SHOULD I CUT HER HAIR?

sterry

sterry

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My daughter only stands 3 feet 6 inches and her hair is past her bottom. It actually sits right in the bends of the back of her knees.
The problem is she is constantly getting it caught or tangled in something even when it is braided or rolled in place.
Therefore she has a lot of breakage. When I braid her hair is first nice and neat but after awhile little uneven and broken pieces come out from her braid. It looks so sloppy.
Should I cut to uniform the hair a bit more? About 5 inches I am thinking. I would like to post a pick but not sure how.
 
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Well, if it is damaged, it should be cut just to ensure that the broken ends don't turn to splits and then travel up the hair shaft and create more damage.

Why doesn't she wear her hair up more often? There has to be some type of style she can do to keep her hair out of the way...
 
Pictures would help me to really judge.

If it's that long (btw congratulations on getting your daughter's hair that long) I would cut the damaged ends. And find some styles for her that keep her hair up. Like a few buns. Get some cute ribbons and non-damaging clips to accessorize. I would keep her hair up as much as possible, you don't want it getting caught in anything major and causing her to lose a lot of hair. I would also talk to her about being aware of her hair when she is closing a door behind her or playing with friends etc.

I hope this helps.
 
Well ladies,
Her hair is all natural. I have no relaxers and never apply heat so it is not damaged.
The only way she wears her hair is in one braid. I usually roll it up and put a silk scrunchie around it.
She wear a silk bonnet at night.
I never let her wear her hair loose.
She will be seven in January. The hair is not damaged, as I trim about every 3 months....it just that she has had some pulled out here and there.
Once she got in caught in a slide. There was a nail ajarred. She caught it right at the root and pulled out a slew of hair.
She had in in a ponytail a few times and got it knotted and tangled. Lost some then.
Could someone help me put up a pic?
 
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Wow she has some loooooooooooooooooong hair, mashaAllah, it looks beutiful and health. I don't know what to tell ya, I guess anything up will do, If you really thing cutting it will be the best thing to do for her safety then do so maybe waistlength will be a little easier. I would ask her and explain why first, if she is really attatched to her hair. Other than that box platts, cornrows, french twist, all going up will be fine. May I ask, is her hair naturally straight or do you blowdry? because I know you said you don't use heat. If her hair isn't naturally straight, what is her shrinkage like, because maybe that will be easier to deal w/in regards to the length. HTH
 
No, no heat here. Her hair is naturally straight ...though some areas around her face have very loose wave. This was a simple wash and dry early this morning. I comb hair to smooth while slightly damp. I usually use 2 large silk scarves and wrap it around her hair down to the ends. Allow it to dry.
Afterwards I add a little Dabur Vatika Hair oil and brush to smooth.

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/gallery/showphoto.php/photo/1212
 
OMG Sterry! That's a beauuuuuuuutifullllll head of hair your daughter has there! If you are really worried about it getting caught so much, I would say cut it and just maintain it at waist length until she is old enough to be more careful and cautious about it, cause if you don't cut it now, it will only get longer and will be that much easier to come out. Looks as if her hair grows at a great rate (if she is just 7 and it's at that length already), so by the time when she gets to the age when she can properly care for it herself, she won't have a problem growing it back out to the length she wants to.

(hey, if you do decide to cut, be sure to donate to Locks of Love!!)
 
sterry said:
No, no heat here. Her hair is naturally straight ...though some areas around her face have very loose wave. This was a simple wash and dry early this morning. I comb hair to smooth while slightly damp. I usually use 2 large silk scarves and wrap it around her hair down to the ends. Allow it to dry.
Afterwards I add a little Dabur Vatika Hair oil and brush to smooth.

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/gallery/showphoto.php/photo/1212
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Her hair is so beautiful! But I have to say that I'd cut it - about 5-6 inches. Shorter hair - may be easier and comfortable for her (and you). When she gets older and can take care of it she can decide if she wants to grow it out again.
 
I would cut it to waist length as well since it's knee length right now and that would be cumbersome for anyone, adult or child. Gorgeous hair, though. :)
 
I try to get her hair trim about every three months.
I recall one time we were camping. She screamed "Mommy my hair is caught" by the time I ran to the tent she said "That's okay I got it" I didn't think anything of it.
That night I comb her hair a chunk of hair slide out! She had about a nickel size ball spot in her scalp. She pulled it out from the root. It has grown back since then but she has a permanent part there.
She is tiny for her age too. 3 feet 6 inches and only weighs 43 pounds. So that is alot of hair for a little one.

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/gallery/showphoto.php/photo/1212
 
Now that I see the a picture...WOW, beautiful head of hair...I agree with the other women, I would cut it to waist length or just above the waist. It will be much easier to deal with I think, and it seems she will have no trouble at all growing it back.

Great job on her hair though!!
 
Her hair is beautiful. It doesn't even look real it's so shiny, like wig hair :lol: Yes, I would cut it. I wouldn't cut it short, maybe to mid-back length. She's so short, the length seems to be overwhelming her frame and it's causing her a great deal of pain and inconveince.
Just my .02
 
Lawd have mercy where is the rest of her? LOL That is alotta hair my goodness!

I would cut it somewhere between mid back and waist. It's gonna grow back to where it once was anyway in a snap!
 
That is a lot of hair! Almost unbelieveable :eek: ! To keep from injuring herself I would consider cutting it or keeping it up, but at that rate her hair will be on the ground before she is 10! :eek:
 
Your daughter's hair is gorgeous! I can certainly see how it would be hard to hold it up in a bun or twist, though, especially since it is naturally straight. Since you said it is getting damaged and causing some dangerous situations for her, I do think it would be good to cut it a little bit.

