Staying out of the OT and ENT forum

[Dee-Licious]

then staying out of those threads, or any threads that add to your insecurity, would be a good idea

Exactly. you can pretty much tell threads by their title. You don't HAVE to go into them.



Unless you're nosy like me and just HAVE to see what it is

 

[*Michelle*]

Yeah I'm pretty shy in real life AND on the internet...erplexed

Funny thing is I'm not shy. But for some reason to pm somebody is difficult to me. I will answer them though.

 

[StrawberryQueen]

This made me laugh!

Talking about Jesus keeps a sistah out of trouble!

I know what you mean, though.... I think what's interesting is that when there are hot topics on the Christian board, people are watching.... actually, more people are probably watching/lurking than realized....

Yes, it gets boring here because it's the same thing over and over. Prayer requests, look at my preacher (youtube), or what gospel song is this?

I like the discussion we have here, and even some of the debated. But the nature of this forum disallows that. Like the hip hop threads? I thought those were great.

You have to sit down and pray about it, and ask God to reveal it to you.
For example, if you went into one of the ET threads and there were pics of celebs looking absolutely flawless, in perfect makeup, hair jewelry, and clothing, it could make you feel insecure about yourself. BUT, you have to also remember, these are professional shots, many celebs have had cosmetic work done, they have professional makeup artists, personal trainers, chefs, stylists, etc. Therefore, even though they may/may not have natural beauty, they all also have lots of help! But if it affected you like this (not sure if it does), then staying away may be best for you.
Or if you were in OT and a topic say about race/interracial dating/color-complex came up, and you were sensitive about one of these topics (since all of these are favorites in there), then staying out of those threads, or any threads that add to your insecurity, would be a good idea

I agree.

 

[DreamLife]

Funny thing is I'm not shy. But for some reason to pm somebody is difficult to me. I will answer them though.

The only person I have really PM'd was during my adopt-a-newbie challenge...

I'm logging off as well...G'nite

 

[Xavier]

Thats a good thought. But when I ask for advice or vent (as I often do on LHCF)I often want a Christian perspective, scriptures, prayers, etc. But it is always a good idea to know and listen to others with different perspectives (something I had to learn the hard way in college).

I agree with you. Funny thing is this forum is made up of mostly Christians but when you post a thread that may bless someone or edify them it gets very little feedback. I had this happen to me just the other week. I was wondering where everyone was at after only getting about 5 responses. I would say maybe they weren't interested in the topic, but I was hoping for a Christian discussion on a particular scripture and was very disappointed but oh well

 

[deltagyrl]

I'm sorry, but this made me It's soooo true for me to!! I was all up in the booty-call commandments thread DECLARING new ones

I briefly visited that one and I was ALL up and down that Shemar thread several times.

I knew I was raggedy for that but I couldn't resist and I'm glad I looked.
God's still working on me....

 

[StrawberryQueen]

I agree with you. Funny thing is this forum is made up of mostly Christians but when you post a thread that may bless someone or edify them it gets very little feedback. I had this happen to me just the other week. I was wondering where everyone was at after only getting about 5 responses. I would say maybe they weren't interested in the topic, but I was hoping for a Christian discussion on a particular scripture and was very disappointed but oh well

Post a link to your thread please!

 

[deltagyrl]

This made me laugh!

Talking about Jesus keeps a sistah out of trouble!

I know what you mean, though.... I think what's interesting is that when there are hot topics on the Christian board, people are watching.... actually, more people are probably watching/lurking than realized....

Did it?

I'm just saying. There's only so many prayer request threads before the inevitable *crickets*.

I'd love to participate in some spicy christian threads.

 

[Xavier]

Maybe others were just not receptive to the way that I presented it. But I do hope that we would just maybe post scriptures that have blessed us or have brought revelation to us and we can have discussion about it as Christian women.

BTW, I may self need to work on what I have stated here today because I don't always do it my self.

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=135269&highlight=corinthians

 

[Dee-Licious]

Did it?

I'm just saying. There's only so many prayer request threads before the inevitable *crickets*.

I'd love to participate in some spicy christian threads.

hush!!!

 

[Blackoutzangel05]

There are just some topics that I don't feel compelled to answer to, like the one being discussed now. Some people's minds are set so harshly towards Christians that what others laugh off I take offense to. I believe that I will still circulate the OT thread because as someone mentioned you can give good wholesome advice there or share your past experiences to help someone.....I am truly going to have to be more discerning before opening my mouth over there though....a lot of posting have rubbed me the wrong way here lately.

