Thank you Sonce!

[cocoberry10]

I'm sorry, this was so inspiring, I just had to quote it in its own thread

MESSAGE TO EVERYONE STRUGGLING WITH STEREOTYPES OF BLACK HAIR: You cannot know what your hair capable of until you have mastered a good regimen and given things time. If your regimen is fantastic and four years have gone by and you're still neck length, then ok--now we can talk about losing all hope. Until then, letting the idea that 100% African hair cannot grow bother you is ridiculous. Speculating about genes when you have not yet done your part is pointless. All my life, I was told that I simply had hair that did not grow and I believed it. But when I went natural, I decided to just let my hair grow and see what it could do. I didn't even set any goals. Just took good care of it for the first time in my life, and let it show me what it was capable of. Almost two feet later, it's still growing. Stop the madness, do your part, and just let your hair show you what it is capable of.

 

[JustKiya]

Truth spoken, so clearly!!!! Ain't THAT the truth!

 

[*Happily Me*]

excellent!

sonce is so inspiring

 

[dlewis]

That's Sounce for ya. Tell it like it is.

 

[LaPaciencia]

Dig That!!!

 

[Evazhair]

Sticky material INDEED!
she definitely dropped some knowledge. If people would stop worrying about other people's hair and put that energy and focus on their own, they'd be 100% better off. It will be interesting to see who will heed her advice or continue to struggle. She laid it all out so there is really no excuse now.

 

[Lioness]

Wow.



Sonce's quote is something that a few black women that I know who think their hair can't be long need to hear.

 

[sonce]

Awwwwwwwwww OMG y'all need to give me a second to pick myself up off the floor because I just melted into a pile of goo. I get my own shout-out thread? Thank you so, so much Cocoberry and everybody who's posted. I'm about to break out in dance like this dude here:

Seriously, thanks guys. I've learned and continue to learn so much from this board, and I appreciate the love.

 

[LunadeMiel]

That's a lot of wisdom right there!!!

Now let me go back to stalking her fotki....

 

[Monigirl]

Amen!!!

 

[TaraDyan]

Excellent post, Sonce.

 

[PinkSkates]

I thanked you when I saw your post yesterday in that other thread. And I thank you again for sharing your knowledge and wisdom, 'cause it was desperately needed in that other thread!

 

[Cheleigh]

That's real talk.

It wasn't until I joined hair boards where I discovered that there were a whole bunch of "100%" black women who thought their hair wouldn't or doesn't grow. I've always thought black hair grew, and it was mostly bad hair care practices why some women's hair was broken and damaged.

Even now, I see some women doing really "questionable" hair practices on various hair boards, and then wondering why their hair isn't growing.

 

[AsTheCurlzTurns]

That is the straight up truth right there!!! Thanks so much Sonce for your wisdom on this!! Can a sistah say Hallelujah!!

 

[wonderstar]

I agree. She's very inspiring.............I checked her journals in her fotki last night and the one about length obsessed.......it's really deep.

 

[Guapa1]

Cosigning with everyone here. Sonce spits real talk and I look forward to her posts and her first post in her albums are always beautiful.

Let's not even start about her hair!!!

 

[CurliDiva]

Thanks Sonce!

This is so timely......we need to stop thinking (and speaking) DEFECT about our hair or any other area of our lives!

 

[naijamerican]

I totally agree. In fact, even this morning I was thinking about how eloquent Sonce is in her writing and how she drops real knowledge in all of her posts. I really enjoy reading whatever she writes as well as her insight. And the fact that she's a fellow Naija is a source of pride as well!

 

[dreysonsmommy2011]

I too agree

 

[JerriBlank]

Lightbulb moment for all that are focused everywhere else but on their own,or trying to FORCE something to work for them,just because it worked for others...like i was in the beginning of my journey.
I could have learned form this when i first joined

 

[temfash]

I totally agree. In fact, even this morning I was thinking about how eloquent Sonce is in her writing and how she drops real knowledge in all of her posts. I really enjoy reading whatever she writes as well as her insight. And the fact that she's a fellow Naija is a source of pride as well!

You know, keep repping for the Naija babes LOL.

 

[Lady Esquire]

AMEN! The stereotypical race threads are so friggin' tired!

 

[rosie]

I read this in the 100% black thread.

I agreed with it then and I agree with it now.

But that is not all she said.

First she stated the obvious...

MESSAGE TO EVERYONE STRUGGLING WITH STEREOTYPES OF BLACK HAIR: You cannot know what your hair capable of until you have mastered a good regimen and given things time. If your regimen is fantastic and four years have gone by and you're still neck length, then ok--now we can talk about losing all hope. Until then, letting the idea that 100% African hair cannot grow bother you is ridiculous. Speculating about genes when you have not yet done your part is pointless. All my life, I was told that I simply had hair that did not grow and I believed it. But when I went natural, I decided to just let my hair grow and see what it could do. I didn't even set any goals. Just took good care of it for the first time in my life, and let it show me what it was capable of. Almost two feet later, it's still growing. Stop the madness, do your part, and just let your hair show you what it is capable of.

Then she went on to break it down....

Let's do a checklist:

1) Is your regimen fantastic? (And I don't mean "is your hair soft" or "do you like the hairstyles you do"--I mean does your regimen protect the integrity of your hair? If you are seeing lots of broken pieces of hair every time you do your hair, the answer to this is no!)

2) How is your nutrition? (I fully confess that my nutrition is pretty terrible and I have been iron-deficient all my life with little adherence to the iron pills/diet I was put on. So, if my hair can grow, trust that those of you obeying doctors orders can grow some really nice hair).

3) How is your scalp? (Dandruff? Psoriasis? Ringworm? Dirt? Dryness? Unspecified irritation? All impede growth)

4) How long have you had your regimen and nutrition together? (Don't lose heart if you just got your act together last year or haven't even gotten it together yet) If you want BSL hair, take out a tape rule and measure the distance from your head to your bra strap. Then consider that your hair grows 1/2" a month on average even if you retain all your length. Has enough time passed? Seriously?

5) How was your hair when you got your regimen and nutrition together? (I cut off all the hair I had both while I was relaxing and a year and a half into my natural journey. None of the hair on my head has ever known abuse. Don't build your house on sand and then wonder why it won't stand.)

If you can say that you score 5/5 on this checklist and your hair has not grown to where it should be realistically, ok, then we can talk about genetics. The rest of us (including me--every week I learn something new here that I could have done better all this time!) have work to do!

What more can you ask for?

 

[wannabelong]

Now that's a post full of wisdom!!!

 

[Lebiya]

Amen Amen Amen!!!!!


GIRL DO THE DAMN THANG!!!!!!!!

..Your story truly inspires me – I will always use it at as motivation : )



Ya’ll please check out her fotki!!!!

 

[Ivie184]

YES!!! ITA THANK YOU VERY MUCH !!!!

 

[JustKiya]

I think her whole post should be a sticky, personally. SOmething that errybody who joins can read, because it puts things REALLLY clear, and REAL realistic.

 

[cocoberry10]

No problem Sonce! Your words helped me (I'm transitioning). We've got to appreciate what God gave us!

Awwwwwwwwww OMG y'all need to give me a second to pick myself up off the floor because I just melted into a pile of goo. I get my own shout-out thread? Thank you so, so much Cocoberry and everybody who's posted. I'm about to break out in dance like this dude here:

Seriously, thanks guys. I've learned and continue to learn so much from this board, and I appreciate the love.