Some Divorce Drama for you!!!! My Story...

[hair'sbeauty]

WOW again i wonder why we allow men to put us through this drama. I feel so disgusted when you know you have given so much of yourself to an individual just to face deceit. This is why i have begun not to believe in the whole foundation of marriage or relatonships all together, just can't deal with it. Just reading your story i feel emotionally tired. My only advise is to Hold ON, DN"T GIVE UP YOU WILL GET THRU THIS YOU MUST BELIEVE.

 

[syze6]

Wow!...I'm sorry to hear about that. At least, you can start over and walk away knowing you did everything you could as a married women. Even when he abandoned his role in the marriage, you still tried to save it. I know it hurts...but girl now you can live! You no longer have to deal with his BS! Trust and believe his actions will show up in his life! It may not have to do with his future relationships...KARMA won't make it this easy! Trust...it will show up in some aspect of his LIFE! You hold your head up and nuture you and your son.

I get so tired of these people playing with marriage. If you're not ready...don't get married! My husband's friend has been screwing around with this woman, since last year. He recently married his live-in woman this past May. He is still with the other woman and she(other woman) knows the whole sitution. Why get married! I feel so bad for the woman and If I knew her personally...I'd sing like a FREAKIN BIRD!!!

I'm married and if my husband wants to act a fool...why should I suffer! I don't believe in growing old miserably with anyone! I don't care if children are in the picture! I'm supposed to live my life beign faithful to an ASS and then die! Hell No!

Why live your life with some selfish person, who's not man enough to be committed! It takes a REAL man to be committed to ONE woman! If he's not the one...than he can get two fingers(peace) and kick rocks! You better believe...that man will come into your life and treat you like the QUEEN you are! I get so angry, when I hear situations as this. Marriage jas become null and void in society and it's really sad!

*hugs*

 

[syze6]

Re: Some Divorce Drama fo yo a$$es!!!! My Story...

I'm back...

• The woman's husband reported the affair to their supervisor, and the white chick claimed sexual harrassment. Mike was moved to a new department in the basement of the bldg that he now hates. He used to work in finance.
• Our pastor has stated that Mike is not welcome at our church until he agrees to Christian counseling by elders
• Mike's mom and best friend aren't speaking to him
• He cried at the lawyers' office on the day we went to sign papers. He actually tried to get me to stop proceedings..

So...long story short...

I am getting divorced...finally.

Mike showed me his true colors LONG ago, and I refused to believe. See the outcome..

I am now left with a 1 year old, a mortgage, broken self esteem, and a WHOLE lot of hatred.

So, why am I so sad???

I trusted this man with my life, my health and my future and when I saw his "true self" I could have escaped. I had so many chances to get out of the situation buy I chose to be Helen Keller and pretend all was well.

MORAL OF THE STORY:

[SIZE=-1]"When someone shows you who they are, believe them." -Maya Angelou[/SIZE]

I didn't..and now I find myself with a whole lotta nothing. Struggling to pay bills that HE helped accumulate...trying to find a way to pick up the pieces of my shattered life.

I am now trying to rebuild my family and be strong for my son...but all I feel is hatred and regrets...YALL I really want to hurt him..NO FORREAL...

P.S.
The old school members know that I usually don't post personal info. I always kept things light and simple in the Ent forum...resident paparazzi before Cincy and ClassyEb...

But I am honestly ABOUT.TO.BREAK!!! I need someone to PLEASE give my some coping skills to deal with this ish. I cry daily..I have lost 26 lbs since March...and I know I've got to do better.

It is a struggle just going to work and taking care of my son...

Just know that, this will pass! Don't hate him, instead turn all that hatred to love for yourself and your son! There's no victory and growth in hate! Hate will stop you from moving on and rebuilding. Hate will keep you on he same sorry level as him. Hate will make it impossible for him to see, your spirit is still striving! Hate is too easy! Each time you think about the bad things...just smile. Even when you don't want to...smile! Pray for him and let it go!

