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"Relaxers and braids are a no no." And she was dead serious.
My teenage daughter is relaxed. This hair stylist has been doing my daughter's hair for a little over a year. My daughter's hair was maybe APL when we came to her. I had been doing her hair for sometime and it was doing fine except for one spot in the front that wouldn't take the relaxer. So I thought I need professional help. The rest of her hair was thick, healthy, beautiful. She has very fine strands, but she has a lot of them so it looks like she has really thick hair.
Anywho, I noticed she used a lot of heat on her hair so after a few months, when school was out last year, I told her to not use any heat during the summer, just put it in two braids and let it air dry. When school started again in the fall I told my daughter she should start getting roller sets and only flat-iron now and then. Of course she was like nooo. Then I tell the hair stylist what I had in mind and she's like oh I don't use that much heat on her hair. Every week or every other week won't hurt it. And she'll hate her hair if I rollerset it because it will be too big and poofy. So I say okay.
Three months later in December I ask my daughter what's going on with her hair? I comb through it and her hair is eaten up underneath, she had lost so much length, especially in the back, which is where she always had the most length, I think she maybe had lost at least 5 inches.
So in January I ask the stylist did she cut it or what was going on with her hair. And she's just like I don't know it just sheds so much and is always so dry. She suggested switching relaxers so I said okay but no more heat, just go back to braiding it and letting it airdry. She said okay.
So fast forward to yesterday. Her hair is finally looking a little healthier. She's wearing a twist-out everyday. So she's supposed to get a relaxer. I ask the hairstylist I know you say you trim with every single relaxer but would you please skip the trim this time. I want her to see her length and I'm not saying never trim again, just skip it this time so we can see what we're working with and so she can see a little more length. She's like that will set us back if we do that. Then she says I know you think this braiding thing is helping but it's not. It doesn't make any sense to braid her hair. "Relaxers and braids are a no no." I said I mean really what actual harm can come from braiding hair, I have never heard such a thing in my life. She just like it's just not good, you shouldn't do that, the hair can't breath, you need to comb it out and straighten it. I said we do comb through it, then we braid it. Anyway, she was talking in circles.
All the while I wanted to say that I have grown my daughter's relaxed hair out several times by keeping it braided up (no extensions). I wanted to tell her how many of the ladies on here grow their hair out with roller-sets or braid-outs, and avoid heat like the plague. But I didn't, I was just in shock that a hairdresser, a young woman who appears to be intelligent could be so ignorant about haircare. I was so disappointed.
Finally she said well come on we'll just go ahead and relax and I said no and we left. So today I'm back to doing her hair, right now it is being deep conditioned by me with the ORS pak, warm olive oil and other moisturizing conditioners. Her hair looks so happy again. Now I wish I had insisted on the rollersets or just never have gone to her and kept doing her hair myself
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My teenage daughter is relaxed. This hair stylist has been doing my daughter's hair for a little over a year. My daughter's hair was maybe APL when we came to her. I had been doing her hair for sometime and it was doing fine except for one spot in the front that wouldn't take the relaxer. So I thought I need professional help. The rest of her hair was thick, healthy, beautiful. She has very fine strands, but she has a lot of them so it looks like she has really thick hair.
Anywho, I noticed she used a lot of heat on her hair so after a few months, when school was out last year, I told her to not use any heat during the summer, just put it in two braids and let it air dry. When school started again in the fall I told my daughter she should start getting roller sets and only flat-iron now and then. Of course she was like nooo. Then I tell the hair stylist what I had in mind and she's like oh I don't use that much heat on her hair. Every week or every other week won't hurt it. And she'll hate her hair if I rollerset it because it will be too big and poofy. So I say okay.
Three months later in December I ask my daughter what's going on with her hair? I comb through it and her hair is eaten up underneath, she had lost so much length, especially in the back, which is where she always had the most length, I think she maybe had lost at least 5 inches.
So in January I ask the stylist did she cut it or what was going on with her hair. And she's just like I don't know it just sheds so much and is always so dry. She suggested switching relaxers so I said okay but no more heat, just go back to braiding it and letting it airdry. She said okay.
So fast forward to yesterday. Her hair is finally looking a little healthier. She's wearing a twist-out everyday. So she's supposed to get a relaxer. I ask the hairstylist I know you say you trim with every single relaxer but would you please skip the trim this time. I want her to see her length and I'm not saying never trim again, just skip it this time so we can see what we're working with and so she can see a little more length. She's like that will set us back if we do that. Then she says I know you think this braiding thing is helping but it's not. It doesn't make any sense to braid her hair. "Relaxers and braids are a no no." I said I mean really what actual harm can come from braiding hair, I have never heard such a thing in my life. She just like it's just not good, you shouldn't do that, the hair can't breath, you need to comb it out and straighten it. I said we do comb through it, then we braid it. Anyway, she was talking in circles.
All the while I wanted to say that I have grown my daughter's relaxed hair out several times by keeping it braided up (no extensions). I wanted to tell her how many of the ladies on here grow their hair out with roller-sets or braid-outs, and avoid heat like the plague. But I didn't, I was just in shock that a hairdresser, a young woman who appears to be intelligent could be so ignorant about haircare. I was so disappointed.
Finally she said well come on we'll just go ahead and relax and I said no and we left. So today I'm back to doing her hair, right now it is being deep conditioned by me with the ORS pak, warm olive oil and other moisturizing conditioners. Her hair looks so happy again. Now I wish I had insisted on the rollersets or just never have gone to her and kept doing her hair myself
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She said someone told her that having braids and a relaxer would break off the person's hair. 
all of you.
No, seriously... answer this question someone! Stop shaking your head... I AM SERIOUS! I hear people say it but i didn't know that the really MEANT it. Is it true?
Go momma...go momma...go momma
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