Thank you so much for this!
My confessions are:
* Every since I self-relaxed, I really started to fall in love w/ my hair
Probably b/c it's a half inch to an inch away from BSL.
I know I'll get stoned for these 2 comments, but here goes
* Stop acting brand new when it comes to these hair comments (from white or black people)! "Is that your real hair?" "Black women wear weaves" "Black women can't have long hair" Of course, this doesn't apply to ALL of us, but let's not act like this hasn't been the majority of our experience as well. I don't blame them for the opinion, when that's probably what they see/hear on the regular.
which brings me to
* I don't blame men for weave-checking
I don't even find it rude if a guy asks if that's your real hair.
If it was the norm for men to be stuffing their pants with socks on, I would damn sho' like to know and ask (probably) upfront if his sh!t was real too.