Relaxed Hair Thread

[ItsMeLilLucky]

I tried to do braids and the hair kept tangling up, so I switched to marley hair to do twists. Then the hair kept sliding down, so I braided my actual hair and crocheted the marley hair through it, then twisted it.

 

[alundra]

Another of my OG products is getting hard to find.

ORS Carrot Oil

I discovered this even before I found LHCF. I was reading hair blogs and this woman swore by this stuff. Her hair description sounded like mine - dry, coarse, relaxed, etc. I have some, but I can't find it in stores anymore. Only online. That's usually the first sign.

Oh nooooo let me get to the shops and buy some more before they run out! That's really a shame.

 

[sunnieb]

Oh nooooo let me get to the shops and buy some more before they run out! That's really a shame.

Just got an email alert from ORS Haircare website that they have some in stock. I ordered 3.

Here's the link.

 

[alundra]

Just got an email alert from ORS Haircare website that they have some in stock. I ordered 3.

Here's the link.

Good news! I'm glad there's some in stock.

Meanwhile I haven't seen Hawaiian Silky 14-in-1 leave in since 2020. I keep checking various BBS and there are a few places online but I don't trust them (amazon will use fakes or straight up send the wrong product). I don't live in the US so I can't order directly from their website.

 

[Theresamonet]

I did it. I’m still in shock though.

 

[Plushottie]

I did it. I’m still in shock though.

We wanna see

 

[LushLox]

I did it. I’m still in shock though.

Wow, I'll bet. Are you happy with the outcome?

 

[Theresamonet]

We wanna see

 

[Theresamonet]

Wow, I'll bet. Are you happy with the outcome?

I think I am.

I’m just so used to the bulk of my natural hair, that I feel kinda bald now. I also didn’t get a good look at my hair wet or the shape of the hair after the cut, so I can’t be thoroughly satisfied.

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My stylist was being weird. I had to have my hair done by the owner, because I guess she’s the only one old enough to remember how to do a relaxer. But she was a total ‘know it all’. She says to me, “you know you have to get rid of all your hair products, right? Cause you can’t use natural products on relaxed hair”. I told her that she doesn’t even know what I got… Later she says that I have to make sure I’m not trying to use oils on my hair, because relaxed hair has a coating on it that prevents oils from getting through. So I have to use moisturizer. Of course I’m going to use a moisturizer, but what is this coating she talking about??

 

[Plushottie]

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Your gorgeous hair gorgeous.

 

[Theresamonet]

Your gorgeous hair gorgeous.

Thank you!

 

[LushLox]

I think I am.

I’m just so used to the bulk of my natural hair, that I feel kinda bald now. I also didn’t get a good look at my hair wet or the shape of the hair after the cut, so I can’t be thoroughly satisfied.

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My stylist was being weird. I had to have my hair done by the owner, because I guess she’s the only one old enough to remember how to do a relaxer. But she was a total ‘know it all’. She says to me, “you know you have to get rid of all your hair products, right? Cause you can’t use natural products on relaxed hair”. I told her that she doesn’t even know what I got… Later she says that I have to make sure I’m not trying to use oils on my hair, because relaxed hair has a coating on it that prevents oils from getting through. So I have to use moisturizer. Of course I’m going to use a moisturizer, but what is this coating she talking about??

You absolutely can use natural hair products, not all of them of course, some are far too heavy and will weigh your hair down but I have used plenty of natural conditioners, masks and leave in - no problem.

Coating? She is likely talking about calcium deposits which can happen when using a no lye relaxer, did she use a no lye relaxer on you? And even if that was the case you can get rid of it with a chelating shampoo, and use it regularly. Which reminds me I need to buy a new one, although I haven't used a chelating shampoo in like a year!

I have used no lye relaxers for like forever, I have no issues with any coating or dullness, like at all lol. It is concerning to hear a stylist talking like that; consistent oil usage has literally saved my hair. If oil is a part of your hair care routine you should continue to use it. Use moisturiser and then your oil to seal if that's how you're used to using it.

Your hair looks beautiful. It's going to take some time to adjust, but you'll get used to it and hopefully you'll enjoy the ease and freedom that it brings.

 

[sunnieb]

@Theresamonet welcome! Your hair is beautiful! You already know you're in the right place to take care of your relaxed hair.

I've used no-lye forever and I use Suave Clarifying shampoo weekly to keep my hair in shape. No coating over here!

