hello all
longtime member rare poster here. I NEED YOUR HELP
I went natural in 2012 after keeping my hair braided for a few months then cutting. Through the almighty knowledge of LHCF I grew my hair to MBL in about 4 years. I was lucky and didnt experience any set backs or much damage during that time.
But then in March I did something that I knew from LHCF that I shouldn't have done. I went to the hair salon and had my hair flat ironed. My mom had died and my sister and I were running around arranging the funerl that whole week, then it was the day before the funeral and we had family coming into town. I looked a hot mess and my sister was going to the salon. So I thought what the heck they cant mess me up too bad.
Well I'm here to say she did in fact mess me up very badly. For one she was natural herself (this gave me hope) though her hair didnt look the best. She kept complimenting me on my hair and asked about my regimen. For all the damage my hair received she did not even get my hair straight. When I left the salon my hair was poofy already. By the next morning it look like a poorly done blow out. When I washed my hair a few days later I just about cried. I have 4a hair but it was not curling or coiling like at all. Oddly it is not straight anywhere it is just permanently poofy and brittle. I have done protein treatments and looooooong deep conditions and its just not snapping back. Also it is breaking BADLY, Even with all tender love and care I have been attempting to give it is now at APL. My twists dont look the same and I cant even get a defined twist out. My puff is looking sparse and in general I just hate the look and feel of my hair.
And so the question is with the goal of long natural healthy hair in mind. Do you all think it would be better to gradually cut the damage off while keeping it braided/buying a wig or should I just cut it all off and start fresh(I have a tappered twa in mind).
My fear with the gradual cutting is that the damage might just keep traveling up the shaft as it grows so my hair is never healthy. And my fear with the twa is I remember how long it took grow my hair out the first time. PLEASE HELP I NEED HELP DECIDING.
longtime member rare poster here. I NEED YOUR HELP
I went natural in 2012 after keeping my hair braided for a few months then cutting. Through the almighty knowledge of LHCF I grew my hair to MBL in about 4 years. I was lucky and didnt experience any set backs or much damage during that time.
But then in March I did something that I knew from LHCF that I shouldn't have done. I went to the hair salon and had my hair flat ironed. My mom had died and my sister and I were running around arranging the funerl that whole week, then it was the day before the funeral and we had family coming into town. I looked a hot mess and my sister was going to the salon. So I thought what the heck they cant mess me up too bad.
Well I'm here to say she did in fact mess me up very badly. For one she was natural herself (this gave me hope) though her hair didnt look the best. She kept complimenting me on my hair and asked about my regimen. For all the damage my hair received she did not even get my hair straight. When I left the salon my hair was poofy already. By the next morning it look like a poorly done blow out. When I washed my hair a few days later I just about cried. I have 4a hair but it was not curling or coiling like at all. Oddly it is not straight anywhere it is just permanently poofy and brittle. I have done protein treatments and looooooong deep conditions and its just not snapping back. Also it is breaking BADLY, Even with all tender love and care I have been attempting to give it is now at APL. My twists dont look the same and I cant even get a defined twist out. My puff is looking sparse and in general I just hate the look and feel of my hair.
And so the question is with the goal of long natural healthy hair in mind. Do you all think it would be better to gradually cut the damage off while keeping it braided/buying a wig or should I just cut it all off and start fresh(I have a tappered twa in mind).
My fear with the gradual cutting is that the damage might just keep traveling up the shaft as it grows so my hair is never healthy. And my fear with the twa is I remember how long it took grow my hair out the first time. PLEASE HELP I NEED HELP DECIDING.