MissJ
Well-Known Member
I posted this in the mistress thread:
After that experience, I googled the question of what men look for in a mistress, because I was pretty sure I didn't fit what they were looking for. Anyway, I came across this website called The Experience Project. There were so many women there talking about being the mistress. It's usually the same old story: wife horrible, husband waiting for "right time" to leave. The mistresses were delusional. The only thing that woke them up was when they pitted themselves against the wife.
This either happened when the mistress got pregnant, and the husband totally left her to fend for herself or when the mistress confronted the wife. I read one story where the husband told the mistress that he was moving out. One day the mistress drove by the married couple's house, saw the husband parked there and went to the door. She told the family that she was having an affair with the husband and that the husband loved her. Well, the wife started arguing with her. The teenage son started cussing her out, and the husband pushed her right out the front door! I guess she finally had a rude awakening.
From what I've been reading, the husband always has the wife's back. He seems to really love and care for her, but then again, he's cheating, so he can't care that much, right? What I take from this is in a man's mind, there's a lot to be said for being his wife. Other than that, I'm confused.
What do you ladies think about this?
I've never been a mistress, but I was contemplating going on a date with a guy. He turned out to be married, but I didn't know. I wouldn't expect a person to be married and flirting with me the way that he did. He also did not wear a ring. I only found out when I googled his name hoping to find a facebook page or something. The first thing that popped up was a record of his marriage. He had been married for almost a year when he started pursuing me. In my opinion, he never intended to be faithful to his wife if he was cheating that early in the marriage. He was also very stupid, because we had mutual friends. The mutual friends also invited me to stay at their house any time I was in town, and he was their neighbor! His business was located near the place where I worked. There's no way that either his wife or I wouldn't have found out what he was doing if I did decide to start dating him.
After that experience, I googled the question of what men look for in a mistress, because I was pretty sure I didn't fit what they were looking for. Anyway, I came across this website called The Experience Project. There were so many women there talking about being the mistress. It's usually the same old story: wife horrible, husband waiting for "right time" to leave. The mistresses were delusional. The only thing that woke them up was when they pitted themselves against the wife.
This either happened when the mistress got pregnant, and the husband totally left her to fend for herself or when the mistress confronted the wife. I read one story where the husband told the mistress that he was moving out. One day the mistress drove by the married couple's house, saw the husband parked there and went to the door. She told the family that she was having an affair with the husband and that the husband loved her. Well, the wife started arguing with her. The teenage son started cussing her out, and the husband pushed her right out the front door! I guess she finally had a rude awakening.
From what I've been reading, the husband always has the wife's back. He seems to really love and care for her, but then again, he's cheating, so he can't care that much, right? What I take from this is in a man's mind, there's a lot to be said for being his wife. Other than that, I'm confused.