I need to stop procrastinating and go relax my hair before the night gets away from me.

 

[LushLox]

@Theresamonet welcome! Your hair is beautiful! You already know you're in the right place to take care of your relaxed hair.

I've used no-lye forever and I use Suave Clarifying shampoo weekly to keep my hair in shape. No coating over here!

I need to stop procrastinating and go relax my hair before the night gets away from me.

Wow you clarify often, how so is it because you use a lot of product.

Note to self that my next wash needs to be a clarifying wash! I am really bad at remembering.

 

[Theresamonet]

You absolutely can use natural hair products, not all of them of course, some are far too heavy and will weigh your hair down but I have used plenty of natural conditioners, masks and leave in - no problem.

Coating? She is likely talking about calcium deposits which can happen when using a no lye relaxer, did she use a no lye relaxer on you? And even if that was the case you can get rid of it with a chelating shampoo, and use it regularly. Which reminds me I need to buy a new one, although I haven't used a chelating shampoo in like a year!

I have used no lye relaxers for like forever, I have no issues with any coating or dullness, like at all lol. It is concerning to hear a stylist talking like that; consistent oil usage has literally saved my hair. If oil is a part of your hair care routine you should continue to use it. Use moisturiser and then your oil to seal if that's how you're used to using it.

Your hair looks beautiful. It's going to take some time to adjust, but you'll get used to it and hopefully you'll enjoy the ease and freedom that it brings.

Thank you!

She used Affirm lye relaxer. I did ask if she was referring to mineral deposits, but she said no and just kept repeating “a coating”.

I know that the things she was saying were wrong. I just suddenly felt very uncomfortable with her being in my head, giving me a chemical service, while displaying such a lack of knowledge. But I already had relaxer in my hair, so I had to just hope for the best. I planned to go there for my touch ups, but I don’t know now.

Funnily, I don’t even use “natural hair products” or raw oils. She made that assumption because I was natural. I really only use salon brands. I found most natural products too heavy and greasy, even on my natural hair.

 

[Theresamonet]

I am looking forward to wash day without all that damn detangling!

 

[Theresamonet]

@Theresamonet welcome! Your hair is beautiful! You already know you're in the right place to take care of your relaxed hair.

I've used no-lye forever and I use Suave Clarifying shampoo weekly to keep my hair in shape. No coating over here!

I need to stop procrastinating and go relax my hair before the night gets away from me.

Thank you!

I’m looking forward to going back down memory lane via the LHCF archives. Lol

I’ll be sure to clarify regularly as well.

 

[Napp]

Your hair looks great @Theresamonet! I'm a little tempted to join you just so I can reach some length goals.

 

[Theresamonet]

Your hair looks great @Theresamonet! I'm a little tempted to join you just so I can reach some length goals.

That was one of the reasons I decided to relax. I have an easier time retaining length with relaxed hair. And I guess that’s because I like manicured ends. I was tired of fighting SSKs and splits (from detangling) for my inches.

 

[ItsMeLilLucky]

Your hair looks great @Theresamonet! I'm a little tempted to join you just so I can reach some length goals.

Come on over. We have cookies

 

[ItsMeLilLucky]

Status update on granny's hair: it's getting a lot thicker than it was since I started using grease again. She needed it, because the shea butter was not working for her hair. Another surprise is one of my other relatives. She wasn't a big hair person but the last couple of years her hair has been growing in leaps and bounds. I think she's almost BSL. Her hair is so luscious and pretty. She let me moisturize and grease it. Y'all know I took my time and played with it. I showed some extra love to the ends because they felt a tad bit dry. Grandma is natural, and she (my relative) is rinsed and relaxed. She's also the same one I finger detangled a while back.

 

[Plushottie]

Come on over. We have cookies

What kind of cookies? We have cookies i have not gotten any. I want cookies.

 

[sunnieb]

My hair journey is getting on track. I posted back in 2017 about losing my hair. I said it was "stress". Yes it was. What I didn't say is that I was being emotionally and verbally abused in my marriage and my hair showed it.

I just wanted to pause and reflect on not only my healthy hair journey, but my healthy ME journey! I'm going through a very stressful divorce and yet my hair is thriving. I wake up smiling and happy everyday. I think I will definitely hit WL at this rate. It took me a while to put myself first, but I'm here!

