CutiePie0Five
New Member
Hi everyone,
Well, I've been transitioning for 5 months now, and I've told some people about it (namely my sister, and some friends), but I haven't fully come out to my parents. I mentioned wanting to go natural a few years ago, but everyone basically talked me out of it.
Anyway, so my parents asked me today what I plan on doing with my hair, so instead of dodging the question like I've been doing, I told them I was staying away from the perms for a while. Then, of course my mom chimes in that I need to do something with my hair because its breaking and blah blah blah. However, in fact, my hair is much healthier than it was at the beginning of this year when I decided to start transitioning. My only problem with my hair, that I could see her talking about is that the back is shorter than the front---it used to be the other way around. I think that happened because I got a little scissor happy clipping ends earlier this year.
I'm pretty secure in my decision to transition and my only problem is the lack of support from my parents. My mom ALWAYS has negative things to say about my hair, even though its always been longer and healthier than hers, because she does everything wrong with her hair that she possibly could (blowing drying, combing & brushing really hard, sleeping without a scarf, etc.). Even when I used to come home from the hairdresser looking nice, she'd never have anything good to say. I don't know what it is with her.
Plus, she and my father are so close-minded when it comes to our hair. They're used to me getting my perm, and that's it. They act like my hair looks horrible or something! I love my new growth, and I'm excited about transitioning, but sometimes its comments like those that make me want to take the easy way out and just get a perm. I mean I'm already at brastrap length and with the growth I have now it'd be another 2 inches longer if I got a perm...But, I don't want to be relaxing for the rest of my life, and right now, I honestly have no interest in perming my hair. I'm looking forward to my beautiful curls!
Anyone have any advice for me?
Well, I've been transitioning for 5 months now, and I've told some people about it (namely my sister, and some friends), but I haven't fully come out to my parents. I mentioned wanting to go natural a few years ago, but everyone basically talked me out of it.
Anyway, so my parents asked me today what I plan on doing with my hair, so instead of dodging the question like I've been doing, I told them I was staying away from the perms for a while. Then, of course my mom chimes in that I need to do something with my hair because its breaking and blah blah blah. However, in fact, my hair is much healthier than it was at the beginning of this year when I decided to start transitioning. My only problem with my hair, that I could see her talking about is that the back is shorter than the front---it used to be the other way around. I think that happened because I got a little scissor happy clipping ends earlier this year.
I'm pretty secure in my decision to transition and my only problem is the lack of support from my parents. My mom ALWAYS has negative things to say about my hair, even though its always been longer and healthier than hers, because she does everything wrong with her hair that she possibly could (blowing drying, combing & brushing really hard, sleeping without a scarf, etc.). Even when I used to come home from the hairdresser looking nice, she'd never have anything good to say. I don't know what it is with her.
Plus, she and my father are so close-minded when it comes to our hair. They're used to me getting my perm, and that's it. They act like my hair looks horrible or something! I love my new growth, and I'm excited about transitioning, but sometimes its comments like those that make me want to take the easy way out and just get a perm. I mean I'm already at brastrap length and with the growth I have now it'd be another 2 inches longer if I got a perm...But, I don't want to be relaxing for the rest of my life, and right now, I honestly have no interest in perming my hair. I'm looking forward to my beautiful curls!
Anyone have any advice for me?