Relaxed Hair Thread

[danysedai]

I have been itching to cut my hair in a shoulder length bob with layers in the back, I feel so blah. But then I watch youtube videos of relaxed women with long hair and I reconsider. I love Oprah' s thick ponytail.

 

[simplyconfident]

I have been itching to cut my hair in a shoulder length bob with layers in the back, I feel so blah. But then I watch youtube videos of relaxed women with long hair and I reconsider. I love Oprah' s thick ponytail.

Think looong and hard first!! I had this itch as well with my first BC. Looking back I wish I would have simply did layers, bangs, or color. I really missed my buns, messy ponytails, rod sets and braid outs after. Not tying to talk you out of it at all I .. just want u to make sure you’ve looked at every aspect of what a short hair due consist of.

 

[simplyconfident]

I totally agree. We know that there are some great stylists out there but I haven't got the time or the inclination to try and find them.

@simplyconfident how often do you relax.

Too dang frequent!!! Every six weeks (hangs Head in shame). The current length and thickness of my hair refuses to let me stretch longer. It looks a HOOOOT mess if I do. When my hair is longer and I can do more PS I would go 9-10 weeks.

 

[Evolving78]

It sucks I can’t enjoy my hair. I was looking at my spots and I’m considering a pixie. Or would keep a lot of hair in the front though.. I don’t know. So I wanna it will take 2 years to get my crown looking decent again with the rest of the hair.

 

[MzSwift]

It sucks I can’t enjoy my hair. I was looking at my spots and I’m considering a pixie. Or would keep a lot of hair in the front though.. I don’t know. So I wanna it will take 2 years to get my crown looking decent again with the rest of the hair.

Girl, when I had my weak moment I was shole looking at these:

 

[Evolving78]

Girl, when I had my weak moment I was shole looking at these:

If my hair doesn’t look a little better by my birthday, I will get getting this.

 

[MzSwift]

What I miss so much about my short hair is that it was always “done” or it took less effort to be “done.” I could curl it, wash n go curly, do crunch waves or wear it flat and it would look like a nice, finished style.

One of the reasons it took me so long to try to grow out my hair is because I thought long hair required too much thought when I was going out or getting dressed up. Sometimes I struggle with that now. I end up bunning or wearing a ponytail. If I wear it out, I’m always worried about my ends being exposed and rubbing against my clothes. Lol, SMH.

 

[Evolving78]

What I miss so much about my short hair is that it was always “done” or it took less effort to be “done.” I could curl it, wash n go curly, do crunch waves or wear it flat and it would look like a nice, finished style.

One of the reasons it took me so long to try to grow out my hair is because I thought long hair required too much thought when I was going out or getting dressed up. Sometimes I struggle with that now. I end up bunning or wearing a ponytail. If I wear it out, I’m always worried about my ends being exposed and rubbing against my clothes. Lol, SMH.

Yep. I had a life with short hair. I worry too much about trying to keep long hair..

 

[Sosoothing]

What I miss so much about my short hair is that it was always “done” or it took less effort to be “done.” I could curl it, wash n go curly, do crunch waves or wear it flat and it would look like a nice, finished style.

One of the reasons it took me so long to try to grow out my hair is because I thought long hair required too much thought when I was going out or getting dressed up. Sometimes I struggle with that now. I end up bunning or wearing a ponytail. If I wear it out, I’m always worried about my ends being exposed and rubbing against my clothes. Lol, SMH.

So are you considering a short cut because of how much time and effort you spend on your hair now? Do you have damage too?

 

[MzSwift]

So are you considering a short cut because of how much time and effort you spend on your hair now? Do you have damage too?

Yes, the effort. that and I’m a recovering scissor addict. Usually when I get the urge to cut, I hide my hair from myself in extensions or under wigs. But due to sleep deprivation, hormones, the possibility of post partum shedding, and my little munchkin’s tendency to pull my hair, I was thinking it would be easier to cut it short.

Also, I don’t feel so hot after having this baby and I always felt sexier with short hair. In thinking of ways to get my mojo back, a haircut crossed my mind. There was something very freeing everytime I cut my hair off.

Even though I’m back on track, I still get tempted by those cute cuts.

 

[Evolving78]

Yes, the effort. that and I’m a recovering scissor addict. Usually when I get the urge to cut, I hide my hair from myself in extensions or under wigs. But due to sleep deprivation, hormones, the possibility of post partum shedding, and my little munchkin’s tendency to pull my hair, I was thinking it would be easier to cut it short.

