i ignore hate. i don't have time for that.
it gets worse when your hair is healthy and long and they are jealous of you.
let this phase you are in now prep you for the next phases. cus they are coming. it gets worse before it gets better.
the phases people go through and the things people say to you while you are on a healthy hair care journey
-natural or relaxed, doesn't matter----
DENIAL
1. you are so crazy. you need a perm! you look ridiculous.
(this applies to naturals or relaxed heads on a journey because most healthy hair advocates stretch relaxers longer once they start taking care of their hair. then friends want you to relax the roots because you must be crazy to stretch 12 weeks!)
2. i wish i would do all that stuff to my hair?! who has time? you are obsessed! (obsessed with protective styles, moisturizing, deep conditioning and using products that are good for your hair)
ANGER
3. my hair don't need all that. what's the point of having nice hair when it's in a bun all the time??!!!
(this person usually has no hair to speak of or the hair they have is damaged...but i digress)
4. your hair is getting long. what's you do to it? (usually this is said like an accusation, not a compliment. sometimes followed with "did you get a weave?" or "is that all your hair?!")
DEPRESSIONerplexed
5. silence------this usually happens as they start to see that it is YOUR hair that you grew from the scalp, they see your "craziness" is working, and they can't bear to do anything but watch you in awe. God forbid they compliment you. this phase lasts the longest.....
ACCEPTANCE
6. ummm who does your hair? i really need to start doing some of that stuff you do. girl, your hair really is just wow. how did you say you got it to grow and be so healthy? dang! i wish i could get my hair like that. would you mind helping me with some products or whatever? or maybe you can do my hair, you know i need some help. what can i do to make my hair like yours?
hang in there girl. you will have the last swang.....i promise!