Britt
Well-Known Member
Good topic. I met up with a friend that I use to hang out with years ago. Even then she was perpetually single. She's now in her late 30s and just found someone to possibly settle down with. She kept lamenting and stressing to me how long she's been single (well over 10 years) and that all the men have all been shyt. It's sad b/c even years ago we all wondered why she'd keep on attracting such crappy men. She complained even the men who were good on paper would turn out to be a bust. She's fairly attractive, well dressed, no kids, easily looks 31/32, smart, educated, independent, kind. She also goes out a lot. And I thought of LHCF and the whole visibility thing while single. This woman has tons of friends, goes out often, travels, etc, has online profiles -- she's visible.
Idk, I'd think someone like her who follows the dating protocols would have an easier time. Woman who are far less attractive w/ b!tchier attitudes have more men to pick and choose from. I just assumed since she was out a lot and run across men more she'd have options to choose from. I think my downfall was not coming across as many options that I was interested in so I settled down more quickly with someone who I thought would work out, and when it doesn't i'm quick to jump ship
In any event, like SmileyNY mentioned going forward I plan to get out my comfort zone and actually date date instead of settling down.
Idk, I'd think someone like her who follows the dating protocols would have an easier time. Woman who are far less attractive w/ b!tchier attitudes have more men to pick and choose from. I just assumed since she was out a lot and run across men more she'd have options to choose from. I think my downfall was not coming across as many options that I was interested in so I settled down more quickly with someone who I thought would work out, and when it doesn't i'm quick to jump ship
In any event, like SmileyNY mentioned going forward I plan to get out my comfort zone and actually date date instead of settling down.
erplexed 
. She went off in her British accent 
, it was like a scene from a dating show on MTV. Then she'd meet dudes and they'd stop calling her totally out the blue. Now many of her peers who are late 30s are either married or on there way there and she's dating a dude 11 years her junior simply b/c he's good to her and she kept telling me "Britt, ain't ish out here, I been out here for a long time and ain't ish out here". I told her to still keep her options O P E N. I asked her if she can't find any good fellow naija men and she said she can't find them either.
TRUTH!!! As I am going thru this online thang I am such the B, guys want to meet, but I am so like blah because I would rather just see an old flame have the D and be good for some time... 