 

[StrawberryQueen]

Maybe others were just not receptive to the way that I presented it. But I do hope that we would just maybe post scriptures that have blessed us or have brought revelation to us and we can have discussion about it as Christian women.

BTW, I may self need to work on what I have stated here today because I don't always do it my self.

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=135269&highlight=corinthians

I saw your topic, but I didn't feel as if I was in a place to properly answer it.

 

[Shimmie]

I'm having an internal debate about my participation in the OT and ENT forum, especially the OT forum. I enjoy this board and some of the threads in OT are very interesting. But for reasons i don't want to get into right now, I'm thinking about banning myself from those two boards. I know that some of you have made this decision as well, and I just want to know what your reasons were for doing so. Thanks ladies

P.S. This has nothing to do with anyone on this board. Since I have been here it's been pretty smooth sailing with everyone. I like all of the ladies. But I just am having this discussion with myself right now.

-Lisana

Lisana, you and the others who have shared the same as you are being led of the Holy Spirit. If you notice, I have not been there myself for several weeks. There are times when the Holy Spirit, tells us to 'pull away' to allow Him to 're-fill' us with more of Him.

We are still in need of HIS infilling and HIS dwelling on the inside of us. The world cannot give us the restoration of the Spirit such as He can. How else can we grow more in the Lord unless we pull away and be with and about Him. It's all about consecration...being single minded of the Lord and leaving the world behind.

This is not to speak negatively of anyone; for I have no ill will nor judgement. I still have as much love and respect for 'all' of us here, Christian or not. But as a Christian, the only way that I can remain nutured with the Holy Spirit is by the Holy Spirit. Hence, I come away to be focused upon the things of our God.

Again, you are being drawn by the Holy Spirit for He is seeking and calling upon those who will listen and yield to His call. How else do we become and remain in our Faith. People need our prayers and how else can we be prepared if we are drained and distracted from the things of our God.

Something else, God misses us and He's 'wooing' us back to Him for Holy Romance...sweet communion...one on one. Isn't that what a personal relationship with the Lord thrives upon? He loves us and misses having quality time to speak to us in the sweetest of fellowship. "Daddie" misses his sons and daughters...his precious children.

One more thing: Whenever there's a move about to take place, God calls and prepares those of His whom He knows are faithful to His call. Those who hear His voice and yield to it. Remember Noah? Abraham? Joshua? They heard, they listened, they obeyed.

"Whosoever will", let him come... Our faith is not a game. We have to be yielded when He calls us.

Love and Blessings...

 

[Bublnbrnsuga]

I have been contemplating this as well. It bothers me to see how many (mainly some Christians) believe that our 'narrowed beliefs' should stay in this forum and out of others.

As an older member, I remember why this forum was created. Folx got tired of seeing Christians beliefs in the OT forum, so they hooped and hollered. Once this forum was established in hopes of confining, they still hooped and hollered about why we got our 'own' forum.

 

[Bublnbrnsuga]

I'm a long time lurker and I'm having the same issue. I'm not sure why but sometimes I leave those boards and I just don't feel good. I'm not sure how to explain it and I honestly don't know why I feel this way...still trying to figure it out

Stealing Allandra's d-i-t-t-o.

 

[Bublnbrnsuga]

There are just some topics that I don't feel compelled to answer to, like the one being discussed now. Some people's minds are set so harshly towards Christians that what others laugh off I take offense to. I believe that I will still circulate the OT thread because as someone mentioned you can give good wholesome advice there or share your past experiences to help someone.....I am truly going to have to be more discerning before opening my mouth over there though....a lot of posting have rubbed me the wrong way here lately.

Exactly. It's interesting how others can freely express their views (especially when they agree with the majority) but when you back up what you believe with the Bible, the fangs come out. Sometimes you don't even have to mention the Bible, but just be known as a Christian and you are labeled judgemental, narrow minded, etc.

Another problem I have is when questions come up about a very hot topic and Christians answer them according to the Bible (or not). You can say, ' I don't agree with yadda yadda' and try to leave it there then others wanna know why you don't agree. You give them your reply and once again the fangs come out. I feel like this, if you asked, don't get mad at my reply.

 

[lisana]

Co-sign!

But I'm not sure what yall are talking about. What about the ENT and OT forums makes you not want to go over there?

