Crystalicequeen123
Well-Known Member
Okay... I'll try to make this as short and sweet as possible.
This guy and I were never really boyfriend and girlfriend...hence why I say "ex", but I guess you can say that there was an attraction there at some point between us, but we always remained "friends".
Anyway... a few months back he started dating this other chick. I'm cool with it now...it took me a little while to get over some of the pain, but I've definitely moved ON from him. Now that I've seen his true colors, I don't even like him in "that way" anymore.
But now lately, we've been coincidentally running into each other at different events held by mutual friends of ours. Sometimes he's with the girlfriend...and sometimes he's not. I've noticed however, that when he's NOT with the gf, he acts somewhat decent around me. Sometimes he's even downright flirtatious. But whenever I'm in a situation where the gf is around...he treats me coldly...even downright meanly. You would think we didn't even have a history of being friends!
Just this past weekend however, he went waaaay too far. A mutual friend of ours had invited me to this little party she was having. Of course he and the gf were there. But when he saw me, he looked so mad/angry and when he greeted me, he tried to imply that I was "following him" and that I'm "everywhere he is"!
And trust me...I could tell from his face that he was NOT joking. Then he stated something about those friends at the party being "his people", and basically kind of made it clear that he didn't really like my being there.
Umm...first of all, where does he get off trying to "own" people??
Anyway, I was too shocked to even say anything, and second of all he has lost his mind if he thinks that I'm trying to maneuver things to run into him or pine away for him like some sick puppy dog. WHATEVER!
But anyway...I guess my question is.... *When you and a guy have had a falling out (I guess...in a romantic way) and you two have mutual friends, do you AVOID places and decline invitiations to things where you might see him and his new gf??*
I really don't know the protocol, because it wasn't like we were even really dating! I was just going because it sounded like a good time, and his friends are cool w/me. Obviously he's mad at me for some reason, but I don't even know why!
I don't know what he's said about me to his gf (if anything at all), but apparently it hasn't that great, because now days his gf gives me the once over with a snotty look on her face sizing me up like I'm competition or something.
Whatever! I don't even want him anymore! I've long since decided that this guy is NOT for me.
So ladies...what would you? How would you handle this situation? Do you say: "forget him! I can go wherever I dang well please!" and continue to accept invites from friends of his? OR...do you just try to keep your distance and stay low-key for a while until the "dust" settles??
I'm so mad right now I don't know what to do.![Wallbash :wallbash: :wallbash:](/smilies/wallbash.gif)
This guy and I were never really boyfriend and girlfriend...hence why I say "ex", but I guess you can say that there was an attraction there at some point between us, but we always remained "friends".
Anyway... a few months back he started dating this other chick. I'm cool with it now...it took me a little while to get over some of the pain, but I've definitely moved ON from him. Now that I've seen his true colors, I don't even like him in "that way" anymore.
![Nono :nono: :nono:](/smilies/nono.gif)
But now lately, we've been coincidentally running into each other at different events held by mutual friends of ours. Sometimes he's with the girlfriend...and sometimes he's not. I've noticed however, that when he's NOT with the gf, he acts somewhat decent around me. Sometimes he's even downright flirtatious. But whenever I'm in a situation where the gf is around...he treats me coldly...even downright meanly. You would think we didn't even have a history of being friends!
![Shocked :shocked: :shocked:](/smilies/shocked.gif)
Just this past weekend however, he went waaaay too far. A mutual friend of ours had invited me to this little party she was having. Of course he and the gf were there. But when he saw me, he looked so mad/angry and when he greeted me, he tried to imply that I was "following him" and that I'm "everywhere he is"!
![Nuts :nuts: :nuts:](/smilies/nuts.gif)
Umm...first of all, where does he get off trying to "own" people??
![Mad :mad: :mad:](/smilies/mad.gif)
But anyway...I guess my question is.... *When you and a guy have had a falling out (I guess...in a romantic way) and you two have mutual friends, do you AVOID places and decline invitiations to things where you might see him and his new gf??*
I really don't know the protocol, because it wasn't like we were even really dating! I was just going because it sounded like a good time, and his friends are cool w/me. Obviously he's mad at me for some reason, but I don't even know why!
I don't know what he's said about me to his gf (if anything at all), but apparently it hasn't that great, because now days his gf gives me the once over with a snotty look on her face sizing me up like I'm competition or something.
![Nono :nono: :nono:](/smilies/nono.gif)
So ladies...what would you? How would you handle this situation? Do you say: "forget him! I can go wherever I dang well please!" and continue to accept invites from friends of his? OR...do you just try to keep your distance and stay low-key for a while until the "dust" settles??
I'm so mad right now I don't know what to do.
![Wallbash :wallbash: :wallbash:](/smilies/wallbash.gif)