Smiley79
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Since I raised my standards...my dating life declined.
Yup, I barely am approached or meet any one...I been single for almost 6 years now. No matter how busy you stay, it sucks being single most times.
Based on a thread I was just posting in, it made me wonder about this topic. While replying to the post, I realized that my single blues went into overdrive when my standards raised up. I confess, I used to put up with and allow a lot of foolishness just to "be with" someone rather than validate my self worth by waiting for quality men. I would ignore many signs thinking that "he'd be better or change". (yea, the foolish days in my young 20s
erplexed) But thanks to my Bible studys, patience, a change in who I keep as company and a lot of hard work in myself, I'm in a wayyyyy better place and I have more realistic and quality expectations of what to look for in a man now. I tactfully yet firmly decline anything less and dont even allow myself to start a single thing with someone that I know is not along those pages. Unfortunately, I not feel invisible, I can count on a few fingers how many men have approached me in the past 5+ years.
It makes me sad sometimes. ( Ladies, just to be clear, please understand when I say I "raided my standards" I'm not talking about outrageous expectations or standards, so please do not get the idea that I'm waiting for a man dipped in gold with a red bow on top to land at my front door and cook me dinner 7 days a week , massage my feet and pay all my bills).
Anyways, did any of you notice a decline in your dating once you raised your standards of what your deserve in a man or did you notice no changes. I'i'm curious.![Yep :yep: :yep:](/smilies/yep.gif)
Yup, I barely am approached or meet any one...I been single for almost 6 years now. No matter how busy you stay, it sucks being single most times.
Based on a thread I was just posting in, it made me wonder about this topic. While replying to the post, I realized that my single blues went into overdrive when my standards raised up. I confess, I used to put up with and allow a lot of foolishness just to "be with" someone rather than validate my self worth by waiting for quality men. I would ignore many signs thinking that "he'd be better or change". (yea, the foolish days in my young 20s
![Nono :nono: :nono:](/smilies/nono.gif)
Anyways, did any of you notice a decline in your dating once you raised your standards of what your deserve in a man or did you notice no changes. I'i'm curious.
![Yep :yep: :yep:](/smilies/yep.gif)
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