♥Lamaravilla♥
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I want to be on my own for a while.
I have been with my fiance for 6 years now (6th anniversary will be in November). We met when I was 19, he was 23.
Back in 2005 I moved from up North to Florida with my family. We broke up for about a year as neither of us wanted to do the long distance relationship. He eventually relocated to Florida as we decided that we really do love each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together.
We got engaged January 2009. I have been putting off an engagement and a wedding because I want to finish grad school, and I would hate for anything to derail my academic success. Whether it be a husband, a baby, whatever.
I graduate May 2010, and the plan was for us to take a vacation, get married in Europe travel for about 2 months then come home and settle into married adult life.
I don't know if I want to do it.... Don't get me wrong, I love the man with all my heart, and I could never see myself with anyone else. I just want to be independent for a little while before I make the transition into being someone's wife. In all my 25 years I have lived on my own once, and that was only for 6 months, otherwise I have always lived with my grandparents.
I still want to go on the trip
and I want to get married eventually, just not right away... I'm scared to tell him as I don't want him to think I'm rejecting him, or don't love him. I can tell him I love him all I want, but if my actions say otherwise he will likely start to wonder.
Am I being ridiculous? Should I just get married as planned after graduation, or should I try to be completely independent for awhile? I just worry that one day I will be resentful about going straight from my grandparents home to my husband's home and never feel like I accomplished anything on my own.
What say you LHCF?
I have been with my fiance for 6 years now (6th anniversary will be in November). We met when I was 19, he was 23.
Back in 2005 I moved from up North to Florida with my family. We broke up for about a year as neither of us wanted to do the long distance relationship. He eventually relocated to Florida as we decided that we really do love each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together.
We got engaged January 2009. I have been putting off an engagement and a wedding because I want to finish grad school, and I would hate for anything to derail my academic success. Whether it be a husband, a baby, whatever.
I graduate May 2010, and the plan was for us to take a vacation, get married in Europe travel for about 2 months then come home and settle into married adult life.
I don't know if I want to do it.... Don't get me wrong, I love the man with all my heart, and I could never see myself with anyone else. I just want to be independent for a little while before I make the transition into being someone's wife. In all my 25 years I have lived on my own once, and that was only for 6 months, otherwise I have always lived with my grandparents.
I still want to go on the trip
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Am I being ridiculous? Should I just get married as planned after graduation, or should I try to be completely independent for awhile? I just worry that one day I will be resentful about going straight from my grandparents home to my husband's home and never feel like I accomplished anything on my own.
What say you LHCF?