence :giggle:
 
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