Relaxed Hair Thread
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Bad&Bougee
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Question Ladies:
I've gone to my most current stylist twice - last time was this past June. I like her. She seems to know her stuff and she's the closest I'm going to get as far as what I'm looking for in a stylist. My only real issue is that she uses Affirm and the Keracare product line. Other stylist in the shop use Design Essentials. I really prefer Nairobi but DE is my #2. How do I go about telling her that I do not want Affirm without hurting her feelings? In my state, stylist only use one brand and that's it. To change brands may mean changing stylist and I don't feel like searching for another one. My new growth is out of control and I know DE will lay em down.....gently.
I've gone to my most current stylist twice - last time was this past June. I like her. She seems to know her stuff and she's the closest I'm going to get as far as what I'm looking for in a stylist. My only real issue is that she uses Affirm and the Keracare product line. Other stylist in the shop use Design Essentials. I really prefer Nairobi but DE is my #2. How do I go about telling her that I do not want Affirm without hurting her feelings? In my state, stylist only use one brand and that's it. To change brands may mean changing stylist and I don't feel like searching for another one. My new growth is out of control and I know DE will lay em down.....gently.
Evolving78
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That’s a tough one. You may have to switch stylists. Talk to her about it. If you go to her for regular service, and go to the other for your relaxer? I have done something similar before. I had a stylist that didn’t like to do roller sets, so when I wanted a roller set, I would go to the other stylist. For my chemical services, I stayed with my original stylist.
MzSwift
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@Bad&Bougee
Do you go to her for any other services? Maybe she'll take the news better if you tell her you'll stay with her for the other services but not the perm?
Do you go to her for any other services? Maybe she'll take the news better if you tell her you'll stay with her for the other services but not the perm?
MzSwift
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HAPPY NEW YEAR, LADIES!! 
So my hair is still in 10 cornrows. I figured I need to keep it low mani until my corrective in a couple of weeks. I'm working with 33 weeks of underprocessed new growth plus whatever else I'm getting in these 6 weeks. Which seems to be a lot bc I'm using my MT/sulfur oil mix on my scalp and my ayurveda glosses as a leave in. My hair seems to be loving he mixes. My scalp tingles so much after I apply the scalp mix daily. I just redid my cornrows 2 days ago and I'm feeling little bumps of new hair already pushing thru.
So my hair is still in 10 cornrows. I figured I need to keep it low mani until my corrective in a couple of weeks. I'm working with 33 weeks of underprocessed new growth plus whatever else I'm getting in these 6 weeks. Which seems to be a lot bc I'm using my MT/sulfur oil mix on my scalp and my ayurveda glosses as a leave in. My hair seems to be loving he mixes. My scalp tingles so much after I apply the scalp mix daily. I just redid my cornrows 2 days ago and I'm feeling little bumps of new hair already pushing thru.
Evolving78
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I don’t think I can go for 16 weeks. I’m pushing for 10. By Thursday, I will have 4 weeks to go. I might have 2 inches of new growth by then! Putting that out there!
MzSwift
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DH and I agree that this year I will actively take out time to do a weekly regi with daily care. Last time I did that, I made good progress. Using my own photos for inspiration, this is what low mani, regular ayurveda glosses and daily scalp application did for my hair:
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Then one full year:
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I just have to stick with it!
April
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October that same year
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Then one full year:
April
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April the next year
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I just have to stick with it!
Bad&Bougee
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@shortdub78 and @MzSwift she's cut my hair before (asymmetrical bob) and did a rollerset, both of which I liked. I would feel shady letting the stylist 2 booths over do my relaxer - like I'm betraying her or something. I will consult with her and feel her out because I definitely can't sacrifice the health of my hair right now by getting a relaxer brand I know nothing about.
I really like the shop and the clientele - I hope we can compromise without having to change shops. Thanks Ladies.
Bad&Bougee
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WOW. You hair growth is pretty amazing! Stick with your reggie because it definitely works!!
