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Nix08 said:
@Mande30, @caliscurls has given you some great tips in her post. I had a similar experience in that when I first tried cowashing I found it ridiculous and didn't get why people did it. It is a lot about technique and to me even more importantly about products...I cowash with AOHSR and AORM (I also oil/coffee/tea/avj rinse during my cowashes which I do daily). I chose those as they are moisturizing and do not contain cones or ingredients that build up. Others have success using cones though.
I usually apply conditioner before I get in the shower (as a DC which I sometimes steam in) I rinse that out, apply coffee/tea rinse, oil and conditioner. I also smooth my hair and allow the conditioner (coffee/tea/and oil rinse) to sit on my hair while I shower using a shower cap. I apply my leave ins after using a micro fiber towel and squeezing out excess water. I then let my hair hang loose to dry...being sure to smooth with my hands as I go. I do most of my detangling with my fingers.

Hope that helps:grin:
ETA: To me your hair should feel fantastic. Smooth and moisturized after a cowash and after every step of your hair process.
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@Nix08. Thank you. It seems that I was using the wrong product and probably the wrong technique. Really I didn't have a techniqe. I just bought some cheap conditioner and used it instead of shampoo. I had no plan. Next time I will, thanks to the helpful responses that I have received.
 
shortdub78 said:
i am going to look at Tresemme Naturals (moisturizing) conditioner to see what it in it. that's for pointing that out! now it doesn't have protein or cones in it and it makes my hair feel nice. but if those aren't working, you may need something like Aussie Moist, Suave Almond and Shea Butter. they are heavier and do have cones, but they get the job done.

your hair should feel clean and moisturized, but not stripped like shampoo.
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shortdub78 I will look into those that you mentioned. Thanks for the reply.
 
I am going to treat caring for my hair as a part time job. I am going to commit, over acheive and get on full time...yep!!!! lol. Today is hair day for me and since I am home for a while I plan on reaping the benefits. This is the longest my hair has ever been and I see a lot more in my future!!!

Waistlength I see you....I am coming for you!!! Bet!!!
 
i have a question. i am nervous my hair wont grow (im being paranoid).
ive had relaxer since i was 5 or 6 cause my hair was too thick for my mom todo without us screaming. my hair qas mbl when i ws like 10, but I had apl hair when i was 6. im scared it wont grow to that long ever again D: (it hasnt been that long since) just cause i want it too.


eta: i forgot to add my "am i crazy" question.
 
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caliscurls said:
Mande30 so I tried co-washing last year and it was terrible. There was too much shedding and the tangles were obscene. At the time I was using Wen and some protein conditioner in rotation and just stopped - co-washing wasn't for me. I tried oil rinsing and it didn't help in the long run (in hindsight the oils were too heavy for me)

Fast forward to now, I've co-washed my hair everyday since Sunday, with a DC every two days and I love how my hair feels. It's soft, barely any tangles, and airy. What's changed? What I use and how I use it.

Products: tresseme naturals moisture rich conditioner most days and aubrey organics rose mosqueta for at least 1 of 2 DC's weekly

How:
- on regular co-wash days I apply the conditioner to dry hair before hopping in the shower, gently parting the hair and applying all over. I let the conditioner sit in my hair while I'm washing up and when I'm done rinse the conditioner out without agitating my hair a lot. It's mostly smoothing. Afterwards I wrap it up turban style with a long sleeve tshirt. I don't detangle on these days. Products once its 80% dry are minimal.
- on DC days, Organic extra virgin coconut oil is applied to the roots then apply the conditioner as stated above and again all on dry hair. I let it sit overnight and then rinse in the shower in the morning while gently detangling in sections with my fingers under the running water..
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When I cowash the same way you describe, my hair always feels so soft but when I follow up with a RO condish all the softness leaves... I'm going to nix the follow up and just do it that way. I'm excited because I can already see/feel the change that is going to happen to my hair. Thank you for posting this. I thought it was my products but it was mainly my technique. I'm going to do this on my non DC days. On my DC days I will do the coconut overnight.

Man, sometimes this tweaking/regimen building stuff seems like it will never end but I won't stop until I get long healthy hair!
 
Hair steaming is the shizzznit!!! I just got from under the steamer with QH mixed with oils and my hair is feeling amazing. I am going to steam once a week! Yes indeed!! I think the remaining 4 weeks of this stretch is going to be a breeze with this combo!!!
 
CaliCurls 80% air dried hair has been the best thing for my hair, I was dealing with wet tangly hair and detangling was a nightmare, on accident I discovered that partially air dried hair, leave in applies and detangling is good for my hair.
 
SunySydeofLyfe said:
I am going to treat caring for my hair as a part time job. I am going to commit, over acheive and get on full time...yep!!!! lol. Today is hair day for me and since I am home for a while I plan on reaping the benefits. This is the longest my hair has ever been and I see a lot more in my future!!!

Waistlength I see you....I am coming for you!!! Bet!!!
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That is exactly how I am approaching my hair this year.

hnntrr I understand the fearb but I assure you that your hair will grow.... the main thing it's retention. ..treat your hair like fine and delicate silk and you will retain.... keep reading and learning and you will have lots of success:yep:
 
Yeah SunySydeofLyfe I was doing the same thing and then remembered someone posted about letting your hair dry a bit first before doing anything to it. It has definitely made a difference.
 
i cut my bangs

i almost cut them too short and had betty page bangs

but i like these ones

they look nice.

i cut a lot off

i didnt realize how long they were until i saw almost an inch cut off.
 