 

[Integrity]

Wow!...I'm sorry to hear about that. At least, you can start over and walk away knowing you did everything you could as a married women. Even when he abandoned his role in the marriage, you still tried to save it. I know it hurts...but girl now you can live! You no longer have to deal with his BS! Trust and believe his actions will show up in his life! He may not have to do with his future relationships...KARMA won't make it this easy! Trust...it will show up in some aspect of his LIFE! You hold your head up and nuture you and your son.

I get so tired of these people playing with marriage. If you're not ready...don't get married! My husband's friend has been screwing around with this woman, since last year. He recently married his live-in woman this past May. He is still with the other woman and she(other woman) knows the whole sitution. Why get married! I feel so bad for the woman and If I knew her personally...I'd sing like a FREAKIN BIRD!!!

I'm married and if my husband wants to act a fool...why should I suffer! I don't believe in growing old miserably with anyone! I don't care if children are in the picture! I'm supposed to live my life beign faithful to an ASS and then die! Hell No!

Why live your life with some selfish person, who's not man enough to be committed! It takes a REAL man to be committed to ONE woman! If he's not the one...than he can get two fingers(peace) and kick rocks! You better believe...that man will come into your life and treat you like the QUEEN you are! I get so angry, when I hear situations as this. Marriage jas become null and void in society and it's really sad!

*hugs*

my thoughts exactly!!!

 

[prettynina]

I'm praying for you

 

[fattyfatfat]

you need to do a waiting to exhale on him and burn his clothes and car!!!!

that would be fun...but lets just let a dog be a dog like another poster said. im sorry you are going through this.

 

[MissJ]

Re: Some Divorce Drama fo yo a$$es!!!! My Story...

I'm sorry to hear this stuff happened. I remember you not posting about personal issues. I was surprised to find out that you were married and pregnant; I think you posted that last year. I know it seems tough now, but things will definitely get better. I'm sure you feel better not to be stressed over having a cheating husband, since you've gotten a divorce.

 

[Ms Red]

I am praying for you and your son. God works miracles and He is no shorter than His word. But please do not turn down counseling for YOURSELF. Please.

 

[fallback]

Delta QT I'm so sorry your going through this but just remember when you wake up in the morning you look at your beautiful little boy and know that you have to stay strong for him and you. Sometimes God puts us through a test but know he won't give you anything you can't handle. Keep your faith in him and yourself your going to be okay...GOD BLESS and you are in my prayers.

((((((((HUGS))))))))))

 

[DeltaQT]

WOW...just as I felt my lowest, you ladies come along to lift me up...WHAT A BLESSING!

Words cannot express my gratitude to you all for all of the posts & PMs I've received since posting this. I would have never thought that I would receive SO much support...hellz...I even wondered if I would get any responses (I've been MIA for so long). You ladies are wonderful...and I will never ever forget the many expressions of kindness...Thank you

I am coping the best way I know how...just trying to keep busy until this all passes.

For everyone who suggested counseling...I left work 2 hrs early and spoke with a family counselor at my church. I don't feel much better right now, but I will keep my appointments with him. Any assistance is welcome right now.

I'm a bag of mixed nuts right now...sad, angry, hopeful, weary...but I will keep holding on. I am stronger than this, I just know it...

 

[mrsmeredith]

You received plenty of good responses and I only hope for the best in your situation. But the good thing is, that when you go through something (key word going through), there has to be an ending. And being that Christ is in your life, victory can only be your conclusion. Just as in, Jeremiah 29:11 he has an expected end for you. Also, thats okay to cry because the Lord says that he counts every tear that falls so trust that he has your every concern at heart and knows just what you need. I pray that GOD sends forth his angels to be encamped about you at all times so that if you stumble you will not fall. Remember the joy of the lord is your strength. Pray and after you finish praying trust that GOD has heard you and it is already done. Then from now on just praise GOD for the victory not yet seen but you know is coming. Be blessed, encouraged and trust this too will work out for your good.