Fortunately, five inches or so won't make it look too much shorter, but it should be much more comfortable and safer for her. Be certain to give her plenty of warning before cutting it, though (I'm sure you'd do that). As the other ladies have said, when she is taller and better able to manage it, it will grow back quickly if she wants. :yep:
 
You did an excellent job with her hair! :up: If it's ok with your daughter, I agree with Blackbarbie about donating some of her hair to Locks of Love. It would make another little girl very happy and your daughter would feel good about it too.
 
Isis said:
You did an excellent job with her hair! :up: If it's ok with your daughter, I agree with Blackbarbie about donating some of her hair to Locks of Love. It would make another little girl very happy and your daughter would feel good about it too.
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Great suggestion Isis, I agree.
 
Hello Ladies.


I thought about Locks of Love as well. My husband grew his hair out for 3 years and donated it to Locks of Love.
I may remove at least 4-5 inches from it. She seems not have any trouble with it and it is easy to manage. I just to like all the broken pieces.
Or perhaps it could be new har trying to grow in.
Thanks
 
aivonfay said:
Great suggestion Isis, I agree.
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I agree as well about Locks of Love. I told my 10yr old daughter to come and look at the pic.
She agreed too. She is so blessed not to go thur all the drama we face to obtain her length. What does your daughter think about cutting it?
 
Hi Sterry,

To me the answer is obvious. Cut it. No question. I haven't heard any reasons NOT to cut it. Furthermore, I wonder what kind of message she's getting when she's enduring all sorts of inconveniences for the sake of length.

She's so young it'll grow back like THAT. I've cut my oldest daughter's hair twice and before you know it, it's back to it's original length. She'll be 11 in 12 days so I'm passing on the torch to her as far as being responsible for her hair. I'll just help her with trims. When she was younger the thickness and length of her hair just made it time consuming. We had other things we wanted to do with our lives besides be worried about hair. Long hair was not her worth and she grew to enjoy the convenience of shorter hair. Now that she's older and can take care of it, she wants to see how long it will grow.

Cut it. Share the "wealth". Stop the chance of snagging and pulling, bald spots, etc. Liberate her for now. It'll grow back.

Hth,
P1
 
yokourt said:
I agree as well about Locks of Love. I told my 10yr old daughter to come and look at the pic.
She agreed too. She is so blessed not to go thur all the drama we face to obtain her length. What does your daughter think about cutting it?
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Well,
I have told her that I wanted to cut it. I have shown her the length that it wll be afterwards by wrapping 5 inches up in a rubberband.
She said "No mommy" it's okay.
She does well with her hair. She keeps it in front of her in gymnastics or at church so the others children won't be tempted to play with it. She tells me "Mommy I tell the children very polited not to touch my hair"
I will definitely cut some.
I know my husband doesn't want me too, but he will understand.
 
sterry said:
Well,
I have told her that I wanted to cut it. I have shown her the length that it wll be afterwards by wrapping 5 inches up in a rubberband.
She said "No mommy" it's okay.
She does well with her hair. She keeps it in front of her in gymnastics or at church so the others children won't be tempted to play with it. She tells me "Mommy I tell the children very polited not to touch my hair"
I will definitely cut some.
I know my husband doesn't want me too, but he will understand.
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:littleang She sounds like a sweetheart! She'll be fine and it's good that at a young age she is comfortable who she is and doesn't let her hair define her.
 
patient1 said:
Hi Sterry,

To me the answer is obvious. Cut it. No question. I haven't heard any reasons NOT to cut it. Furthermore, I wonder what kind of message she's getting when she's enduring all sorts of inconveniences for the sake of length.

She's so young it'll grow back like THAT. I've cut my oldest daughter's hair twice and before you know it, it's back to it's original length. She'll be 11 in 12 days so I'm passing on the torch to her as far as being responsible for her hair. I'll just help her with trims. When she was younger the thickness and length of her hair just made it time consuming. We had other things we wanted to do with our lives besides be worried about hair. Long hair was not her worth and she grew to enjoy the convenience of shorter hair. Now that she's older and can take care of it, she wants to see how long it will grow.

Cut it. Share the "wealth". Stop the chance of snagging and pulling, bald spots, etc. Liberate her for now. It'll grow back.

Hth,
P1
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I agree with patient1.

First off your daughter has very, very beautiful hair!

It seems like your daughter is so young to have to deal with such long hair. At that age she should be able to play and live a childs life with out worrying about pulling out hair. She sounds very mature about her hair and it's care, but don't try to save it because of it's length. If you cut it, I am pretty sure that it will grow back. I think cutting it about mid back will still give her "long hair" but it won't be so long for a small child her age.

Not trying to tell you what to do, because YOU ARE THE MOMMA!! ;) Just giving my two cents. Be blessed!!
 
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Ya know, since she doesn't want to cut it. Instead of a big chop. Just take off a few inches every couple of weeks so she can ease into it. I think it should at least come up a few inches so it's no longer behind her knees. Maybe a good lenght she could consider is to her fingertips and then her wrist.
 
Her hair is so long and beautiful. I hate to say cut it, but I keep thinking about what you said about her hair getting caught in a slide. And the first thing that came to mind was all the dangerous playground equipment kids come in to contact with and how her hair could become dangerously entagled in it. That length just doesn't seem practical for a child so young. I think that length would be ok when she gets old enough to learn how to put her braids back up when they come loose. For now, waist length would probably be best.
 
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