It's not really about anything in particular about those forums. It's more about me. Thanks for the replies ladies

 

[lisana]

If I were you, I would PM some of the members that frequent the Christian board (i.e. Shimmie, RelaxerRehab, Lauren, others--I'm not trying to leave anyone out...and you can always PM me for those types of questions. I understand what you are saying though!

thanks, good idea

 

[lisana]

I'm a long time lurker and I'm having the same issue. I'm not sure why but sometimes I leave those boards and I just don't feel good. I'm not sure how to explain it and I honestly don't know why I feel this way...still trying to figure it out

excellent point, this is how I feel sometimes. But once again, it's more about me, personally and not about trying to think of my self as "better than" or anything like that. I appreciate your response.

 

[lisana]

gosh, giving me something to think about

I have a bag of Doritos next to my bed right now literally and sometimes figuratively

You guys are hilarious

 

[lisana]

Lisana, you and the others who have shared the same as you are being led of the Holy Spirit. If you notice, I have not been there myself for several weeks. There are times when the Holy Spirit, tells us to 'pull away' to allow Him to 're-fill' us with more of Him.

We are still in need of HIS infilling and HIS dwelling on the inside of us. The world cannot give us the restoration of the Spirit such as He can. How else can we grow more in the Lord unless we pull away and be with and about Him. It's all about consecration...being single minded of the Lord and leaving the world behind.

This is not to speak negatively of anyone; for I have no ill will nor judgement. I still have as much love and respect for 'all' of us here, Christian or not. But as a Christian, the only way that I can remain nutured with the Holy Spirit is by the Holy Spirit. Hence, I come away to be focused upon the things of our God.

Again, you are being drawn by the Holy Spirit for He is seeking and calling upon those who will listen and yield to His call. How else do we become and remain in our Faith. People need our prayers and how else can we be prepared if we are drained and distracted from the things of our God.

Something else, God misses us and He's 'wooing' us back to Him for Holy Romance...sweet communion...one on one. Isn't that what a personal relationship with the Lord thrives upon? He loves us and misses having quality time to speak to us in the sweetest of fellowship. "Daddie" misses his sons and daughters...his precious children.

One more thing: Whenever there's a move about to take place, God calls and prepares those of His whom He knows are faithful to His call. Those who hear His voice and yield to it. Remember Noah? Abraham? Joshua? They heard, they listened, they obeyed.

"Whosoever will", let him come... Our faith is not a game. We have to be yielded when He calls us.

Love and Blessings...

Thank you, Shimmie. That was a beautiful response. It really spoke to my heart

 

[foxxymami]

There are just some topics that I don't feel compelled to answer to, like the one being discussed now. Some people's minds are set so harshly towards Christians that what others laugh off I take offense to. I believe that I will still circulate the OT thread because as someone mentioned you can give good wholesome advice there or share your past experiences to help someone.....I am truly going to have to be more discerning before opening my mouth over there though....a lot of posting have rubbed me the wrong way here lately.

I agree with the bolded. At first I had comments to make, but I really just made a personal decision just to not open my mouth again about the topic. I've never commented in any of those particular threads and there is a reason for it. I feel much more comfortable expressing my beliefs/views here within this Christian forum instead.


Oh, and ITTA 100% with Bubln:

I have been contemplating this as well. It bothers me to see how many (mainly some Christians) believe that our 'narrowed beliefs' should stay in this forum and out of others.

As an older member, I remember why this forum was created. Folx got tired of seeing Christians beliefs in the OT forum, so they hooped and hollered. Once this forum was established in hopes of confining, they still hooped and hollered about why we got our 'own' forum.

I think that the main reason for this is that since the installment of the Christian forum, there have been tons of new members. They don't know the back story of why this forum was initially started and therefore don't recognize the need for it. In response they seem to carry an understated bitter and resentful attitude towards the exclusivity of Christianity on this board.

 

[Millahdoowop]

I was just browsing through and for the person who said that you are sometimes looking for a Christian perspective when asking questions, have you ever thought of going to an actual Christian board? I'm sure there are plenty if you google, just like any board that is geared to a certain topic or whatnot. Kind of like how you can google black hair and this board and several others come up.

 

[lisana]

Thank you ladies for all of the helpful responses

 

[deltagyrl]

I think that the main reason for this is that since the installment of the Christian forum, there have been tons of new members. They don't know the back story of why this forum was initially started and therefore don't recognize the need for it. In response they seem to carry an understated bitter and resentful attitude towards the exclusivity of Christianity on this board.

