Talking Everyday

[UrbainChic]

Are you the kind of person who needs to communicate with your SO everyday? All day?

Does talking everyday and all day have to happen right from the start to make you happy or is it something you prefer to ease into?

Is it something you never cared about before and now you do? Or the opposite: something you used to need but now you dont care so much?

Is it just your SO that specially makes you want to talk every day or is it just what you want and expect in a relationship regardless of who you're dating.

 

[MzLady78]

I haven't had a real SO in almost 5 years, but the people that I've been involved with since, we've been in the habit of communicating in some form everyday.

The only thing I don't like is that it's easy to get used to it, then when it doesn't happen, you feel off, like your day isn't complete. With this last dude, I was used to hearing from him first thing every morning by like 7:00. Then when he switched to the night shift, it became 10:00 or later, sometimes not until 1 or 2 depending on how much he had to do before he went to work.

 

[Rastafarai]

The only thing I don't like is that it's easy to get used to it, then when it doesn't happen, you feel off, like your day isn't complete

+1. I feel the same way.

OP, my SO and I communicate daily out of concern and to see how our day is going. He checks in to make sure I've arrived home safely as I often get in before he does. We don't talk every minute of the day or have several hours of long conversations as we see each other daily and all that talking can be done in person.

 

[FearlessNik]

I am. I think people in a relationship should talk at least twice a day. But I know I am clingy. I have a 'Edward and Bella' syndrome.

 

[UrbainChic]

I am. I think people in a relationship should talk at least twice a day. But I know I am clingy. I have a 'Edward and Bella' syndrome.

I am clingy as hell. Was discussing this with 2 friends yesterdy and all three of us like a ton of contact, but I realize not everyone is like that. It can be frustrating.

 

[natural_one]

This used to be an issue with me and my SO cause I don't need to talk to him everyday, and he couldnt understand why. We normally talk on thursday then spend Sat-Mon together and the rest of the time I might txt but most likely dont.... I have never been a phone person, so I try to avoid it at all costs.

 

[firecracker]

Every person and relationship is different. Checking in twice a day is ok for me unless we are coordinating something.

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

Not in a relationship so I don't know if my opinion matters (lol) but I'd run out of stuff to talk about (every single day). Give me a chance to miss you or have something interesting to talk about with you.

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[UrbainChic]

Not in a relationship so I don't know if my opinion matters (lol) but I'd run out of stuff to talk about (every single day). Give me a chance to miss you or have something interesting to talk about with you.

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See this is what i mean when I say everyone is different. In my mind I am thinking I just spent a whole day away from you i want to know the details of your day and I tell you all about mine. I mean even just a "hey I'm thinking of you" is enough to keep me happy. I just crave that contact. I need positive reinforcement. Lol i have come to terms with the fact that I am on the needier side of spectrum. Knowing this is helpful. In the past this kind of thing has caused relationship problems.

 

[hopeful]

I need lots of contact too. Dh calls me at least once a day from work just to say hi & chat about 5 minutes. It's funny I think he can't believe how important 5 minutes here and 5 minutes there can be to me.

 

[Teja]

I'm so happy I'm not the only Clingy person lol. I always need to talk to my SO atleast once a day and we still message during the day as well.This is really important to me and it really does suck. I got so used to it that now whenever for whatever reason we can't make it I feel slightly depressed!!

 

[blksndrlla]

I guess I am needy. I have to talk to him everyday! Not for long spurts, but everyday and generally throughout the day. We've only missed one day, ever.

Our normal schedule:

- good morning text.
- If I am up and ready, maybe a phone call while he drives to work.
- one or two random texts throughout the day.
- A call once he gets off or when I get done with my day. Generally not too long...
- goodnight text

We Skype about once a week. It is a LDR...but we try and see each other every week or so. We both have demanding lives, so the small communication throughout the day is something we need. I will say that the days he is off, he communicates with me A LOT...making me think he is needier than me I appreciate it. I like to be thought of...

 

[GeorginaSparks]

Not in a relationship so I don't know if my opinion matters (lol) but I'd run out of stuff to talk about (every single day). Give me a chance to miss you or have something interesting to talk about with you.

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Im the type of person that ALWAYS has something to say and he's not much of a talker but is a good listener. He can just text me "hey" and i could just go on and on. One time, he said im the only one he knows that will send 1 or more texts before he answers the 1st one.

