Random Hair Thoughts/Thinking out loud

I thought you were finding things that were helping it get and stay moisturized? Did all the combinations work the same or not work?

I'm good through the leave-in. After that I haven't found anything that works. All combinations seem to work the same. I'm tired of trying products, combinations, methods for my hair to feel the same. My retention is terrible. I think I retained 2 inches in 2013. I'm done trying anything for now. I'm putting in puffy twists right now. It's going to be a lot of that for 2014.
 
DoDo

Aussie 3 Min.

Went to look for more drugstore conditioners and then reminded myself I am on a no buy.

Ogoma

I love Aussie 3 minute. I can tell you that few drugstore conditioners actually have as much slip or leave your hair as silky. I am very pleased. I have yet to try the Suave Aveda dupe or the Aveeno conditioners, or even the L'oreal line sooo I don't think I have tried that many.

I'm glad someone else has discovered the benefits of Aussie 3 minute though. :grin:
 
Girl, get you some flattering braids, twists, wig/weave. Insta-long hair. Thats what I do. :look: NGraceO

I've been in braids for 4 weeks. It's fine but then I see what that stupid woman did to my hair in December and I get upset. I asked for a trim and she ended up giving me some bowl looking cut. I was so upset. I was grazing SL before and now I'm an uneven neck length and crazy layered. it looks so disgusting.

I feel like I'm never going to reach my hair goals.
 

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I've been in braids for 4 weeks. It's fine but then I see what that stupid woman did to my hair in December and I get upset. I asked for a trim and she ended up giving me some bowl looking cut. I was so upset. I was grazing SL before and now I'm an uneven neck length and crazy layered. it looks so disgusting. I feel like I'm never going to reach my hair goals.

Noooooooooo:( that really sucks. Setbacks in any form are THE worst...ESP when I is not your own doing -__-

But thank goodness you don't have some kind of alopecia :look: it will grow!!

NGraceO
 
I've been in braids for 4 weeks. It's fine but then I see what that stupid woman did to my hair in December and I get upset. I asked for a trim and she ended up giving me some bowl looking cut. I was so upset. I was grazing SL before and now I'm an uneven neck length and crazy layered. it looks so disgusting. I feel like I'm never going to reach my hair goals.

Your hair is at an awkward stage. Just figure out one style and leave it alone. It's going to grow out, but being inconsistent and impatient with it is not going to help.

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@Ogoma

I love Aussie 3 minute. I can tell you that few drugstore conditioners actually have as much slip or leave your hair as silky. I am very pleased. I have yet to try the Suave Aveda dupe or the Aveeno conditioners, or even the L'oreal line sooo I don't think I have tried that many.

I'm glad someone else has discovered the benefits of Aussie 3 minute though. :grin:

DoDo

Good to know. The L'Oreal mask was all out so I was looking at the Pantene Hydrating Mask
 
I've been in braids for 4 weeks. It's fine but then I see what that stupid woman did to my hair in December and I get upset. I asked for a trim and she ended up giving me some bowl looking cut. I was so upset. I was grazing SL before and now I'm an uneven neck length and crazy layered. it looks so disgusting.

I feel like I'm never going to reach my hair goals.

The hair will grow out and your body is on point!
 
I'm good through the leave-in. After that I haven't found anything that works. All combinations seem to work the same. I'm tired of trying products, combinations, methods for my hair to feel the same. My retention is terrible. I think I retained 2 inches in 2013. I'm done trying anything for now. I'm putting in puffy twists right now. It's going to be a lot of that for 2014.

Glad you have found leave-ins that work. I remember when you struggled with that. So are you trying to figure out butters, oils, or other sealants now? If the leave-in moisturizes, is it the length of time your hair stays moisturized that is the issue?

Puffy twists don't seem like a bad idea to give yourself a break. You have definitely put in the work trying to figure out your hair. A vacation from it sounds like a good idea.
 
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divachyk[/USER];19542233]faithVA, what does your hair feel like after using the products that doesn't work?

When I put on my leave-in which works, my hair feels soft and moisturized and manageable.

When I put on anything after that whether it is an oil or cream or butter my hair feels like it stiffens up a bit, but it feels OK. And I have tried different amounts from dime size to just loading it on. No matter what I put on it though it dries crunchy and stiff.

Sometimes after days of spritzing it I can get it to feel moisturized.

I put it up in puffy twist for now. I need a mental break.
 
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Ogoma[/USER];19541097]Glad you have found leave-ins that work. I remember when you struggled with that. So are you trying to figure out butters, oils, or other sealants now? If the leave-in moisturizes, is it the length of time your hair stays moisturized that is the issue?

