Are Men Ever Lonely?

[C(squared)]

I think women can be more lonely than men sometimes but women handle it better overall. Women will surround themselves with family and friends, volunteer, travel, etc and be constructive. I feel that women (at least the ones I'm surrounded by) will use the time wisely to develop themselves and stay busy. Conversely, some men will hop from woman to woman and bed to bed to fill that void. This is destructive behavior to me because its only fulfilling temporarily.

 

[MzLady78]

Just having any ol' body around doesn't remove lonliness. You can be with someone and still be lonely, if it's not who you really need.

I've been in a room filled with people, and was lonely.

Yep, been there myself.

 

[ScorpioBeauty09]

I don't see the co-relation here. erplexed

Quote from The Economist cover story on Gendericide Gendercide: The worldwide war on baby girls | The Economist

"Throughout human history, young men have been responsible for the vast preponderance of crime and violence—especially single men in countries where status and social acceptance depend on being married and having children, as it does in China and India. A rising population of frustrated single men spells trouble. The crime rate has almost doubled in China during the past 20 years of rising sex ratios, with stories abounding of bride abduction, the trafficking of women, rape and prostitution. A study into whether these things were connected† concluded that they were, and that higher sex ratios accounted for about one-seventh of the rise in crime. In India, too, there is a correlation between provincial crime rates and sex ratios. In “Bare Branches”††, Valerie Hudson and Andrea den Boer gave warning that the social problems of biased sex ratios would lead to more authoritarian policing. Governments, they say, “must decrease the threat to society posed by these young men. Increased authoritarianism in an effort to crack down on crime, gangs, smuggling and so forth can be one result.”"

 

[chocolat79]

Men don't do well alone. They don't live as long and they act out. In China the gender imbalance leaves 25 million plus--unmarried men of marriageable age and b/c of this the crime rate has increased.

In this day and age men aren't needed per se to continue the human species. It's preferable for a child to have 2 parents but to physically have children all women need is sperm and that's it. Men are very aware of this, the problem is women don't realize our power. My mom and I talked about this yesterday and she says "it's a privilege for a man to have a woman bear his children. Women need to be more particular about who they choose to reproduce with and not do it unless the man has his s*** together."

Men worry about finding good women and women worry about finding good men. The problem is men and women aren't talking to each other.

@bolded-My mom says this ALL the time and I agree. I'm working on using my power (for good, of course), LOL.

 

[Crystalicequeen123]

Men don't do well alone. They don't live as long and they act out. In China the gender imbalance leaves 25 million plus--unmarried men of marriageable age and b/c of this the crime rate has increased.

Men worry about finding good women and women worry about finding good men. The problem is men and women aren't talking to each other.

Yea, men don't do well alone. Wasn't it in the bible where God saw Adam all by himself (before he created Eve), and God said: "It is not good for man to continue on by himself...I will make a helper for him..." etc... Or something of that sort. So, maybe God knew even then that men just don't do well by themselves lol.

Of course men get lonely....EVERYONE get's lonely at some point in time in life. That's just a fact of life. I just think men express it differently from women.

 

[ThickHair]

You can be with someone and still feel lonely. Happens in relationships/marriages all the time.

ITA I felt the most alone when my marriage was failing. Of course his attitude was that at least he was home and not running around on me. I would have preferred that then it would have been easier to disconnect. I wasn't sleeping with his behind anyway.

 

[asakeba]

Quote from The Economist cover story on Gendericide Gendercide: The worldwide war on baby girls | The Economist

"Throughout human history, young men have been responsible for the vast preponderance of crime and violence—especially single men in countries where status and social acceptance depend on being married and having children, as it does in China and India. A rising population of frustrated single men spells trouble. The crime rate has almost doubled in China during the past 20 years of rising sex ratios, with stories abounding of bride abduction, the trafficking of women, rape and prostitution. A study into whether these things were connected† concluded that they were, and that higher sex ratios accounted for about one-seventh of the rise in crime. In India, too, there is a correlation between provincial crime rates and sex ratios. In “Bare Branches”††, Valerie Hudson and Andrea den Boer gave warning that the social problems of biased sex ratios would lead to more authoritarian policing. Governments, they say, “must decrease the threat to society posed by these young men. Increased authoritarianism in an effort to crack down on crime, gangs, smuggling and so forth can be one result.”"

this should have been obvious without the quote. Married men tend to have something to loose by being criminal e.g house, wife, kids, not only that, their wives tend to keep them in check, making them stable, they eat better, behave better . I'm pretty sure most top exec jobs look for married men because they are percieved to be more stable employees.

 

[Imani]

Yes men cannot stand to be alone. They r way worse than women in this respect, or it could just be the ones that I know. I have a lot of male friends and they always have to have a woman around them in some capacity. They simply cannot be alone. Some of them bed hop. Some of them are serial daters, keep a girlfriend but rotate them out every 4 months or so. Some if them have long term relationships but that loneliness still isn't fulfilled and they have sidepieces. Its actually kinda sad and pitiful when u think about it. And yes they r afraid of ending up alone, they all fear being a desperate old man.


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[ebonylocs]

Oh God, yes. I saw a 40+ y-o man burst into tears (it was very brief) on dropping off his wife of over 20 years for the second semester at the dorm she stayed at while completing a degree. She went home most weekends, but it was still tough for him. And I know for sure if she had been in his place, she would have been able to handle it.

 

[crlsweetie912]

Oh yes, that's why I think sometimes women will be in a long relationship with someone, break up, and then the next person that man dates, he marries, because he's fearful about being alone and want's to make sure he's not alone.

 

[calmsensual1]

Of course men are lonely. Thats why prostitution is so popular.

 

[MizAvalon]

Men get lonely just as much as women do. I think the reason that they don't stay single like women do is mostly because of sex. They won't stay celibate for months and years like a woman will.

Oh, and you don't have to be single to be lonely. Many, many married people are lonely.

 

[ThickHair]

Oh yes, that's why I think sometimes women will be in a long relationship with someone, break up, and then the next person that man dates, he marries, because he's fearful about being alone and want's to make sure he's not alone.

More than likely the LTR woman wasn't the one. I don't think it has anything to do with being lonely. That is why women shouldn't play wife for 3+ years of her life without actually being a legal wife. I am pro marriage.