BroadstreetBully
New Member
Here is something I've never understood. The new generation of independent women has society questioning the financial roles of men. Nowadays you have both men and women who feel that expecting a man to pay for dates and be the breadwinner in a household is too much.
Now today I was on the phone with a friend who has been doing the casual dating thing for a bit. She is coming across guys who are hesitant to spend money on dates. They say "paying for dates and spending money on women can become expensive. It's a lot of pressure on men." My friend is really starting to believe this. I'm coming across more and more people, men and women, who agree with this. They feel that this financial pressure is too heavy on men, and all women have to do is just sit back and enjoy being pampered.
I pondered this for a while and realized that this is absolutely not true. Consider this...
The Cost of Being A Woman
Hair products and salon trips
Manicures and Pedicures
Clothing for various occasions
Shoes to match clothing
Scented soaps, lotions, and body sprays from stores like BBW
Perfumes
Nice Bras and Panties, matching sets, a few sexy pieces
Methods of hair removal: depilatories, razors, and waxes (we have more areas to remove)
Makeup
Keeping eyebrows groomed
Skincare (peels, expensive skincare systems, scrubs, masques, anti-aging)
Accessories
Body Care (soft skin, feet, and hands)
Pressure to stay in shape after pregnancy
Painful methods of beauty such as waxing, tweezing, threading
We need tiny waists and toned butts
There is so much more. This doesn't include the time and energy it takes to do all of this. How long are many of our hair regimens? Men don't have 'wash days'. They drop a couple of bucks to get their hair cut and go on about their business.
If men feel like the burden of pampering a woman financially or being the breadwinner is too much, fine. They should be okay with us having unkempt hair, hairy legs, and busted skin. If they let us get away with wearing sweatpants and an oversized t-shirt everyday, well we can make things equal.
The point is, the cost of being a woman is worth being pampered. A real man knows this and has no problem doing what he can within his means. Aside from keeping up the outside, we are the mothers, the caretakers and homemakers. When a man is paying for a date, he is paying for your time. He is paying to get to know you, to look at your pretty face, smell your sweet perfume, peak at your manicured nails and toes, admire your outfit and accessories, stare at your perfectly styled hair--he's gotten his trophy for the afternoon/evening and she makes great conversation. Any man who gets that for free has truly gotten a bargain.
Don't feel guilty for expecting the same thing our mothers and grandmothers got with no question. I look at it like this--I can treat myself to a dinner and a good time at home with my pj's and head scarf on. If I have to get up and impress some guy, I should at least get some sort of meal.
Now today I was on the phone with a friend who has been doing the casual dating thing for a bit. She is coming across guys who are hesitant to spend money on dates. They say "paying for dates and spending money on women can become expensive. It's a lot of pressure on men." My friend is really starting to believe this. I'm coming across more and more people, men and women, who agree with this. They feel that this financial pressure is too heavy on men, and all women have to do is just sit back and enjoy being pampered.
I pondered this for a while and realized that this is absolutely not true. Consider this...
The Cost of Being A Woman
Hair products and salon trips
Manicures and Pedicures
Clothing for various occasions
Shoes to match clothing
Scented soaps, lotions, and body sprays from stores like BBW
Perfumes
Nice Bras and Panties, matching sets, a few sexy pieces
Methods of hair removal: depilatories, razors, and waxes (we have more areas to remove)
Makeup
Keeping eyebrows groomed
Skincare (peels, expensive skincare systems, scrubs, masques, anti-aging)
Accessories
Body Care (soft skin, feet, and hands)
Pressure to stay in shape after pregnancy
Painful methods of beauty such as waxing, tweezing, threading
We need tiny waists and toned butts
There is so much more. This doesn't include the time and energy it takes to do all of this. How long are many of our hair regimens? Men don't have 'wash days'. They drop a couple of bucks to get their hair cut and go on about their business.
If men feel like the burden of pampering a woman financially or being the breadwinner is too much, fine. They should be okay with us having unkempt hair, hairy legs, and busted skin. If they let us get away with wearing sweatpants and an oversized t-shirt everyday, well we can make things equal.
The point is, the cost of being a woman is worth being pampered. A real man knows this and has no problem doing what he can within his means. Aside from keeping up the outside, we are the mothers, the caretakers and homemakers. When a man is paying for a date, he is paying for your time. He is paying to get to know you, to look at your pretty face, smell your sweet perfume, peak at your manicured nails and toes, admire your outfit and accessories, stare at your perfectly styled hair--he's gotten his trophy for the afternoon/evening and she makes great conversation. Any man who gets that for free has truly gotten a bargain.
Don't feel guilty for expecting the same thing our mothers and grandmothers got with no question. I look at it like this--I can treat myself to a dinner and a good time at home with my pj's and head scarf on. If I have to get up and impress some guy, I should at least get some sort of meal.
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