Gorgeous bun sunnieb! :grin:

Mande30, I don't cowash often but I find the best way to accomplish it is to use products that are really moisturizing and do not manipulate the hair while in the shower. I can apply leave ins to both sopping wet or partially dried hair with success. I detangle always! I am tangle prone and have experienced a setback from a tangle episode. To ensure I don't repeat that cycle, I always run the comb through my hair to ensure there are not mattes, knots are tangles.

shortdub78, Tresseme keeps coming up. I may try it. Hopefully our low porosity hair will like it.

Great cowash advice caliscurls & Nix08

growbaby, my nape is still shorter than the rest of my hair. I ask my stylist to apply relaxer on that area last, just a few minutes before washing the hair to ensure it doesn't get over processed. I'm even thinking of forgoing relaxing that area altogether for about six months to a year to see if that makes a difference.

SunySydeofLyfe & hnntrr, I get the best growth & retention when I'm not trying. If I let go and let things be, next thing I know, my hair has grown tremendously. If I'm watching it, manipulating it and overly caring for it, it just seems to reject all the extra TLC. Less is more for my hair. Now with that said, I don't go weeks without washing. I wash 1x weekly, moisturize/seal daily and scalp massage several times per week and sometimes even daily, just depends if I feel up to it. I simply don't do a bunch of cowashes, DCing, steaming etc throughout the week.
 
I'm starting to see some demarcation line breakage even though I've been meticulous about caring for it, so I'm going to relax next weekend. I'm proud of my longest-ever stretch!

I also just ordered the Split Ender, so hopefully I'll have it by next weekend. They have a 10% discount right now of CHRISTMAS#130, and I added the extended warranty. (this is the real one www.splitender.com)

I really hope it's as good as they claim.
 
Charla said:
I'm starting to see some demarcation line breakage even though I've been meticulous about caring for it, so I'm going to relax next weekend. I'm proud of my longest-ever stretch!

I also just ordered the Split Ender, so hopefully I'll have it by next weekend. They have a 10% discount right now of CHRISTMAS#130, and I added the extended warranty. (this is the real one www.splitender.com)

I really hope it's as good as they claim.
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please share with us how it works. somebody else has one in this thread, but i can't put my finger on it.
 
You ladies have it going on. So many great answers to questions. I feel like I have found gold.

-When I first started my HHJ, I used to moisturize with African Pride Braid Spray and seal with too much EVCO, everyday. I soon learned that this was not good. The braid spray was not good. And I was using too much EVCO.

- Now I moisturize with S- Curl and seal with a little EVCO, everyday or every other day.

Ever since the beginning I have been wearing roller sets everyday. In order to get the curls, I have to wet my hair with water before I roll it.

So, after I moisturize and seal, I spray my hair with plain water, and then roll it. I tried to apply the water before the EVCO, but then I just had to rewet it because it seemed that the EVCO dried it up or something.

On top of it I am now experiencing build up (I guess thats whats going on) and my curls are flat, even with the water.

I don't know what to do. How can I tweak this the right way?
 
My boss weave checked me today. We were discussing my evaluation and he said "this your hair?" And he kinda squeezed my bun. He's black so I wasn't really tripping. He didn't pull he's a short guy so it was a reach n squeeze. Here's how my hair looked today. Nothing special.


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CafedeBelleza said:
My boss weave checked me today. We were discussing my evaluation and he said "this your hair?" And he kinda squeezed my bun. He's black so I wasn't really tripping. He didn't pull he's a short guy so it was a reach n squeeze. Here's how my hair looked today. Nothing special.

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Lol! I can did it!
 
CafedeBelleza said:
My boss weave checked me today. We were discussing my evaluation and he said "this your hair?" And he kinda squeezed my bun. He's black so I wasn't really tripping. He didn't pull he's a short guy so it was a reach n squeeze. Here's how my hair looked today. Nothing special.

Sent from my iPad using LHCF
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Lmao:) I think I woulda squeezed it too! It looks full. I betcha he was surprised it was real.

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shortdub78 I have the SplitEnder as well and love it. Was just telling someone about it last night. I'm seriously considering getting an extra one just in case something ever happens to the one I have.
 
I think my next investment is going to be some Caruso steam rollers..wanna switch it up when I relax and flat iron in march
 
I'm so confused :ohwell: I see how people accidentally go natural. Im too lazy to deal with this new growth so it's been sewn up for weeks :look: and on the other hand Im not giving up my relaxed hair :yawn: Now what :perplexed
 
Mande30 said:
You ladies have it going on. So many great answers to questions. I feel like I have found gold.

-When I first started my HHJ, I used to moisturize with African Pride Braid Spray and seal with too much EVCO, everyday. I soon learned that this was not good. The braid spray was not good. And I was using too much EVCO.

- Now I moisturize with S- Curl and seal with a little EVCO, everyday or every other day.

Ever since the beginning I have been wearing roller sets everyday. In order to get the curls, I have to wet my hair with water before I roll it.

So, after I moisturize and seal, I spray my hair with plain water, and then roll it. I tried to apply the water before the EVCO, but then I just had to rewet it because it seemed that the EVCO dried it up or something.

On top of it I am now experiencing build up (I guess thats whats going on) and my curls are flat, even with the water.

I don't know what to do. How can I tweak this the right way?
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GURL! S-CURL. Yas. I put some of that on my curls today. Luscious. Thanks for suggesting it.
 
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