BeeYoung1
New Member
Thank you to everyone who gave their 2 cents on the question I posted a few days ago “ Should I tell Him?”. Some of your posts were very insightful. Unfortunately, now I’m even more confused! So many folks say “ don’t tell” with really good reasons and the ones who say that “ I should tell” have good reasons also. I gained a lot of perspective but I’m still in the same place I started. I know this is a decision that I have to make on my own but I am just so confused about this one. Both of the consequences just seem so unbearable! I guess I have some more soul searching to do. I guess I have to admit that I’m leaning towards telling him. Only because deep inside I feel it’s the right thing to do. A part of feels like if he stays with me he’ll just use it as an excuse to cheat behind my back or say “See! Your’e just like me after all!”. I would hate to give him that satisfaction. But it is getting harder and harder to look him in the eye and even harder to look at myself in the mirror. Not sure if I want to live the next 20 years like this. Anybody know how much a one way ticket to the moon is. Lol?
(Original Post)
When my DH and I were in high School as BF and GF I "literally" caught him cheating on me with my so called cousin. We broke up and then somehow got back together (long story ). Years later we got married and after the first 2 years of marriage I think he cheated on me again but I was not really sure. I got so mad that (regretfully ) I cheated on him too. I never told him and I still feel guilty about it. Should I tell him and clear my concious? Sometimes I feel like such a fake even though I really love him and I'm positive that he really loves me. I've been told by some that if we have real love then we will be able to get passed it. But I'm just afraid and not really sure. Any Advice out there from older members?
(Original Post)
When my DH and I were in high School as BF and GF I "literally" caught him cheating on me with my so called cousin. We broke up and then somehow got back together (long story ). Years later we got married and after the first 2 years of marriage I think he cheated on me again but I was not really sure. I got so mad that (regretfully ) I cheated on him too. I never told him and I still feel guilty about it. Should I tell him and clear my concious? Sometimes I feel like such a fake even though I really love him and I'm positive that he really loves me. I've been told by some that if we have real love then we will be able to get passed it. But I'm just afraid and not really sure. Any Advice out there from older members?