CaraWalker
Well-Known Member
they all say it.
ive only heard it twice in a scenario involving a white guy i was dating. one was hanging out with his family, his brother was telling a story about some racist dude they met - actually it wasnt the n word, it was a slur i had never heard of at the time based on the n word. i was like wtf?
the second time is a guy im seeing off and on mainly as fwb, he said something about people hating the "n-words and the k-words" but used the words... he thought it was cool because he was obviously saying it in a context of like pointing out how awful other people are and also it was kind of a slight against himself as well because he is jewish. however, i dont want any white person saying that in front of me and i got serious real quick and shut it down. now he will not even say it in context around me (which is the consequence i wanted to invoke) and jokingly mentions how badly he was scolded last time he said it.
im of the position that i do not want to hear it, period, and you as a white person are simply not allowed to say it, period, no exceptions, no arguments about context or why or whatever. but the existence of it, i cant make that a hardline issue because its a part of our culture and i dont know who im supposed to date to avoid it?
ive only heard it twice in a scenario involving a white guy i was dating. one was hanging out with his family, his brother was telling a story about some racist dude they met - actually it wasnt the n word, it was a slur i had never heard of at the time based on the n word. i was like wtf?
the second time is a guy im seeing off and on mainly as fwb, he said something about people hating the "n-words and the k-words" but used the words... he thought it was cool because he was obviously saying it in a context of like pointing out how awful other people are and also it was kind of a slight against himself as well because he is jewish. however, i dont want any white person saying that in front of me and i got serious real quick and shut it down. now he will not even say it in context around me (which is the consequence i wanted to invoke) and jokingly mentions how badly he was scolded last time he said it.
im of the position that i do not want to hear it, period, and you as a white person are simply not allowed to say it, period, no exceptions, no arguments about context or why or whatever. but the existence of it, i cant make that a hardline issue because its a part of our culture and i dont know who im supposed to date to avoid it?