Evolving78
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MzSwift
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They're going straight back so I braid the end of the braids and then tuck them into a low bun. If I rock a wig, I just push the big braid flat up against my head going toward my forehead, then put my cap over that. Hope that makes sense!
Evolving78
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I just gave myself another trim. I felt I needed it. I trimmed my crown too. It’s not covering much now, but I have new growth in that area. I washed with DE and dc’ed my hair with SE cholesterol. After I finish detangling this last section, I’m going to bun my hair. I’m going to let my scalp breathe tonight, and not put any oil on it.
nymane
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This is some inspirational progress! Is your nape area the fastest growing section for you?
MzSwift
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Weirdly enough, my fastest growing section is my front, left section.
My nape is the most fragile.Also, you see that "A" on my length check shirt? APL was the longest I thought my hair would ever grow so that was my only hair goal when I made that shirt! I've rocked "Halle" cuts and Ceasars since middle school until this HHJ and I didn't have long hair as a child so I figured as long as the back part of my head reached that length, I was happy with that. Lol. I had no idea my hair would surprise me.
LushLox
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@MzSwift Amazing progress, don’t change anything because what you’re doing clearly works. 
@shortdub78 yeah I can’t really do the wigs and weaves either. It’s a shame because it’s such a good method of retaining growth if you look after the hair underneath of course.
Re my next touch up. I’m only a week post but I don’t think I’ll be able to stretch for 16 weeks, more like 12/14. There’s still quite a bit of texture in my hair but that’s fine, I used a mild relaxer this time and expected that. I’ll have to monitor it closely.
@shortdub78 yeah I can’t really do the wigs and weaves either. It’s a shame because it’s such a good method of retaining growth if you look after the hair underneath of course.
Re my next touch up. I’m only a week post but I don’t think I’ll be able to stretch for 16 weeks, more like 12/14. There’s still quite a bit of texture in my hair but that’s fine, I used a mild relaxer this time and expected that. I’ll have to monitor it closely.
Evolving78
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Sosoothing
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I'm 26 weeks post in this picture.
I'm not transitioning at all. I have just been really lazy and kept my hair braided. Intend to do a touch up soon. Probably today.
@sunnieb you may remember a brief conversation we had because I was stuck at BLS for a long time. It was then that I realized I needed protein more often. It worked. Thanks for that.
MzSwift
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Whohoo! Congratulations @Sosoothing !
Sosoothing
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Thanks! At this rate, I think aiming for waist length isn't unrealistic.
LushLox
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Yeah I'm another one who's finally realised about that protein. It's a must have in my regi.
Lovely hair, well done on your progress.
sunnieb
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Your hair is gorgeous and thick!
Yep, we've got to keep our protein up as part of our regular routine. I got so lazy with my protein treatments and that's part of the reason I'm dealing with so much damage now.
I just did another protein treatment with Nexxus Emergencee shampoo and conditioner Sunday night. Right now, I'm doing a protein treatment every other week until I feel my hair is stronger to extend to every 3 weeks.
Evolving78
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How are you ladies moisturizing during the week?
MzSwift
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Ma'am... don't be downplaying that pretty rollerset! That takes skill! A skill level many of us still haven't mastered. Lol
MzSwift
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Definitely! You're not far off. You'll be there before you know it!
sunnieb
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I use ORS Carrot Oil and NTM to moisturized twice daily.
I've learned not to be so heavy handed so my hair still moves and isn't weighed down.
LushLox
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A dab, and I mean a dab of a cream leave in every evening. I cannot be heavy handed the first few weeks post. I can go in a bit heavier as I go further along in my stretch, particularly when I'm bunning.
Post wash, I'll do a very light LCO.
LushLox
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Do any of you guys use colour? I need to start thinking about it soon. I’m lucky so far as I only seem to have one or two gray hairs (in the front of course 
).
What colour do you use and when do you colour within the relaxer process?
Any other general tips as it’s a minefield. I’m very concerned about drying out my hair.
).What colour do you use and when do you colour within the relaxer process?
Any other general tips as it’s a minefield. I’m very concerned about drying out my hair.
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