The Longer My Hair Gets

[BostonMaria]

This is year 6 of my HHJ and I definitely don't do as much as I used to. Since I'm in maintenance mode and am happy with MBL (but no longer than WL) I find that less is more.

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[Vintagecoilylocks]

I'm with you OP. I was going to flat iron my entire head at goal length but now I just don't desire to see my hair straight anymore. I'm on a no heat challenge for the entire year and I'm probably going to give up heat completely.

For me the process of using heat (i.e. blowdryers/flatirons) on my very kinky and fine strand hair feels too much like forcing it to do something that it just doesn't want to do. The amount of time it takes, the reversion right away, the potential for some breakage, and the dryness that happens with hair just makes it not worth it to me.

You hit on exactly how I felt years ago. I realized I did not appreciate my hair the way it was. As soon as it would get longer and healthy between relaxers( because I would eventually cut them out) back in the day I would run out and straighten it then wonder why it was not behaving. In actuallity it was behaving and I would then try to force it to be something it was not.

I have told this story before but here goes. I had a roommate who had
strawberry blonde red hair. It was 4 something. A giant head of frizz. Wet it was to her waist. I watched her do her hair one day and was wondering, why was I relaxing my hair but she was taking the time to deal with hers. It was beautiful. Not curly just frizzy. She braided it and bunned it during the day and when she went to disco's it was all over the place. That was long before it was stylish for a caucasion to sport their frizz. She showed me a photo of her afro when it was shorter. Thats when I started my journey back to understanding my natural hair. Took me two more mistakes with a wave perm to learn to let my hair alone and be beautiful natural and long.

 

[pre_medicalrulz]

I second this. I just said in another thread that I wont be stretching or taking length check pictures often. Maybe once a year around my birthday, that's all.

 

[ladysaraii]

This is a good thread. People keep trying to make me straighten my hair, but I have no interest in doing so. I have fine strands, so I really dont want to do anything to damage them and then I'd have to cut and start all over again. Ain't nobody got time for that.

If I want to length check, I'll just pull it straight or plait it to check.