Also, I don’t feel so hot after having this baby and I always felt sexier with short hair. In thinking of ways to get my mojo back, a haircut crossed my mind. There was something very freeing everytime I cut my hair off.

Even though I’m back on track, I still get tempted by those cute cuts.

I just cut all of my hair off. I feel good and free.. that is all..

 

[Sosoothing]

I just cut all of my hair off. I feel good and free.. that is all..

When is your birthday? I thought you were going to wait until then.
What matters is you feel good and free .

 

[Evolving78]

When is your birthday? I thought you were going to wait until then.
What matters is you feel good and free .

It’s in April! Lol
I was just sitting here, and something in me said get rid of it now... so I jumped and told my kids I was going to cut all of my hair off! Lol
I started off cutting it into a pixie, but I was like nope, keep going..

So I’m rocking a low tapered fade again.
OMG i feel so alive again! Dealing with all of that was just making me feel so down. I didn’t like when the stylist suggested I cut my hair. I like to be in control of things like that, and I wasn’t ready. But now that is over! I don’t know what my next move is. I’m just going to enjoy not having to worry about my hair anymore.
I’m just gonna wash, condition, moisturize, and go. I can start from ground zero getting my crown healthy again. I need some more earrings. though...

 

[Sosoothing]

Yes, the effort. that and I’m a recovering scissor addict. Usually when I get the urge to cut, I hide my hair from myself in extensions or under wigs. But due to sleep deprivation, hormones, the possibility of post partum shedding, and my little munchkin’s tendency to pull my hair, I was thinking it would be easier to cut it short.

Also, I don’t feel so hot after having this baby and I always felt sexier with short hair. In thinking of ways to get my mojo back, a haircut crossed my mind. There was something very freeing everytime I cut my hair off.

Even though I’m back on track, I still get tempted by those cute cuts.

I see. You have several factors influencing you. And your hormones are probably still trying to normalize after having the baby. I read somewhere it isn't unusual for that to take more than a year, especially if you breastfeed.

 

[Alma Petra]

It’s in April! Lol
I was just sitting here, and something in me said get rid of it now... so I jumped and told my kids I was going to cut all of my hair off! Lol
I started off cutting it into a pixie, but I was like nope, keep going..

So I’m rocking a low tapered fade again.
OMG i feel so alive again! Dealing with all of that was just making me feel so down. I didn’t like when the stylist suggested I cut my hair. I like to be in control of things like that, and I wasn’t ready. But now that is over! I don’t know what my next move is. I’m just going to enjoy not having to worry about my hair anymore.
I’m just gonna wash, condition, moisturize, and go. I can start from ground zero getting my crown healthy again. I need some more earring though...

That's huge news. Congratulations! I can imagine how freeing it must feel.
And

 

[Evolving78]

That's huge news. Congratulations! I can imagine how freeing it must feel.
And

I gotta get my face together first! Lol I need to exfoliate and mask! Lol
Thank you girl! You have been so encouraging!

 

[MzSwift]

I see. You have several factors influencing you. And your hormones are probably still trying to normalize after having the baby. I read somewhere it isn't unusual for that to take more than a year, especially if you breastfeed.

Exactly! This is why I’m trying not to do anything hastily. I just spent the day putting it into twists. I’ll be keeping it under a wig or bunning my twists. We’re still in the game, Hair Buddy!

 

[MzSwift]

I just cut all of my hair off. I feel good and free.. that is all..

AAAHHH! OMG! I could totally feel the relief through your words. Yay,I love i!
And I’m so happy for you! What a great fresh start. Your hair will grow back in healthier and fuller!

Can’t wait to see it.
ETA: Don’t be stranger now - stop by and visit us!!

 

[Evolving78]

AAAHHH! OMG! I could totally feel the relief through your words. Yay,I love i!
And I’m so happy for you! What a great fresh start. Your hair will grow back in healthier and fuller!

Can’t wait to see it.

Girl I know these kids think I’m a nutty buddy, but I’m not shaken! Lol girl I put on some music and jumped in the shower afterwards! Best hair wash in a long time! My baby doesn’t know what is going on and he is tripping! Lol he kept coming in the bathroom, asking for stuff, just freaking out! He was not prepared for that kind of change! Lol but he has calmed down and back to playing with his cars. Lol my oldest son was like I need to tighten up his lining next.. my daughter was being a jerk! But she told me I was beautiful and that she could see my face now.