PS
Read Psalms 91, thats so encouraging to me especially the last 2 verses.Now watch GOD show up and show out. Your test is your testimony, you will look back years from now and see how GOD brought you through and that will allow you to be a blessing and comfort to others.

 

[SugarBaby]

You received plenty of good responses and I only hope for the best in your situation. But the good thing is, that when you go through something (key word going through), there has to be an ending. And being that Christ is in your life, victory can only be your conclusion. Just as in, Jeremiah 29:11 he has an expected end for you. Also, thats okay to cry because the Lord says that he counts every tear that falls so trust that he has your every concern at heart and knows just what you need. I pray that GOD sends forth his angels to be encamped about you at all times so that if you stumble you will not fall. Remember the joy of the lord is your strength. Pray and after you finish praying trust that GOD has heard you and it is already done. Then from now on just praise GOD for the victory not yet seen but you know is coming. Be blessed, encouraged and trust this too will work out for your good.

PS
Read Psalms 91, thats so encouraging to me especially the last 2 verses.Now watch GOD show up and show out. Your test is your testimony, you will look back years from now and see how GOD brought you through and that will allow you to be a blessing and comfort to others.

Wonderful Advice.

Peace to you, Sister. Allow God's grace to give you peace and strenght.

 

[Xavier]

Delta,
Sorry to hear about your situation. Know that this is a storm that is sure to pass. Hang in there, if not for you, then for your precious son. (((hugs)))

 

[angie10]

I didn't get a chance to finish reading this post, but I saw you have gotten a lot of great advice. Sorry you're going through this, just know you will get through it. It's always good to talk to someone you can trust. Hang in there.

 

[cocoberry10]

I'm sorry about your situation. Please keep your chin up.

 

[Mizani_Mrs]

Hey delta! long time no hear... welcome back! I'm so sorry that you are going thru this...this sounds like a truly heartbreaking situation to be in. The best thing you can do for yourself is to take some time off work and take a week or month to cry and sulk and whine about poor you. Then after that...NO MORE TEARS. Create an 'i'm better off, i'm going to do great' mantra that you repeat and meditate on all day everyday. put on some mary J blige no more drama and some gospel and go upwards from there. You need to immediately seek professional counseling who will help build your self esteem back up and tell you how to rebuild and will help you make sense of your situation. Right now you are feeling so many emotions and its hard to have clear thoughts to work thru this mess... Your emotions are too strong, for your mind to intelligently make sense. please seek help, before you suffer an emotional breakdown.

Remember God is good and you can do all things thru Christ whom gives you strength! God loves you, and I love you sis!!! hang in there!!!

need to chat....im a great listener.. pm me anytime.

 

[Mizani_Mrs]

Hey delta! i just wanted to add that not all counselors are created equal. if you dont feel a connection with your counselor, or if you feel like his advice is so general that its not really helping or making sense...the please look for another one. i believe thhis will be a big part to your healing and rebuiding

WOW...just as I felt my lowest, you ladies come along to lift me up...WHAT A BLESSING!

Words cannot express my gratitude to you all for all of the posts & PMs I've received since posting this. I would have never thought that I would receive SO much support...hellz...I even wondered if I would get any responses (I've been MIA for so long). You ladies are wonderful...and I will never ever forget the many expressions of kindness...Thank you

I am coping the best way I know how...just trying to keep busy until this all passes.

For everyone who suggested counseling...I left work 2 hrs early and spoke with a family counselor at my church. I don't feel much better right now, but I will keep my appointments with him. Any assistance is welcome right now.

I'm a bag of mixed nuts right now...sad, angry, hopeful, weary...but I will keep holding on. I am stronger than this, I just know it...

 

[PaperDoll]

hi delta!

no advice, just great big huge old ((((HUGS)))), i will keep you & your baby in my prayers. i know it doesn't seem like it right now but things will get better. God bless you.