Your a fool. 
) SMDH....forgive her for she knows not what she does. LOL. I am dark and I have grown my hair out...my hair has been barely shoulder length or shorter my whole life....now that I've grown my hair out its b/c my mother has 3b/c hair....WTF. Whatever my hair is (4a mostly) it was that 3 years ago when I was lookin a hot mess so whatever. /rant
My point is ....folks who always have something to say......ALWAYS have something to say...I wouldn't bother trying to prove anything to her. Just do you.
I've tried to help so many people and they act like they are interested then never follow up, then 6 months later they want to know what I'm doing....
I use to ask people with healthy/long hair all of the time what they did just praying they would give me some "secret" I would have been ALL OVER this site ALONG time ago if anyone had ever told me about it.Theres just no helping some people yall.
My aunt was telling my mom (her sister) about how her hair was breaking and falling out, my mom told her your neice knows alot about hair, shes always in hair books/sites/stores.
So i went over her house, looked at her products and explained to her why certain ones were no-good, and some were keepers, explained to her how her hair should be, and what she needed to do ( her hair was really really dry) Wrote her 3 regimens, one for weaves, one for wearing her out, and the other for fake ponytails/buns she likes to wear. Then she asked me how i know all of this stuff, so i went back home ( she lives right next door, RIGHT next door
After all of that work, she told me that i was wasting my time, and i wasted her time, because she didnt see "not one real black woman", she said they were all lightskinned, probally mixed with something or had good hair, ( and she said i got scammed with the cathy howse book) and that there was no way to tell that these people's hair was real, and that the longest a real black persons hair could grow was shoulderlength ect. ect.
It made me so mad because she tried to embarrass me in front of other relatives, she laughed at me, got all loud & everything.
That makes me even more determined to reach my APL goal by christmas for her and everyone else to see
It just sucks that people hold on to beliefs like that
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Theres just no helping some people yall.
My aunt was telling my mom (her sister) about how her hair was breaking and falling out, my mom told her your neice knows alot about hair, shes always in hair books/sites/stores.
So i went over her house, looked at her products and explained to her why certain ones were no-good, and some were keepers, explained to her how her hair should be, and what she needed to do ( her hair was really really dry) Wrote her 3 regimens, one for weaves, one for wearing her out, and the other for fake ponytails/buns she likes to wear. Then she asked me how i know all of this stuff, so i went back home ( she lives right next door
After all of that work, she told me that i was wasting my time, and i wasted her time, because she didnt see "not one real black woman", she said they were all lightskinned, probally mixed with something or had good hair, ( and she said i got scammed with the cathy howse book) and that there was no way to tell that these people's hair was real, and that the longest a real black persons hair could grow was shoulderlength ect. ect.
It made me so mad because she tried to embarrass me in front of other relatives, she laughed at me, got all loud & everything.
That makes me even more determined to reach my APL goal by christmas for her and everyone else to see
It just sucks that people hold on to beliefs like that
I guess i'm not a real black women
Here is what you do........Don't EVER mention hair again. Trust me. Don't talk about what you are learning or what you are doing. When people start going bald around you, don't offer help. Let your progress speak for you.
When I started here, my sisters thought I was crazy. They made jokes about it, told me it was dumb etc... Well now, they are the same ones who call and tell me to "Ask the board......". Over the past two years they have watch my hair totally transform. It looks like a whole different head of hair. I didn't start helping them until they asked me and even then if I felt that they would waste my time I wouldn't say anything. I bought one sister a year's subscription to the site and she never posted. Now, she is asking me to how to renew itMy father has even taken notice of my hair and he doesn't notice anything. If they make remarks about you and your hair journey just smile and act like you didn't hear them. When your hair hanging by your titties and they ask what you did, just say, I wrote it down for you 3 years ago.
I was all ME!LOL, this reminds me of my father. He is the same exact way. The first time he noticed my hair, he asked me where did I buy "that" from. I had to part scalp just to show him, that it was all mine. I understood though. This man has never in all my life seen my hair this long. And I certainly remember my own ignorance. I thought I just didnt have it in my (as opposed to the rest of my family) genes to have long hair. And being mixed or multiracial aint got a dern thing to do with it. People used to look at my family with all their long hair and ask me what the heck happened to me? That used to hurt me so bad...*smh* Now I know, I didnt miss out on no long hair gene
I'm just glad I know now. It aint skin, ethnicity or hair texture, it's how you learn to take care of and retain what is growing out of your head....I wish we all already knew this.
Don't let anyone tell you that you aren't beautiful. I love this new pic. you glow girl.
The older I get, the more I grow to love what I see in the mirror (of course I still have my days! LOL!).
. She would surely 'shut her mouth' then! We have all types of women in our families...all different skin tones and all different hair textures but for the most part everyone is beautifully dark with thick beautiful hair past shoulder length. There are some who are natural and I'm sure they are past shoulder length if they were to relax. A few are BSL and a lot are APL. So I don't know what your aunt is talking about. It's a shame that people---black people---hold such ignorant beliefs about themselves and other black people. Ignorance is bliss....LOL.