 

[MzSwift]

Girl I know these kids think I’m a nutty buddy, but I’m not shaken! Lol girl I put on some music and jumped in the shower afterwards! Best hair wash in a long time! My baby doesn’t know what is going on and he is tripping! Lol he kept coming in the bathroom, asking for stuff, just freaking out! He was not prepared for that kind of change! Lol but he has calmed down and back to playing with his cars. Lol my oldest son was like I need to tighten up his lining next.. my daughter was being a jerk! But she told me I was beautiful and that she could see my face now.

Aawww, the munchkins always let us know what’s really up! Lol. They will be happy to have mommy with one less thing to stress about though.

 

[LushLox]

It’s in April! Lol
I was just sitting here, and something in me said get rid of it now... so I jumped and told my kids I was going to cut all of my hair off! Lol
I started off cutting it into a pixie, but I was like nope, keep going..

So I’m rocking a low tapered fade again.
OMG i feel so alive again! Dealing with all of that was just making me feel so down. I didn’t like when the stylist suggested I cut my hair. I like to be in control of things like that, and I wasn’t ready. But now that is over! I don’t know what my next move is. I’m just going to enjoy not having to worry about my hair anymore.
I’m just gonna wash, condition, moisturize, and go. I can start from ground zero getting my crown healthy again. I need some more earrings. though...

I'm pleased for you, brand new canvas to start again but your unicorn self will be SL before long!

Awaiting the pitchas lol

eta: Are you still planning to keep your hair natural or are you going to continue to relax?

 

[sunnieb]

@shortdub78 I knew you were about to do something!

Im so happy for you! Enjoy the journey no matter what path you take. I was considering cutting mine off too. My big melon head stopped me. I can't rock a low fade with my head.

Waiting on pics too....

 

[Evolving78]

@shortdub78 I knew you were about to do something!

Im so happy for you! Enjoy the journey no matter what path you take. I was considering cutting mine off too. My big melon head stopped me. I can't rock a low fade with my head.

Waiting on pics too....

I was sitting around and broke out like Martin’s character in Life when he said “whites only pies”! I didn’t care, I just ran to the scissors and clippers for my life! Lol

 

[Evolving78]

I'm pleased for you, brand new canvas to start again but your unicorn self will be SL before long!

Awaiting the pitchas lol

eta: Are you still planning to keep your hair natural or are you going to continue to relax?

Thank you lady! Lol I don’t know what I wanna do next! I usually know what direction I wanna go in, but this time I have don’t have a clue! I need some big framed sunglasses and a new lipstick! Lol

 

[LushLox]

Thank you lady! Lol I don’t know what I wanna do next! I usually know what direction I wanna go in, but this time I have don’t have a clue! I need some big framed sunglasses and a new lipstick! Lol

The important thing is just try to enjoy it. A lot of us seem to stress so much over hair that it starts to takes the enjoyment out of it.

 

[Sosoothing]

Exactly! This is why I’m trying not to do anything hastily. I just spent the day putting it into twists. I’ll be keeping it under a wig or bunning my twists. We’re still in the game, Hair Buddy!

Nice. What kind of twists? With extensions?

 

[MzSwift]

Nice. What kind of twists? With extensions?

Nope, no extensions. Maybe pencil-ish sized ones. My hair loves daily watering so I’m trying these out instead of my usual mini braids because they take less time to install and take down.

What do you typically do with your hair?

 

[danysedai]

Doing Olaplex No 3 treatment today for the first time. My last 2 relaxers I had my stylist add olaplex 1 and 2 to the mix and she has been impressed with the results. I'm adding no 3 to the rotation. Anyone knows how frequently to do it? once a month?The jar is very small, only 3 ounces but somehow only a tiny bit glides through hair and only had to use a small quantity. I currently relax every 12 weeks, sometimes push it to 16 which is my max.

 

[Sosoothing]

Nope, no extensions. Maybe pencil-ish sized ones. My hair loves daily watering so I’m trying these out instead of my usual mini braids because they take less time to install and take down.

What do you typically do with your hair?

From July last year until December I wore medium sized braids.
Right now I bun or braid my hair with no extentions. I just make about 6 to 8 large ones using my hair and wear a wig when I need to go out.

 

[MzSwift]

@Sosoothing

I might give your 6-8 braids a try. I’ll have to do them in a way that it can still be bunned. Do you do a middle part?

I usually rock mini braids and alternate between those and cornrows/wigs. But since having LO it’s just too much to put them in and take them down. I’m hoping these bigger twists will work out better. Because my mini braids take DAYS to put in and take out. SMH. But they are my “old faithful.” I used them to grow my hair out while natural too.

This is how small I usually rock them so you can imagine it takes a minute to put them in (was preggo in this pic plz so excuse my looks, lol)