BlackButterflyz
Don't waste the pretty...
Words cannot explain how overjoyed I am to have found this site!!!
Ladies, never in my life have I seen/experienced a group of females that are so positive and supportive (that’s why I don’t usually mess with females like that). If you haven’t figured it out yet, I’m new to this board, although I have been browsing through for quite some time now, and have learned a whole lot about hair (and let me tell you I was doing all the wrong things)…Aight, that enough of the sentimental stuff, here’s my story: (***Disclaimer: I am notoriously long-winded, so if you could care less how my hair got to be where it is now just skip down to CHAPTER 4)
Chapter 1- Beautiful beginnings
In the beginning, God made BlackButterflyz’s hair, and all was good. In other words, I used to have one nice head of hair –thick, healthy, soft (and relaxed at that). I wish I had pictures but I’m not very photogenic so, needless to say, I hate cameras.
Chapter 2- Fried, dyed and laid to the side
Then…I went away to school, and all hell broke loose. Whereas at home, I went to the Dominican salon religiously, at school I had to learn to do my hair my self because there wasn’t a salon (never mind a Dominican salon) in sight. This was a shock to the system because I was used to the convenience of having a Dominican salon on every corner (I’m from the Bronx, if you know what I mean).
Then…I did the unthinkable…I got my hair dyed (permanent highlights), and although they looked marvelous in the beginning- they eventually wrecked havoc on my hair. I mean within a year, you couldn’t even tell that I had had my hair dyed because all of it had broken off **sniff, sniff*
--ah well, I won’t be doing that again.
Chapter 3- Still haven’t learned my lesson
Well at college I continued to blowdry and flat iron my hair religiously. I learned to master the blowdryer, round brush, and flat iron like no other, and could have my hair looking like I just stepped out of a salon with just these three items (but I couldn’t roller set my hair if Jesus himself came down and commanded me to).. But this has been my downfall—sure it looks good, but looks are deceiving because, damn, my hair is damaged!! I might as well had set my *ish on fire cuz that’s what it looks like. It has been the same length for the past 3 years (and I hardly ever get it trimmed). Oh and did I mention that the water here at my school is hard too-- so you can add chlorine and calcium deposits to the roster- woohoo!!!!
Chapter 4- You live and you learn, and then find LHCF!!!!!
Well right now I’ve found this board and I must say that I am truly indebted to you ladies
(seriously, if you ever need a kidney or something, just PM me) because I have learned sooo much…I really like the vibe ya’ll got going and I feel like I know you guys…for instance, CaramelHonee, your hair is my goal- it is soo beautiful, SherryLove and Adrienne, ya’ll are my hair goddesses (nuff said)... and Tracy, I could only dream of having a color that looks so damn good and healthy!!!
So currently I have a long ass list of products to buy and try (thanks for enabling my PJism), and I think I have a set regime that will work for me. BUT>>>>my biggest problem is that not only am I a PJ, but I am also a heat junkie…
**standing up with one tear glistening in my eye, clutching tight my gold n’ hot bumper in one hand and blowdryer in the other** “Hi my name is Black… and I am addicted to heat” ….
“Hi Black”
….like I said before I love that just-outta-the-Dominican-salon-look, and I don’t know any other way to achieve it while I’m away at school except with a lot of heat…. And to add insult to injury (here comes a confession) I am extremely VAIN!!!! I love to wear my hair out and every hair has to be looking fly for me to even step outside…I mean I am so vain, I refuse to workout because I’ll only sweat my perm out in the name of one thing (and I ain’t talking exercise ladies
). I love to wear a doobie…. and protective styles like buns are just not my thing, because I have a very round face and don’t look very sexy with my hair back (as a matter of fact the only protective style I can tolerate are braids, which I’m rocking right now while I continue my hair research)..AS for braid-outs, tried them, but they always go limp by midday (I think my hair has been waaay overprocessed in the past)…So are there any other alternatives for me?
SO my questions to you ladies are…..
