Random Hair Thoughts/Thinking out loud

I decided to unlock because it's been 15 years with them; I first was natural 14-17. When I stayed natural it was freshman year of college, I was broke, and there wasn't a lot of accurate information about how to properly care for 4c hair. It was all two-strand twists, braids, or Bantu knots if you weren't anything in the 3 range. I did that for a while but didn't feel like it was ME. I was lost and overwhelmed and being a broke college kid, my options were shaving it all off or loc it up. So. Locs.
I'm not sure yet what I will do long term (I'm curious about frequent washing/water only washing/Curly Queen method/Modified MHM) but my initial plan is:
-clarify shampoo
-CLT
-clay wash (detangle)
-Kinky Curly Coiling Custard
-Puff!
A Komaza hair analysis is a definite. Hopefully, the analysis will help me make better choices with my haircare regimen and products. I've learned so much hanging around LHCF and the influx of 4c vloggers/bloggers has helped immensely. I feel much better prepared to deal with my loose natural hair this go round.
So excited for you. Hopefully it won't take too long to undo them.
 
Why is so hard to find youtubers who 1, have my hair type, and 2, started with a twa and grew it long?? I mean, damn. I'm getting frustrated.
:bighug:What's your hair type I follow a bunch of different YouTubers. I might have one in my list that fits what you are looking for.
 
:bighug:What's your hair type I follow a bunch of different YouTubers. I might have one in my list that fits what you are looking for.
I thought I was 4a. According to what I thought, if you could visible see the curl from a distance and you have tye 4 hair, it's probably 4a. Now, I don't even know no more. People are just sticking any ol' combination of letters on their yt pages. :lol:

I just found a new channel and I think she's my hair twin. My hair actually looks just like this right this second because I forgot to pineapple last night. :look:



It would be nice to find a few more, though. She has a whole lot of shrinkage, so it looks like her hair never grows. My whole point is, I wanna see it from short to long. *sigh*
 
I thought I was 4a. According to what I thought, if you could visible see the curl from a distance and you have tye 4 hair, it's probably 4a. Now, I don't even know no more. People are just sticking any ol' combination of letters on their yt pages. :lol:

I just found a new channel and I think she's my hair twin. My hair actually looks just like this right this second because I forgot to pineapple last night. :look:



It would be nice to find a few more, though. She has a whole lot of shrinkage, so it looks like her hair never grows. My whole point is, I wanna see it from short to long. *sigh*

I think I'm 4a as well. I do a similar routine with wetting in the morning. I just don't do as much water. I feel I have at least 50-75% shrinkage. My hair will probably be mid back or waist length before it looks long.

Check out razorempress (although her hair seems to have been pretty long always), iknowlee, aucurls naturelle, 22nd century natural, naturally gg
 
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Why is so hard to find youtubers who 1, have my hair type, and 2, started with a twa and grew it long?? I mean, damn. I'm getting frustrated.
Yes, lawd! I have been trying to do the exact same thing. I think I'm a 4-abc, emphasis on the c with major shrinkage. The way my hair shrinks it will have to be down to my a$$ just to get to shoulder length dry. What type are you?
 
Does anyone else notice that their hair seems to hold more moisture if you let it air dry while in braids? This may become my new drying technique. This morning I washed my hair before work so I put it in a ponytail put 2 braids in the ponytail and then wrapped the braids around the base to make a bun.
 
Twisted without tools, clips or combs and did a light finger detangle. Lightly oiled my scalp and massaged my hairline and nape. Wash day tomorrow supposedly but I think I'll be changing wash day to Sunday's.
 
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Yes, lawd! I have been trying to do the exact same thing. I think I'm a 4-abc, emphasis on the c with major shrinkage. The way my hair shrinks it will have to be down to my a$$ just to get to shoulder length dry. What type are you?
Mostly 4a, like, 3/4 of my head. The rest is 4b/c/?.

I don't think I have a lot of shrinkage, though, cuz looking at the vid I posted, her hair is mad long, but the way it shrinks up, it looks like my length (NL). Meanwhile, my hair is NL and shrinks to NL. And I don't think it'll shrink more as it grows because I just cut it back from around SL and it actually looked SL. o_O
 
Wore my hair twisted to work today, wasn't feeling the extra manipulation of untwisting from lastnight. I'm making it a point to be more gentle with my hair, hence my decision to stop using combs and brushes. Lord be with me.
 