Puffy twists don't seem like a bad idea to give yourself a break. You have definitely put in the work trying to figure out your hair. A vacation from it sounds like a good idea.

You are right. At one point I didn't have a leave-in. I have finally found one that works consistently. And I am trying to figure out what to use beyond that. My hair feels moisturized for hours after I apply the leave-in, but once my hair dries completely it feels hard and stiff.

I just finished my puffy twist, so I will keep them in for a while and just spritz my hair. I think I'm just going to rotate extensions, wigs and flat twist until my hair grows out enough to make it more manageable.
 
When I put on my leave-in which works, my hair feels soft and moisturized and manageable.

When I put on anything after that whether it is an oil or cream or butter my hair feels like it stiffens up a bit, but it feels OK. And I have tried different amounts from dime size to just loading it on. No matter what I put on it though it dries crunchy and stiff.

Sometimes after days of spritzing it I can get it to feel moisturized.

I put it up in puffy twist for now. I need a mental break.

Have you looked at the common denominator in the products you add after your leave in?

That sounds exactly what happens to my hair if I seal my hair with anything with coconut oil in the first five ingredients or if Im using products with aloe/shea that are not formulated correctly.

faithVA
 
faithVA, I know you've tried several products. However, I don't think the LI is working if the hair doesn't feel great after drying. Or then again, it could be that all the moisture is evaporating from not sealing since you have low porosity. Have you tried using one product line from start to finish to see if that helps?
 
faithVA, I stopped using leave ins for that reason and modified my DCing regimen so now I just put a pea sized amount of reg condish on my Reg wash days...and my curl activator/Eco. My hair 'has been drying really soft nd bouncy even if I don't diffuse. For some reason leave ins always just coated my hair nd left it feeling dry. I can't use straight oils or leave In cause yea my hair crunches once dry. Maybe ur havintge same issue.
 
faithVA, I stopped using leave ins for that reason and modified my DCing regimen so now I just put a pea sized amount of reg condish on my Reg wash days...and my curl activator/Eco. My hair 'has been drying really soft nd bouncy even if I don't diffuse. For some reason leave ins always just coated my hair nd left it feeling dry. I can't use straight oils or leave In cause yea my hair crunches once dry. Maybe ur havintge same issue.

faithVA

It could be that your hair just doesn't like oils or butters period. My dry hair loves water based butter sealants. However, I have recently discovered that if my hair is wet less is more. If I have conditioned at all and proceed to air dry with no product my hair can be very soft the next day. If I use a light leave in and that is all I will get the same if not slightly better results than I do air drying with naked hair. I really like the As I Am leave in too. Try using that and sealing with a bit of avocado oil then let it air dry stretched in either braids or twists. When your hair finally decides to dry (I am low porosity too it may take 2 days sometimes :lol:) you may find that your hair is soft and smooth. If that doesn't work try the leave in alone. All I am saying is if you find that products take away that feeling of softness you like, than maybe your hair just doesn't need all of that extra. Err on the side of less product, and when the hair starts to lose some of its moisture refresh with a light leave in and oil. We all have different heads of hair, what works for one often does not work for the other.
 
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im trying a different way of detangling now, i use to do the shower but i was worried about me not being so gentle and me probably loosing more hair and not noticing because it goes down the drain, so now im applying the conditioner and if its not slippy adding a slippy one on top and carefully detangling from bottom to top, i think we may have a winner
 
i feel like i have way more new growth than i do usually at four weeks, i have to apply some gel, maybe that inversion helped a lot
 
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I had a excellent time doing my hair today, I am really satisfied with the amount of hair I didn't lose. I also tried mixing clarifying shampoo with regular shampoo and it was so much gentler on my hair. I had minimum tangles and tangles I will forever get using shampoo. I still have the ors clarifying shampoo left and I'm thinking about going ACV rinses for cleansing. I'm four weeks post trim and still loving my ends, long hair here I come!!!!! Well hopefully. I m plan on going at least three months with scissors in my hair, hopefully I can go six. I'm willing to bet I will see big time length retention
 
faithVA, I stopped using leave ins for that reason and modified my DCing regimen so now I just put a pea sized amount of reg condish on my Reg wash days...and my curl activator/Eco. My hair 'has been drying really soft nd bouncy even if I don't diffuse. For some reason leave ins always just coated my hair nd left it feeling dry. I can't use straight oils or leave In cause yea my hair crunches once dry. Maybe ur havintge same issue.

faithVA I was going to suggest this.

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What I've been learning in regards to my hair regimen.....

NGraceO
 

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