LivingDol1
Well-Known Member
Hi ladies,
Needing some advice.... My SO and I have been dating for almost 1 year. Things have been going pretty well up until maybe 3 weeks ago? But really, I've been having trouble adjusting into the "comfort zone". The more comfortable he gets with me, the more lax he is about things. We are in touch most days but he rarely calls. We used to email a lot in the beginning but that has pretty much stopped. I miss those things.
We see each other regularly on the weekends. A few weeks ago when he came over after not seeing me for 6 days he said, "I feel like I haven't seen you in such a long time!" So, I suggested we make a plan to see each other once during the week and still spend weekends together.
There is so much that he assumes that I know but... Unless he tells me, I really don't. For example-- he bought tix to a soccer game in his hometown for June but right before then, he said that he wasn't in the mood to travel. This bothered me bc I've wanted us to go on a trip together this year. We discussed this later and he said that visiting his hometown isn't like going on a trip and that every time he goes home, I should know that he always intends for me to go with him if I want to.
We have so many miscommunication issues. It's so frustrating b/c I really do love him and care about him. He says he loves me and he doesn't want to give up on us b/c we want the same things out of life in the long term. We both say that we are happier with each other more than we are upset with each other. But these moments are tough.
I don't want to force him to behave in a way that doesn't feel natural. But I also don't want to feel insecure or question his feelings towards me b/c of his lax attitude. I also haven't been in a relationship for 5 years prior to this and before that-- have dated so many duds.
Any advice? Sorry this is so long.
Needing some advice.... My SO and I have been dating for almost 1 year. Things have been going pretty well up until maybe 3 weeks ago? But really, I've been having trouble adjusting into the "comfort zone". The more comfortable he gets with me, the more lax he is about things. We are in touch most days but he rarely calls. We used to email a lot in the beginning but that has pretty much stopped. I miss those things.
We see each other regularly on the weekends. A few weeks ago when he came over after not seeing me for 6 days he said, "I feel like I haven't seen you in such a long time!" So, I suggested we make a plan to see each other once during the week and still spend weekends together.
There is so much that he assumes that I know but... Unless he tells me, I really don't. For example-- he bought tix to a soccer game in his hometown for June but right before then, he said that he wasn't in the mood to travel. This bothered me bc I've wanted us to go on a trip together this year. We discussed this later and he said that visiting his hometown isn't like going on a trip and that every time he goes home, I should know that he always intends for me to go with him if I want to.
We have so many miscommunication issues. It's so frustrating b/c I really do love him and care about him. He says he loves me and he doesn't want to give up on us b/c we want the same things out of life in the long term. We both say that we are happier with each other more than we are upset with each other. But these moments are tough.
I don't want to force him to behave in a way that doesn't feel natural. But I also don't want to feel insecure or question his feelings towards me b/c of his lax attitude. I also haven't been in a relationship for 5 years prior to this and before that-- have dated so many duds.
Any advice? Sorry this is so long.