Last weeks 5 day old braid out without gel in 90+ degree + super humid day= shrinkage!
My hair looks better freshly washed and up to day 3 then it's whatever!
 
I'm here watching MMA Cyborg vs Van Duin, thinking the hair on the woman checking them in is hella long. Her high ponytail braid reaches her lower back/ tail bone surely.
 
Just ordered some Entwine Creme Jelly styler to see if it will help my braid outs be more defined and less frizzy.

Need to try a braid or twist out with the Big Chop clip ins I ordered. I wore them as regular clips last week but I didnt LOVE them - I think I MAY need another pack which sucks. Im gonna try to make em work before I spend another $150.
 
Does anyone else notice that their hair seems to hold more moisture if you let it air dry while in braids? This may become my new drying technique. This morning I washed my hair before work so I put it in a ponytail put 2 braids in the ponytail and then wrapped the braids around the base to make a bun.
Yes! I just started a braid out routine. After washing and dc, I add leave in and hair gel. I do four braids. I let them air dry for two days, my hair takes long to dry.
Not only more moisture I realize. At take down my waves and bounce be like :bling:.
 
Well, I have to tell someone. I think you ladies are the only ones who will TRULY understand.

Today my boss gave me an opened bottle of conditioner. She just randomly asked me yesterday if I use conditioner? (UM OF COURSE!! lol) She says she has some she is going to give me. I ask her what brand. She says she doesn't remember. Today, when I get to work there's a huge bottle of Paul Mitchell Detangler Conditioner. The bottle looks..... unclean. And on top of that I just DO NOT TRUST HER. She has some weird fixation on my hair, constantly staring at it... I guess I should mention I am the only BW in the side of the office she works on. I wear wash n go's usually so my hair is different. She has asked me how I get my hair "like that" and told me I'm "lucky" to have hair like this instead of the other kind (i.e 4b etc) Yes, I shut her down. Not everyone aspires to a Eurocentric idea of beauty.

Huhhh but back to this conditioner. I'll probably just pour it down the drain. I can so see her giving me years old conditioner.. And I'm paranoid from you ladies' stores about hair sabotage.
 
Well, I have to tell someone. I think you ladies are the only ones who will TRULY understand.

Today my boss gave me an opened bottle of conditioner. She just randomly asked me yesterday if I use conditioner? (UM OF COURSE!! lol) She says she has some she is going to give me. I ask her what brand. She says she doesn't remember. Today, when I get to work there's a huge bottle of Paul Mitchell Detangler Conditioner. The bottle looks..... unclean. And on top of that I just DO NOT TRUST HER. She has some weird fixation on my hair, constantly staring at it... I guess I should mention I am the only BW in the side of the office she works on. I wear wash n go's usually so my hair is different. She has asked me how I get my hair "like that" and told me I'm "lucky" to have hair like this instead of the other kind (i.e 4b etc) Yes, I shut her down. Not everyone aspires to a Eurocentric idea of beauty.

Huhhh but back to this conditioner. I'll probably just pour it down the drain. I can so see her giving me years old conditioner.. And I'm paranoid from you ladies' stores about hair sabotage.

Re the bolded: great idea.
 
Well, I have to tell someone. I think you ladies are the only ones who will TRULY understand.

Today my boss gave me an opened bottle of conditioner. She just randomly asked me yesterday if I use conditioner? (UM OF COURSE!! lol) She says she has some she is going to give me. I ask her what brand. She says she doesn't remember. Today, when I get to work there's a huge bottle of Paul Mitchell Detangler Conditioner. The bottle looks..... unclean. And on top of that I just DO NOT TRUST HER. She has some weird fixation on my hair, constantly staring at it... I guess I should mention I am the only BW in the side of the office she works on. I wear wash n go's usually so my hair is different. She has asked me how I get my hair "like that" and told me I'm "lucky" to have hair like this instead of the other kind (i.e 4b etc) Yes, I shut her down. Not everyone aspires to a Eurocentric idea of beauty.

Huhhh but back to this conditioner. I'll probably just pour it down the drain. I can so see her giving me years old conditioner.. And I'm paranoid from you ladies' stores about hair sabotage.

I would definitely throw it out! Sounds like a hair hater to me!
 
