I have that problem, so based on what I've learned about my hair here are two possibilities.
1. Maybe your hair responds better to oil.
2. Maybe your hair reacts badly to products with silicone high in the ingredient list
I would suggest that you look at your products and see if they all have a certain ingredient in common. I that products that dried my hair had the ingredient "cyclopentasiloxane" in common.
Products that work better for me typically are oil based or have "stearyl alcohol" high on the list. So that's what I tend to look for when trying new products.
Good luck!