I haven't posted in a long time (never really posted a lot; mostly lurked) but I need advice, opinions, thoughts, something.
Today a family member sent me a message asking if she can ask me something without any questions. Then she asked if I will make sure her kids are ok if something happens to her. Now I'm scared, hurt, angry and just feel lost. I'm thinking the issue is her blood pressure. It's been high for a while. Last I heard, it was 160/100. She's struggling to lose weight (I don't feel she's putting in enough effort). She doesn't take the medication the doctors prescribed because she says she's scared because she keeps reading about side effects like heart attacks, strokes and death. And I honestly think she's been suffering from postpartum depression (her last child is almost two). Over the past few months, she's made comments about being scared and so tired she can't force herself to get out of bed. Another family member said she told them she's pretty sure she's dying.
I don't know what to do. I obviously can't force a grown person to take care of their health but I can't just give up on her either. Should I go to her house and force her to talk to me about what's going on? What can I do when it seems like she's given up? She's only 34. I'm stressing and worried and don't know what to do.
Today a family member sent me a message asking if she can ask me something without any questions. Then she asked if I will make sure her kids are ok if something happens to her. Now I'm scared, hurt, angry and just feel lost. I'm thinking the issue is her blood pressure. It's been high for a while. Last I heard, it was 160/100. She's struggling to lose weight (I don't feel she's putting in enough effort). She doesn't take the medication the doctors prescribed because she says she's scared because she keeps reading about side effects like heart attacks, strokes and death. And I honestly think she's been suffering from postpartum depression (her last child is almost two). Over the past few months, she's made comments about being scared and so tired she can't force herself to get out of bed. Another family member said she told them she's pretty sure she's dying.
I don't know what to do. I obviously can't force a grown person to take care of their health but I can't just give up on her either. Should I go to her house and force her to talk to me about what's going on? What can I do when it seems like she's given up? She's only 34. I'm stressing and worried and don't know what to do.