1. Is there any way to restore elasticity to your hair once it’s been relaxed bone straight (or is my hair just helplessly doomed)?
2. I want to start doing preshampoo treatments with EVOO, and I was wondering if it is better to put the EVOO on your hair when it is wet or dry? Has anyone tried both ways? What were your results?
Ok ladies sorry this was long but I warned you…oh here are the basics about me:
Hair type is mostly 4a with some 4b in the mix, I use Optimum no-lye relaxer, but I’m switching to Motions lye (Affirm is really not an option right now with my sad, sad college student broke ass), and my hair is currently at the bottom of my neck in the back and chin length in the front, and I have severe breakage near the nape of my neck.
HELP please!!!
BlackButterflyz
Chapter 1- Beautiful beginnings
In the beginning, God made BlackButterflyz’s hair, and all was good. In other words, I used to have one nice head of hair –thick, healthy, soft (and relaxed at that). I wish I had pictures but I’m not very photogenic so, needless to say, I hate cameras.
Chapter 2- Fried, dyed and laid to the side
Then…I went away to school, and all hell broke loose. Whereas at home, I went to the Dominican salon religiously, at school I had to learn to do my hair my self because there wasn’t a salon (never mind a Dominican salon) in sight. This was a shock to the system because I was used to the convenience of having a Dominican salon on every corner (I’m from the Bronx, if you know what I mean).
Then…I did the unthinkable…I got my hair dyed (permanent highlights), and although they looked marvelous in the beginning- they eventually wrecked havoc on my hair. I mean within a year, you couldn’t even tell that I had had my hair dyed because all of it had broken off **sniff, sniff*
Chapter 3- Still haven’t learned my lesson
Well at college I continued to blowdry and flat iron my hair religiously. I learned to master the blowdryer, round brush, and flat iron like no other, and could have my hair looking like I just stepped out of a salon with just these three items (but I couldn’t roller set my hair if Jesus himself came down and commanded me to).. But this has been my downfall—sure it looks good, but looks are deceiving because, damn, my hair is damaged!! I might as well had set my *ish on fire cuz that’s what it looks like. It has been the same length for the past 3 years (and I hardly ever get it trimmed). Oh and did I mention that the water here at my school is hard too-- so you can add chlorine and calcium deposits to the roster- woohoo!!!!
Chapter 4- You live and you learn, and then find LHCF!!!!!
Well right now I’ve found this board and I must say that I am truly indebted to you ladies
So currently I have a long ass list of products to buy and try (thanks for enabling my PJism), and I think I have a set regime that will work for me. BUT>>>>my biggest problem is that not only am I a PJ, but I am also a heat junkie…
**standing up with one tear glistening in my eye, clutching tight my gold n’ hot bumper in one hand and blowdryer in the other** “Hi my name is Black… and I am addicted to heat” ….
“Hi Black”
….like I said before I love that just-outta-the-Dominican-salon-look, and I don’t know any other way to achieve it while I’m away at school except with a lot of heat…. And to add insult to injury (here comes a confession) I am extremely VAIN!!!! I love to wear my hair out and every hair has to be looking fly for me to even step outside…I mean I am so vain, I refuse to workout because I’ll only sweat my perm out in the name of one thing (and I ain’t talking exercise ladies
SO my questions to you ladies are…..
1. Is there any way to restore elasticity to your hair once it’s been relaxed bone straight (or is my hair just helplessly doomed)?
2. I want to start doing preshampoo treatments with EVOO, and I was wondering if it is better to put the EVOO on your hair when it is wet or dry? Has anyone tried both ways? What were your results?
Ok ladies sorry this was long but I warned you…oh here are the basics about me:
Hair type is mostly 4a with some 4b in the mix, I use Optimum no-lye relaxer, but I’m switching to Motions lye (Affirm is really not an option right now with my sad, sad college student broke ass), and my hair is currently at the bottom of my neck in the back and chin length in the front, and I have severe breakage near the nape of my neck.
HELP please!!!
BlackButterflyz