deltagyrl
Well-Known Member
I think @letskeepntouch and @Zaynab hit the nail on the head.
I don't get that he's trying to be any of the negative things posted upthread. My op doesn't read (to me) like I think he's a jerk. I think quite highly of him, actually.
I have realized that I have some serious relationship issues that I have to address if I ever want to have a successful relationship. I play mind games, probably because I've become so accustomed to being played with. I manipulate situations to get what I want. I have some trust issues due to my proclivity to love men who were un-trustworthy. As a result I have become almost ice-like in my interactions with men.
Now, I wasn't even aware that I was doing all of these things prior to meeting this guy.
When I started with the games, he immediately called bs. I was offended because he dared to challenge "the great" deltagyrl but once I simmered down, I realized that he was right. When I pushed him away and withheld myself, he called me out. When I tried to lump him with previous dudes who'd done me wrong, he called me on it. I've shared things with him about my father (and our notsogreat relationship) that I've never said out loud and he gave GREAT advice.
I feel like I'm growing.
Now, is he still blunt? Yes. Opinionated? Yes. Have a very definite idea of gender roles? Yes. Strong-willed? Yes. Exasperating sometimes? Yes.
He's also very loving and tender and protective and kind.
I guess I kinda feel like I need to get on the good foot if I want him to stay and I've never been in that position before.
I don't get that he's trying to be any of the negative things posted upthread. My op doesn't read (to me) like I think he's a jerk. I think quite highly of him, actually.
I have realized that I have some serious relationship issues that I have to address if I ever want to have a successful relationship. I play mind games, probably because I've become so accustomed to being played with. I manipulate situations to get what I want. I have some trust issues due to my proclivity to love men who were un-trustworthy. As a result I have become almost ice-like in my interactions with men.
Now, I wasn't even aware that I was doing all of these things prior to meeting this guy.
When I started with the games, he immediately called bs. I was offended because he dared to challenge "the great" deltagyrl but once I simmered down, I realized that he was right. When I pushed him away and withheld myself, he called me out. When I tried to lump him with previous dudes who'd done me wrong, he called me on it. I've shared things with him about my father (and our notsogreat relationship) that I've never said out loud and he gave GREAT advice.
I feel like I'm growing.
Now, is he still blunt? Yes. Opinionated? Yes. Have a very definite idea of gender roles? Yes. Strong-willed? Yes. Exasperating sometimes? Yes.
He's also very loving and tender and protective and kind.
I guess I kinda feel like I need to get on the good foot if I want him to stay and I've never been in that position before.
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