A friend and I sat down together yesterday and decided to try a "Focus on Ourselves" Challenge for the remainder of this year. We're both young, around the same age, and want to be married, but for whatever reason haven't found "The One" yet.
For a long time, I think my friend and I were making our "search" for The One the main focus of our lives, and in turn feeling downhearted if things with a particular guy didn't work out, etc. But now that we've started this Focus on Ourselves Challenge for the mid-point part of the year and onward, I think it's going to completely change our focus for the BETTER.
We wrote down goals, hobbies, activities and things we want to accomplish for the remainder of this year. Not only are we both on a health and fitness challenge already, but we're also focusing on getting back into some of our hobbies (reading, sewing, knitting, cooking, jewelry-making, traveling, etc) again, and finding time to do things that we may have put on the back burner.
Personally, I'm excited!!!
And I think this will also in turn help us to recognize our self-worth, and not base our self-worth on OUTSIDE factors (ie. being single vs. being married, dating vs. not dating, etc...) . Not only that, but I think our self-esteem will grow, and because we're focused on ourselves, that will probably be when we actually find someone instead of spending our years anxiously waiting or searching for "The One".