LBoogie
Well-Known Member
One of my girlfriends has been with this guy for about two years…He is everything she never wanted, short, beyond bony, (he’s about 5’3 and saying he’s 120 is generous – while she is about 5’8 135 or so) he's not cute, drama out of the wazoo (two kids, ex wife, baby mama and her second baby daddy drama – she always said she would never date a man with kids, this fool went with a man that has TWO!). He’s 10 years older than her, etc…Anyway, She blew him off for two years and went back to her hometown (couldn’t afford to finish school). After the two years hiatus, she started seeing him against her own and everyone elses better judgement, because she looked at him as a quick way out…he promised to help her get back into undergrad and move her back to the state he was in (where she initially started undergrad). He ended up moving im (he was still married)…she went through his divorce drama with him while his ex wife shacked up in his house with her new man. He and she ended up moving again (this time her name is the only one on the lease) and THEY got a car together (he had to give his truck up in the divorce and doesn’t have a license so his name is only on the car note, not the registration, etc).
Now, her issue is, he’s always broke (child support is a *****) but he pays all of the bills, she recently got a job making a few dollars (shes been job hopping for years) but not enough to support herself and has a year left in undergrad. she is really down on herself for even being with him, she just wants him gone but keeps him around for financial purposes. She has no real friends (Ive only seen her 3 times in the whole time she’s been back and we only like about 20 minutes away, we communicate via IM) because of him and his insecurities. There is always drama every other weekend (when his kids go to spend the weekend with “them” because she has told him she doesn’t want a relationship with his children (he knew this BEFORE he even met her, he knew he wasn’t her type before he met her as well, but he pressed a mutual friend of theirs to introduce them and she [my friend] made sure he knew these things after the fact).
I really don’t know what to tell her other than the things I already have which are…cut him loose and struggle because stuggling financially is better than wasting years with someone you cant stand.
what more can she do, better yet, what more can I tell her?
Just in my chats with her she isn’t the same person she once was, its like her spirit has been broken down.
There is more to this whole things but I didnt want to overload you guys so I just gave the basics. LOL
Now, her issue is, he’s always broke (child support is a *****) but he pays all of the bills, she recently got a job making a few dollars (shes been job hopping for years) but not enough to support herself and has a year left in undergrad. she is really down on herself for even being with him, she just wants him gone but keeps him around for financial purposes. She has no real friends (Ive only seen her 3 times in the whole time she’s been back and we only like about 20 minutes away, we communicate via IM) because of him and his insecurities. There is always drama every other weekend (when his kids go to spend the weekend with “them” because she has told him she doesn’t want a relationship with his children (he knew this BEFORE he even met her, he knew he wasn’t her type before he met her as well, but he pressed a mutual friend of theirs to introduce them and she [my friend] made sure he knew these things after the fact).
I really don’t know what to tell her other than the things I already have which are…cut him loose and struggle because stuggling financially is better than wasting years with someone you cant stand.
what more can she do, better yet, what more can I tell her?
Just in my chats with her she isn’t the same person she once was, its like her spirit has been broken down.
There is more to this whole things but I didnt want to overload you guys so I just gave the basics. LOL
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