I tried to stay cute all the time before and right after we got married. It worked for a little while. but later it was like whatever!
It took him 3 years to catch me poopin'. Well actually that was the first time he walked in right after I walked out and I could no longer hide the fact that my ish didn't really smell like potpourri!
I guess as a single gal - I still want to be "cute" as much as possible. I'm not talking full makeup & heels or anything - but there has to be a happy medium between being a FLY girl and being tore up.
I have blue under eye circles, red sides on my nose... and my lips don't get any color in them for a good 2 hours of me being upright. That and the fact that once I go to sleep, I don't move...and an inch deep pillow crease down the side of my face is not hot.
I'm natural all the time when at home. I'm nude always when the kids are not here. I love being nude. I use masks and do everything else around DH.
I remember my mother getting on to me when we first married, telling me I should look a little presentable when around the house that I wasn't as cute as I thought I was without makeup and Dh didn't want to look at that. Anyways after many months of thinking about this I decided that I should continue what I was doing because she had been married three times and wasn't married at the time. So being dolled up 24/7 hadn't really gained her anything.erplexed
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(I mean with puffy eyes and what have you)but oh well. My best friend on the other hand does not front (du rag, long jongs, flannel pajamas and all) she is a trip but her husband loves her for it. Another friend of ours had once told her a while back that she is "the most classy ghetto acting person he had ever seen". And it is the honest to goodness truth (and if you are wrong she will call you out and truly will get you told without one curse word). She's just real but I love her for that. Yeah, married life will be interesting.
You probably stay fly in your sleep. That’s why you are Bmoreflyygirl!
I don't wear any old thing to bed or around the house for that matter. I have satin sheets and pillowcases so I don't have to cover my hair. I don't want to look like Aunt Jemima. The most I might do is if I'm wearing a wig, take it off when I get in the house but that's about it.
This thread might be a tad TMI on the body function tip...but it's for a valid reason
Those of us ladies who live alone (or with a relative or female roommate)... I love the freedom of being able to walk around the house naked with VEET smeared all on my arms and legs... a Mint Julep mask on my face... and deep conditioner in my hair. And I can do this whenever I want to!
BUT... if my SO is over for extended days or if I'm at his place for extended days... I have my "semi-natural" self that I present. Meaning... no makeup, but my hair is in a semi-style, I wear moisturizer and cherry chap stick and a cute casual outfit. He probably thinks this is how I always am.
Example...
ALONE:
WITH SO:
But for those of you who actually LIVE with your man/husband... how do you do it? Do you just say "Screw it...this is me." Or do you consciously make an effort to not let him see you in a certain way?
How do you do it? Does it get tiring? Has he ever caught you in a seriously un-pretty situation? Do you ever get to the point where you both just say FORGET IT and just get real natural? lol
My SO/making up my mind about this man and I are real comfortable in certain situations... as in telling disgusting stories to eachother, him burping and farting, me burping (accidentally farted once and was SO EMBARRASSED but he thought it was funny)... he poops with the bathroom door open...we are always in eachothers faces and will even grab an eye booger out eachothers eyes... we say we're like primates who groom eachother.
But certain things... I just don't want him to EVER see me do. I never want him to see a used tampon or pad, never want him to see me with Veet underneath my chin or waxing my upper lip... I don't want him to hear my sh%t hit the water or see me have diarrhea or be sick like that... but when you live with someone for YEARS...obviously sometimes, you see things you really aren't supposed to see.
How do you deal with it? Have you hidden the true NATURAL you for 5, 10, 20 years?
I have been married for going on 5 years and honestly me and my hubby let loose everything during our dating time. So, once we were married it was ALL old news. We don't hide (or I should say be discrete) anything from each other. He has seen me do everything under the sun and I have seen him do everything under the sun. I remember one time I attempted to wax myself, not a good idea BTW 
. Needless to say, he had to help me. We were both laughing at that one, we still do. He brings it up all the time. We have been through all the stuff from sick in the hospital to vomiting in the car. For some reason, the only person I get shy about is my GYN doc, I don't think any ladie will get used to those visits. 