She sounds creepy AF. Yes, let that condish go down the drain.

Well, I have to tell someone. I think you ladies are the only ones who will TRULY understand.

Today my boss gave me an opened bottle of conditioner. She just randomly asked me yesterday if I use conditioner? (UM OF COURSE!! lol) She says she has some she is going to give me. I ask her what brand. She says she doesn't remember. Today, when I get to work there's a huge bottle of Paul Mitchell Detangler Conditioner. The bottle looks..... unclean. And on top of that I just DO NOT TRUST HER. She has some weird fixation on my hair, constantly staring at it... I guess I should mention I am the only BW in the side of the office she works on. I wear wash n go's usually so my hair is different. She has asked me how I get my hair "like that" and told me I'm "lucky" to have hair like this instead of the other kind (i.e 4b etc) Yes, I shut her down. Not everyone aspires to a Eurocentric idea of beauty.

Huhhh but back to this conditioner. I'll probably just pour it down the drain. I can so see her giving me years old conditioner.. And I'm paranoid from you ladies' stores about hair sabotage.
 
Beware! At leastfor me dropping the comb proved be a mistake. Being a normal to heavy shedder lots of hair stayed trapped in my fine 4c. The ssk and broken hair was insane. No comb and finger detangle only contributed to a set back for me. I know it works for many but... keep an eye out. :)

Wore my hair twisted to work today, wasn't feeling the extra manipulation of untwisting from lastnight. I'm making it a point to be more gentle with my hair, hence my decision to stop using combs and brushes. Lord be with me.
 
Well, I have to tell someone. I think you ladies are the only ones who will TRULY understand.

Today my boss gave me an opened bottle of conditioner. She just randomly asked me yesterday if I use conditioner? (UM OF COURSE!! lol) She says she has some she is going to give me. I ask her what brand. She says she doesn't remember. Today, when I get to work there's a huge bottle of Paul Mitchell Detangler Conditioner. The bottle looks..... unclean. And on top of that I just DO NOT TRUST HER. She has some weird fixation on my hair, constantly staring at it... I guess I should mention I am the only BW in the side of the office she works on. I wear wash n go's usually so my hair is different. She has asked me how I get my hair "like that" and told me I'm "lucky" to have hair like this instead of the other kind (i.e 4b etc) Yes, I shut her down. Not everyone aspires to a Eurocentric idea of beauty.

Huhhh but back to this conditioner. I'll probably just pour it down the drain. I can so see her giving me years old conditioner.. And I'm paranoid from you ladies' stores about hair sabotage.

@ang3lface816

I don't like to say this but there could be Nair in that stuff or some liquid relaxer or worse. I wouldn't trust her either. There's more reasons but I wo t get into that here PM me if you want.

You can
1 Just dump it but she will keep giving you stuff like your some charity case.
So if she gives you more stuff which she probably won't tell her thanks but no thanks you're good.

or

2 you can give it back to her saying I don't use used stuff on my hair that other people give to me whether new but especially not used. You use certain organic black owned stuff etc. Tell her thanks but no thanks.


And put an end to it right there it's not rude you didn't ask her for her old funky used conditioner anyways.
And look her in the eye when you say it too.
 
@ang3lface816

I don't like to say this but there could be Nair in that stuff or some liquid relaxer or worse. I wouldn't trust her either. There's more reasons but I wo t get into that here PM me if you want.

You can
1 Just dump it but she will keep giving you stuff like your some charity case.
So if she gives you more stuff which she probably won't tell her thanks but no thanks you're good.

or

2 you can give it back to her saying I don't use used stuff on my hair that other people give to me whether new but especially not used. You use certain organic black owned stuff etc. Tell her thanks but no thanks.


And put an end to it right there it's not rude you didn't ask her for her old funky used conditioner anyways.
And look her in the eye when you say it too.


Thank you, I am definitely going to tell her I have more than enough stuff so will not be accepting anything else. And my first thought was, the charity case thing too. She tells everyone she's a liberal, and I think she wants to recreate her own "BLINDSIDE/insert movie where yt savior helps poor bp".

I just started this job a couple months ago.. so I didn't want to make a bad impression. My first thought was the Nair thing... Something about her rubs me the wrong way.

I thought it was kind of arrogant of her to even think that I would want her old nasty conditioner.
 
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