cocoberry10
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den1 said:i never get any male attention whether natural/relaxed
Aww, Den. You need to have more confidence. I'm sure lots of guys would love to date you. Maybe you don't even notice the attention!
den1 said:i never get any male attention whether natural/relaxed
atltophilly said:I think I actually get slightly less attention when I wear my hair straight as opposed to my natural texture. But sadly the same quality. They run the gamut from the educated ive league types down to the dope boys.
Sometimes I wonder if guys are attracted to the light skin and 3b/c hair, b/c every guy I date says something about the "exotic" look I have and the hair I have practically all ask me if i'm mixed. Every once in a while I wondered if I had a 4abc type texture if it would weed out all the trifling guys and only bring out all the quality guys.
Thanks...i'm always hiding my hair in buns that maybe why i lack attention..there is also another issue which is my WEIGHT and the fact that i'm not confident in myselfLocksOfLuV said:Are you sure? Because that beautiful head of yours will make ANY gender turn!! I love it!
I'm not really bothered anymore, but i just wanted to reply to the question. In fact i'm in a relationship, but its long distance and he's being an idiot.cocoberry10 said:Aww, Den. You need to have more confidence. I'm sure lots of guys would love to date you. Maybe you don't even notice the attention!
dkbeauti said:Since I BC'd back in August, I get even more attention.
Not to say that I'm cute or anything, but this short cut is working in my favor; rocking my kinky/coily TWA shows off my facial features!
I have men approaching me, complimenting me, smiling at me.
Very polite, ya know?
Asking me, "Excuse me, can I talk to you for a minute?" (No, I'm seeing somebody ).
I'm not a young girl, but I'm in college (I'm in my 30's).
So the men on campus that speak to me now are like, "How you doin' today, sista?" or " Peace, queen, how you doin' today?"
It wasn't like that before.
When I was wearing my wigs, weaves, and ponytails, guys were allways trying to "holla". I don't have guys coming at me that way so much anymore.
And the type of males that repond to me have changed.
They are more like the "gentlemen" type.
Even the types that usually "holla" at women ( "Ay, yo shorty, come 'mere, let me holla atchoo for a minute".......), now speak to me with much more respect.
dk
I think I've gotten an increase in what-the-heck stares, which I'm sure can't be a good thing.
One of my closest friends that i met in college had midback natural hair (she hardly ever even flat-ironed it) but she kept it braided at night and put her products on it so it stayed looking nice and wavy anyways. For a time, I was wearing a long relaxed-style weave. She got attention and I got attention as well. Also when we would be walking together, no dude would ever say, "I want to talk to the natural one." or "I would like to talk to you, the one with the relaxed hair." Neither one of us was ugly. I think it is about preferences{usually a certain combination of qualities like size, thick, slim, big, bright, dark, tall, short, curvy,clear skin complexion...} I also think if the lady carries herself well (like someone said earlier) and has a pretty face, that matters more to guys... because relaxed hair can be beautiful and natural hair can be beautiful too.
I also think guys like long hair no matter what the texture...as long as it doesn't look a hot crazy mess. Though some women do look more fierce with short hairstyles and they will get snatched up too looking like Halle Berry, Nia Long, or Jada Pinkett in her younger days. Also, I have noticed that certain women have facial features that pop with curly hair while others have features that pop with straight hair. sorry, don't mean to get far away from the topic so...it's a wrap.
I think it depends on your hair type to be honest with you. If you are rockin' a 3b natural then dudes are going to flock because you have "Good hair" but if you are a 4C, you might still get attention but it will be from different guys and not as common, but it really depends on where you are.
i agree with thisOriginally Posted by erin558
I think it depends on your hair type to be honest with you. If you are rockin' a 3b natural then dudes are going to flock because you have "Good hair" but if you are a 4C, you might still get attention but it will be from different guys and not as common, but it really depends on where you are.
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