So...if cheating were inevitable, would you still want to get married?
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cocoberry10
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Would anyone be worried about diseases?
cocoberry10
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I agree with this, but I think in the OP's scenario, she was saying it was inevitable. Not sure if this would change your answer.
I'm going to say this on this thread and on the other cheating thread.
While I do believe it's POSSIBLE to have monogamy in a marriage, I will be 100% honest and say, I do believe that there are genuine pros and cons to both monogamy and "polygamy" (polyamory).
I don't see one or the other as being a perfect way to marriage. Both will require sacrifices (albeit different ones), and both honestly have benefits. I think each couple has to decide what is most important to them in marriage.
For some people monogamy is a requirement and without it they can't be married. For other people, if a man or woman cheats, it doesn't have to be the end of their marriage. And there have been many couples where infidelity has happened, and their marriage ultimately becomes STRONGER after getting through it!
I'm with you on this >< 100%. It's too not mainstream to get folks to really understand it though.
topsyturvy86
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Nope! I don't have the heart for infidelity. Besides it breaks trust which is the backbone of every relationship. Without trust there's no point being in a relationship, talk less of marriage.
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1Aleeesha
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I'm taking this question to mean, "If I knew for a fact that he was a cheater" would I marry him, no. Sometimes we know for a fact that a man is a cheater and expect him to quit because of marriage. Some of them "cheat" the night before the wedding at the "bachelor party"... I'm disgusted by the entire subject of cheating.
For me Monogamy is a must or I won't be married. I'd rather be single than wonder/suspect/feel anything besides that I'm in a monogamous relationship...
For me Monogamy is a must or I won't be married. I'd rather be single than wonder/suspect/feel anything besides that I'm in a monogamous relationship...
darlingdiva
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Absolutely not. I play second fiddle to no one.
prettyFine
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one word. no!
Lovelylife
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Yes, I want children. As long as he gives me atleast 20 happy years, I'll be slightly satisfied.
AstroQueen77
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yes...I might cheat to anyway....
Lovelylife
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princessnad
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I'm surprised at the poll response. Love and marriage is so much more than sex.
Women say that all the time but the idea of sex outside of marriage freaks us out.
If there was no possibility that men could not cheat, I would be open about it and we would come up with a situation that works for both of us. But since this scenario is not reality, I will pick my faithful man and be content.
Women say that all the time but the idea of sex outside of marriage freaks us out.
If there was no possibility that men could not cheat, I would be open about it and we would come up with a situation that works for both of us. But since this scenario is not reality, I will pick my faithful man and be content.
AstroQueen77
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haha!
Seriously! I can be real enough to understand that just some of the time, you want something different and want to have your wife and family too. I could see myself cheating if a really great opportunity came along...not that I am looking to cheat..but sometimes, **** happens.
A lot of the times, with men it is not personal.....
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