'self Loving' When You Have A Significant Other

[SheenaVee]

Is it weird to 'self love' when you have a significant other?

It seems that if a woman says she has a toy or 'self loves' and she has a SO people are always like, 'why do you need that when you have the real thing?' Or they assume her man isn't satisfying her or has a small peen or something.

But I think there's nothing wrong with a bit of self love, even if you're in a relationship. And it doesn't always mean the woman isn't satisfied by her SO.

For example:

- What about times when your SO is away or even just out and you get the urge but he's not around?
- Self loving and colouring feel different and the climaxes are different types.
- Sometimes you just want to have the self love type of climax over the other.

I bet people don't find it weird for men in relationships to occasionally jack it.

Thoughts?

 

[Chrismiss]

Interesting. I never thought about this. Good topic.

 

[Lucie]

Why would self-love ever stop?

 

[IslandMummy]

Those negative people have no place in your life!

 

[PretteePlease]

man i'm greedy i will get some love then self love in his face *** out of here

sometimes self love is the only way to get back to sleep

Men don't stop self lovin when they get a woman

 

[PrissiSippi]

man i'm greedy i will get some love then self love in his face *** out of here

sometimes self love is the only way to get back to sleep

Men don't stop self lovin when they get a woman

EXACTLY! Men do this err day. Shoot I self-love all the time. I had a session this morning. I wanted to savor every minute just for myself. DH decided to wake up and watch. I kept going, but I really wanted to be stingy and finish in the shower.

 

[SheenaVee]

Those negative people have no place in your life!

Oh no, no one has said anything like that to me. I don't go around sharing my self love habits . It's just in general I hear this notion.

 

[qchelle]

Girl bye

 

[KimPossibli]

SO's like to see you self love though..

I mean so I've heard...

 

[lesedi]

Times are changing on this board

 

[DarkJoy]

SO's like to see you self love though..

I mean so I've heard...

Yea!

I mean...yea.. I heard this rumor too

 

[bajandoc86]

Yea!

I mean...yea.. I heard this rumor too

They love it. Ain't no rumor, all facts.

 

[caribeandiva]

Why would self-love ever stop?

seriously!

 

[caribeandiva]

SO's like to see you self love though..

I mean so I've heard...

Yea!

I mean...yea.. I heard this rumor too

y'all are a trip

Since men are visual creatures I can't imagine a bigger turn-on for them than that!

 

[Honey Bee]

I didn't start self-loving until I had an SO. Is that weird?

 

[caribeandiva]

I didn't start self-loving until I had an SO. Is that weird?

He got you turnt

 

[FelaShrine]

is this with toys or regula degula fingas

 

[caribeandiva]

is this with toys or regula degula fingas

Both

 

[FelaShrine]

Boooo fingers

 

[TayMac]

People that don't EVER do it are weird to me.

 

[PeaceLover]

People that don't EVER do it are weird to me.

I never do it. I can only recall once in my life that I actually did it. I might do it in front of SO and see what he thinks.

 

[Bronxcutie]

I will never stop self lovin'! My man does a good job, but we don't live together yet and sometimes I need it! Plus, no one knows your body better than you! I think it helped my sex life as I have gotten older because it helped me with expressing what I needed sexually from my partner. The fact that I do it is a turn on for my man!

 

[ladysaraii]

Boooo fingers

Nah, don't down fingers.

*tmi alert*

I recently had to take that avenue after my trusty wahl suddenly died. (I thought I was about to cry) and manual love is quite delightful. I need to revisit that more.

 

[SheenaVee]

I didn't start self-loving until I had an SO. Is that weird?

Omg me too!

 

[FelaShrine]

Nah, don't down fingers.

*tmi alert*

I recently had to take that avenue after my trusty wahl suddenly died. (I thought I was about to cry) and manual love is quite delightful. I need to revisit that more.

meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeh.

 

[PretteePlease]

is this with toys or regula degula fingas

i hate toys but cause of ya'll will do ben wah balls for cooch exercise or jade eggs

I didn't start self-loving until I had an SO. Is that weird?

say what nah? you just had a real dry spell or you move from one so directly to the next cause

like it never said hey i'm alive down here check on me?

 

[FelaShrine]

i dont cnsider those eggs or balls "toys"

 

[Fine 4s]

Perfect timing. I got all in my feelings when he was self loving.
I did feel some time of way, not gonna lie.

 

[ladysaraii]

Perfect timing. I got all in my feelings when he was self loving.
I did feel some time of way, not gonna lie.

Would you mind explaining why? Did he do it while you were home and available? I can see it bothering me in some circumstances where it would bother me, particularly if I were right there.

 

[Fine 4s]

@ladysaraii
He was at his place and I wasn't around but he's just a phone call away; call me!
I got over it *shrug*[/QUOTE]