March 2018


September 2022

 

[Theresamonet]

@sunnieb You are a champion! You and your hair are bouncing back from the trauma beautifully. I hope you are so proud of yourself.

 

[Plushottie]

My hair journey is getting on track. I posted back in 2017 about losing my hair. I said it was "stress". Yes it was. What I didn't say is that I was being emotionally and verbally abused in my marriage and my hair showed it.

I just wanted to pause and reflect on not only my healthy hair journey, but my healthy ME journey! I'm going through a very stressful divorce and yet my hair is thriving. I wake up smiling and happy everyday. I think I will definitely hit WL at this rate. It took me a while to put myself first, but I'm here!

March 2018
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September 2022
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I wish I knew you in person because I would big sister fan girl you. This makes my heart glad restoration!

 

[Theresamonet]

How is everyone wearing their hair daily? I’m trying to find a low manipulation style to wear from wash to wash. I never manipulated my natural hair between washes, but now I feel like I have to comb my hair every morning.

Also, I’ve adjusted and I’m thrilled to be relaxed again! My first wash day post relaxer was yesterday. Even though I did almost the entire Olaplex routine, it was sooo easy. And I used 1/5 of the amount of product my natural hair needed. Should have done this sooner!

I’m now trying to decide if I’m going to self relax next time or go back to the salon.

 

[LushLox]

How is everyone wearing their hair daily? I’m trying to find a low manipulation style to wear from wash to wash. I never manipulated my natural hair between washes, but now I feel like I have to comb my hair every morning.

Also, I’ve adjusted and I’m thrilled to be relaxed again! My first wash day post relaxer was yesterday. Even though I did almost the entire Olaplex routine, it was sooo easy. And I used 1/5 of the amount of product my natural hair needed. Should have done this sooner!

I’m now trying to decide if I’m going to self relax next time or go back to the salon.

The attached is an example. It’s just a simple satin pillow roller job, takes ten minutes. I’ll wear the hair down one day and the next I will tie it back in a loose bun.

I’ll be doing a twist out tomorrow and will do something similar, down one day then loosely tied back on the following days.

WFH days I just keep my hair tucked into my silk cap.

Yeah wash days are very easy, well for me and it takes me a long time to get through products. That doesn’t mean I don’t get complacent and lazy to do it though.

I definitely don’t comb every day though, I only do that when I’m deep in a stretch.

 

[Plushottie]

The attached is an example. It’s just a simple satin pillow roller job, takes ten minutes. I’ll wear the hair down one day and the next I will tie it back in a loose bun.

I’ll be doing a twist out tomorrow and will do something similar, down one day then loosely tied back on the following days.

WFH days I just keep my hair tucked into my silk cap.

Yeah wash days are very easy, well for me and it takes me a long time to get through products. That doesn’t mean I don’t get complacent and lazy to do it though.

I definitely don’t comb every day though, I only do that when I’m deep in a stretch.

Your hair and skin

 

[ItsMeLilLucky]

How is everyone wearing their hair daily? I’m trying to find a low manipulation style to wear from wash to wash. I never manipulated my natural hair between washes, but now I feel like I have to comb my hair every morning.

Also, I’ve adjusted and I’m thrilled to be relaxed again! My first wash day post relaxer was yesterday. Even though I did almost the entire Olaplex routine, it was sooo easy. And I used 1/5 of the amount of product my natural hair needed. Should have done this sooner!

I’m now trying to decide if I’m going to self relax next time or go back to the salon.

I did a twist and pin back. I switched the parts, but now I'm in a protective style.

 

[sunnieb]

How is everyone wearing their hair daily? I’m trying to find a low manipulation style to wear from wash to wash. I never manipulated my natural hair between washes, but now I feel like I have to comb my hair every morning.

Also, I’ve adjusted and I’m thrilled to be relaxed again! My first wash day post relaxer was yesterday. Even though I did almost the entire Olaplex routine, it was sooo easy. And I used 1/5 of the amount of product my natural hair needed. Should have done this sooner!

I’m now trying to decide if I’m going to self relax next time or go back to the salon.

Moisturized twist and tuck with a headband that matches my top. I work from home, so I can get away with this for weeks on end.

When I go to the office, I wear a bun. On weekends when I'm doing something outside the house, I wear it down. When I come home, I immediately moisturize and roll it up.

So all in all, I wear my ends tucked away 95% of the time, but I do wear it out occasionally to enjoy my progress.