I just have a lot to say

 

[Seeking8Rights]

No I don't, but he does. We could be in the same room and I wouldn't think twice about him not saying anything to me. Him just being near is enough.

 

[MsGoody531]

Hmmm...

My SO and I talk for hours sometimes because he works out in the field and I work from home a lot. When he tells me his blue tooth is about to die I get sad. LOL. When I go into the office we talk for about an hour or less. However, it just depends if stuff is going down. I too am the always have something to say or talk about. He is not much of a talker, but I have learned to make sure I ask "Dear how is everything going"? Any drama at work"? LOL He will be talking with a customer and they pop off and I will say " You tell them that WE don't do that and if they have a problem with it..." lol I am all interested in his job and I call myself is virtual assistant. When thing pop off he calls me and I am worked up as if it happening to me.

I know HE likes this a lot. However, he always reminds me that I wake up with stuff to talk about while he sometimes doesn't talk until he gets to work. I have calmed down a lot and sometimes can go all day without talking to him, but that turns into me talking for hours. LOL

 

[fluffyforever]

I don't think there has been one day in the last 6 years that I haven't talked to my SO at least 2x a day. When we are apart (I'm in a different city for school), we talk upon waking and before we sleep at the very minimum. We usually also talk when I'm done with class and he's done with work. We text each other a few times a day, will chat online or skype too.

When we are together in the same city, is pretty much the same, except since we live together we don't have to call each other since we can talk in person. We still text each other during the day when he is working.

I love our communication habits, but sometimes it gets really old fast. Like sometimes he gets off or goes to work at annoying times like 2am. He does not need to call me then, but he does without fail. I also get sick of him and feel trapped sometimes (not in a bad way, but just give me a break way), so I tell him not to call or text. But I usually give in at the end of the day and call him anyway because I miss him so much

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

Im the type of person that ALWAYS has something to say and he's not much of a talker but is a good listener. He can just text me "hey" and i could just go on and on. One time, he said im the only one he knows that will send 1 or more texts before he answers the 1st one.

I just have a lot to say

LOL, that's so cute!

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[delitefulmane]

I am VERY dependent!! Like another post said,I HAVE to talk to my honey everyday. If I don't I feel like something is missing from my day. Last week, I only talked to him once (on the phone but texted throughout the week) and I was soooo grumpy the entire week before I talked to him again! He just makes my day better.

Because our relationship is a LDR I crave a lot of constant communication. Like urbanchic said, I need positive reinforcement! I need to hear his deep voice call my name. We FaceTime/skype as much as we can because seeing how someone is feeling is different than them just telling you.

 

[greight]

Not in a relationship so I don't know if my opinion matters (lol) but I'd run out of stuff to talk about (every single day). Give me a chance to miss you or have something interesting to talk about with you.

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This is me. Currently dating someone though.

Guys have always told me to talk to them more or to reach out more often .

TBH, I prefer in person contact so I'm not the best with the phone. I guess I need to step my game up for 2012.

 

[sky_blu]

Also not in a relationship but I like to have constant contact. I guess Im another needy person LOL...Im not much of a phone person anymore but I will text you to death with my random thoughts and opinion questions I usually talk to my friend everyday, several times a day, and he sends me GM text just about every morning and more when Im mad at him LOL. We talk, text, skype

 

[Evolving78]

we talk, text, everyday, all day. we will keep in touch with each other even after we just left from each other. i miss him right now and we are texting back and forth!

 

[chocolat79]

Hmmm...I like SO to check in at least once a day. We're in different time zones with opposite schedules so it's really hard. I used to think that we had to talk every day, but then I realized, that some days I don't really have much to say, LOL. We tend to talk a few times a week, but LONG conversations. I'd prefer he text/call me at least once a day, but that doesn't happen all the time. But I'm okay with it as I adjust to my new environment. I was being extremely needy when I first moved, but I'm settling down now, so we're good.

 

[mspm]

My SO and I are currently in a LDR so we talk a few times a day. He likes to call me whenever he thinks of me. He has me on his bluetooth while he's driving, shopping, in work meetings (good thing I don't talk loud He absolutely loves it when I call and tell him how much I miss him. So ladies don't be afraid to call your men a lot. Secretly, they love it!

 

[LovelyRo]

Talking daily is a must for me! My BFF prefers not to talk to her boyfriends everyday and I find that sooooo weird! None of her boyfriends like it either.