Should you get ALL new underwear when moving from one relationship to the next?

[EMJazzy]

Hmm, maybe its because he is older and latin. Because he also couldn't quite understand why I would get dressed up and still wear tight jeans when he wasn't around. I was like because I dressed like this before i met you and I like it. He felt that when you get past a certain point in a relationship you don't put yourself out there like you did when you were single.

hmmmmmmmmmm...........things to discuss with him.

Thanks Ladies!

I don't care if that man was Barney The Clown......unless he's trying to make you his wife he shouldn't have no say so on YOUR wardrobe, bedroom or otherwise!!!

Girl your man is pissing me off.....let me get outta this thread.

 

[Bint Yusef]

Girl your man is pissing me off.....let me get outta this thread.

 

[gymfreak336]

Sorry but that is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. He either needs to date virgins or grow up.

I wouldn't throw out anything.....Yall know how much a teddy at vickies cost

 

[meaganita]

I wouldn't throw out anything.....Yall know how much a teddy at vickies cost

For real though. And I used to collect lingerie, regardless of whether I had a man or not. Sometimes I feel guilty recycling certain outfits when I know what happened in 'em with the last dude. I keep the outfit, but maybe buy a couple of new ones for my current boo.

Unless you told him specifically, the pink one was for Rico, the black one was for Tyrone, and the little edible number was for Raheem, I don't see why he's trippin.

If it were me, I'd tell him to miss me with that bullcrap. Watch him girl...he sound like a looney toon on the slow creep.

 

[slimting]

Me, I say no, unless it's something you want to do for yourself.

Plus, I was just thinking, if I happened to start up a relationship right now, how would my man know what underwear I "might" have worn in the past for a previous boyfriend versus stuff I've never worn before for a man? I mean, how does he know what you wore or didn't wear?

I've bought some sexy lingerie/underwear just on my own (like the limited edition Victoria's Secret stuff) and thought to myself that it would be nice to wear in the future for a man when I got one. So really, how does your SO know what you have or have not worn and for whom?

It just sounds too controlling to me. And I haven't been in a lot of longterm relationships, but I've never had a man make that statement or heard men just talking in general about it.

(And you still never said if he felt the same way about his OWN underwear.... )

Ok, he said he would throw out all his boxers if I asked him too. He said he found some for 2 dollars so replacing them wouldn't be a problem.

He said the thought of me running around in pretty pants that someone else was mixing juices with me in just bothers him, but its a territorial thing. It's like if they are tainted. I was like damn, so am I tainted.

He said no there is a difference.

 

[slimting]

Watch him girl...he sound like a looney toon on the slow creep.[/quote]

LOL, I'm dying. He is really not a total a$$ most of the time. Like I said he didn't demand it, he just suggested it because he didn't think I needed to keep them. He said he dated more conservative women before me, so I think he doesn't understand why I do what I do. He has no problem with me going to the club with my friends, or me having male friends. As far as the clothes go, he said by dressing a certain way it's as if you want to attract attention, and if you are in a loving relationship you shouldn't need to look for that attention.

I had already gotten rid of the nightgowns, I only had a handful so it wasn't a big loss. I didn't go out and buy new ones either. I'll keep the rest of my underwear and tell him to just deal with it.