cocoberry10
Well-Known Member
Okay, I know that most people believe in "soulmates," their "one and only true love." Me personally, I don't necessarily believe in "one true love," but I believe in compatability.
Here's the best example I can give of what I mean. Let's say I gave you $1000 to go into a great shoe store and buy ONE pair of shoes. You get to choose the shoes. As soon as you walk into the store, right away you will be "turned off" by some pairs. They won't be "your style," (maybe too gaudy, too flashy, too ugly, or just not to "your" liking). You'll peruse, and then find a few pairs you do like. You may even try one or two on. Ultimately, it may even come down to making deciding between two or three pairs you really like. Ultimately, you will make a decision, purchase them, and leave the store. Does that mean those were the only shoes out there for you? Probably not, but you can still enjoy the shoes you have. Someday, you may be walking and see one of the pairs you decided not to buy, and for a moment, you may actually feel a little pang, like "wow, those were really beautiful." However, that doesn't mean that you will go out and "buy those shoes."
I'm totally speaking in symbols above, but that's how I see it. A lot of people that believe in soulmate/one and only will marry someone and later feel like "oh no, he's not my soulmate after all." But truly, he is. Because the truth is, once you do end up with that person, I think in most cases, you can really make it work.
I know the above may not make sense to everyone, but something made me feel the need to write this. I'm not sure if someone is struggling, but take it for what you want.
Here's the best example I can give of what I mean. Let's say I gave you $1000 to go into a great shoe store and buy ONE pair of shoes. You get to choose the shoes. As soon as you walk into the store, right away you will be "turned off" by some pairs. They won't be "your style," (maybe too gaudy, too flashy, too ugly, or just not to "your" liking). You'll peruse, and then find a few pairs you do like. You may even try one or two on. Ultimately, it may even come down to making deciding between two or three pairs you really like. Ultimately, you will make a decision, purchase them, and leave the store. Does that mean those were the only shoes out there for you? Probably not, but you can still enjoy the shoes you have. Someday, you may be walking and see one of the pairs you decided not to buy, and for a moment, you may actually feel a little pang, like "wow, those were really beautiful." However, that doesn't mean that you will go out and "buy those shoes."
I'm totally speaking in symbols above, but that's how I see it. A lot of people that believe in soulmate/one and only will marry someone and later feel like "oh no, he's not my soulmate after all." But truly, he is. Because the truth is, once you do end up with that person, I think in most cases, you can really make it work.
I know the above may not make sense to everyone, but something made me feel the need to write this. I'm not sure if someone is struggling, but take it for what you want.