Didn't know this. Thanks for shedding some light.

 

[kweenameena]

I was just browsing through and for the person who said that you are sometimes looking for a Christian perspective when asking questions, have you ever thought of going to an actual Christian board? I'm sure there are plenty if you google, just like any board that is geared to a certain topic or whatnot. Kind of like how you can google black hair and this board and several others come up.

This is a good point. Although, sometimes you want to ask "family", not find a whole new set of people who don't really "know" you. Especially if it's a personal question. I know I love this forum because there are so many women here like me. I don't have to explain a joke, feeling, word so that someone understands. The women here just get it, sometimes

 

[lisana]

^^good explanation

 

[Blossssom]

I'm having an internal debate about my participation in the OT and ENT forum, especially the OT forum. I enjoy this board and some of the threads in OT are very interesting. But for reasons i don't want to get into right now, I'm thinking about banning myself from those two boards. I know that some of you have made this decision as well, and I just want to know what your reasons were for doing so. Thanks ladies

P.S. This has nothing to do with anyone on this board. Since I have been here it's been pretty smooth sailing with everyone. I like all of the ladies. But I just am having this discussion with myself right now.

-Lisana

I'm banning myself from the hair board When I need hair advice, I'm going back to the white folks

I hear what you mean, Lisana. On both the forums you mention, there is a lot of 'ungodly' activity going on and I can see as a Christian you don't even want that stuff filtered into your mind.

Nothing of interest is going on at OT and even the Ent. forum has been a little slow.

 

[kbragg]

I too stay out of those forums for a lot of the reasons mentioned. We as Christians should not involve ourselves in things God hates (Gossip, lust, fornication, etc.) We have to avoid the very appearance of evil and sometimes popping your head in Beyonce' thread can appear "worldy."

Bubblin, what you said doesn't surprise me at all. So many Christians want to be "seeker friendly" and go the extra mile so that the world "likes them" and so they don't "offend" anyone. But our very being offends them because they have not the Spirit of God. Jesus said we would be hated for His Name's sake and it's so true. Non-Christians are always calling Christians judgemental. Well that itself is a judgemental statement now isn't it? They say we're judgemental, and self righteous. Well I'm not self righteous, but I am the righteousness of Christ! Apart from Him I am nobody, nothing, but in Him I can do all things.

The fact of the matter is, they say those things about us because our lives and our testimonies convict them. They say we're condemning, but John 3:18 says they're condemned already by their sin. Jesus called us Salt and Light. Light exposes what's done in the darkness. Salt adds flavor, but it also heals wounds. When you put salt in a wound it irritates it. Now you know why atheists are so irritated by us It's because Jesus wants to use us to heal their wounded souls but it burns and irritates as it exposes and attempts to purge the sin from them.

So take heart, live for Christ and don't be ashamed of the Gospel. Don't appologize for the hope that is in you, just because it offends a sinner. It's not us that's offending them, It's God's Word. It's not us that's judging them, God has already judged the sin in their lives. We didn't write it. We're not self righteous, it's the righteousness of Christ in us that exposes their very own self righteousness which is as filthy rags to God.

Christians need to stop being spinless, limp wristed, compromising weaklings and be BOLD for Christ! People need to be loved yes, but sometimes love hurts, and stings, but it's the truth, and it's the truth that will set them free, not fluffy froo froo words that tickle their ears and silence their conscience. It's the Holy Spirit calling to them through us. Exposing the devil, stripping him bear and showing him for who he really is. It's time we stop playing babysitter and making light of sin, and time we put on the full armour of God and fight the good fight of faith. Notagainst flesh and blood, but against principalities and powers in high places!

I said AAAAALLLLLLL that to say, yes I feel the same way about the OT and ENT board.

 

[DreamLife]

This is a good point. Although, sometimes you want to ask "family", not find a whole new set of people who don't really "know" you. Especially if it's a personal question. I know I love this forum because there are so many women here like me. I don't have to explain a joke, feeling, word so that someone understands. The women here just get it, sometimes

Ditto...I think it would be nice to be a part of a Christian forum. But I like this forum, although I am semi-new I am comfortable seeking advice on this forum and wouldn't want to join anywhere else. I like being able to come on here, get my hair advice and check out this forum as well.