Single Ladies: Men

[Livingmylifetothefullest]

This question is directed to the single ladies (and those who used to be single ), has this ever happened to you: your sitting or standing somewhere and a guy will constantly walk past you and stare but not say anything.

Ex. I was sitting outside my class at a table for two (normally I want the table that seats 4 but they were taken) studying before class and I noticed out the corner of my eye this guy who staring at me. He proceeded to get up, walk over but instead of saying something he just walked past. Then a few minutes later he walked past me again, and again, and again, and again, for probably a good 5 mins. (it seemed like forever). I was really tempted to just look up directly and scream at him to stop/ask what he wanted but I just buried my face in my book. So after he finally stopped, he stood by my classroom (which is in front of me), still taking glances at me, and got on his phone. Naturally the class let out soon after and he left but it still boggles my mind that men can't speak.

And what is with these guys getting on the phone? Whenever a guy comes around me, he practically jumps on his phone yet will continue to stare at me. Is he notifiying his friends or something erplexed

 

[Silkycoils]

You should've smiled and said "Hi". Forgive me if I'm wrong, but I would imagine you are under 25 and men in that demographic can still be intimidated/shy (even older men get intimidated sometimes).

If you were to say "Hi" to him, you come across as friendly and approachable and that's a "green light" for him if he's checking for you. If he's not checking for you, you were still friendly. I make it a point to speak to men and women. We need more friendly people in the world. JMO

 

[DivineNapps1728]

I agree with Silkynaps; if it happens again just speak to the fella. For whatever reason some men will have enough nerve to stare you down, but not to engage you in conversation; I think it's a fear or rejection, but once the ice is broken they're fine.

Oh and the phone thing is a weak attempt to look occupied & not 100% focused on you

 

[Truth]

I say you did good!!!..when u ignore them, that keeps em curious..If he's truly interested he needs to speak up! walking back and forth waiting for u to look up at him and smile so he could readily invite himself over to ya table.. smh that's cute.. and yea like divine said.. the phone thing is to make it seem like they're occupied.. they all do it.. hell i've done it..lol

 

[Jazala]

If you're interested in talking to him, just give him a nice shy smile and a nod as he passes. It will give him a signal that you are approachable.

 

[Jazala]

This question is directed to the single ladies (and those who used to be single ), has this ever happened to you: your sitting or standing somewhere and a guy will constantly walk past you and stare but not say anything.

Ex. I was sitting outside my class at a table for two (normally I want the table that seats 4 but they were taken) studying before class and I noticed out the corner of my eye this guy who staring at me. He proceeded to get up, walk over but instead of saying something he just walked past. Then a few minutes later he walked past me again, and again, and again, and again, for probably a good 5 mins. (it seemed like forever). I was really tempted to just look up directly and scream at him to stop/ask what he wanted but I just buried my face in my book. So after he finally stopped, he stood by my classroom (which is in front of me), still taking glances at me, and got on his phone. Naturally the class let out soon after and he left but it still boggles my mind that men can't speak.

And what is with these guys getting on the phone? Whenever a guy comes around me, he practically jumps on his phone yet will continue to stare at me. Is he notifiying his friends or something erplexed

At the bolded, that probably made him think you didn't want to be approached.

 

[ebonyhair]

The same thing happened to me in Wal-Mart yesterday and Im still asking myself why I didnt say Hi!