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well i move back to phx to start over so i was single for 5years i didnt date or talking to any guys.so i started talking to him he had his own place but he couldnt afford the rent.so i said you can come here long as you help me he was buying food and everything 4months later he's complaining.
 
Is it safe to say that he hadn't dated or known him long before you moved him in your home? Got a feeling that this arrangement happened quickly before you knew a whole lot about him?
 
i've known him for 3years my sister was staying with me thats when i started talking to him. she didnt help me with bills at all and i though he would understand what i was going threw with her.thats why i let him move in because i didnt think that some one that knew what you been threw wouldnt do you like that.
 
mcgheeola said:
i've known him for 3years my sister was staying with me thats when i started talking to him. she didnt help me with bills at all and i though he would understand what i was going threw with her.thats why i let him move in because i didnt think that some one that knew what you been threw wouldnt do you like that.
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Not everyone thinks like that, unfortunately. He saw an opportunity to use you and he took advantage. And now that he's showing you all these signs of being trifling, your best bet is to let him go.

In the future, it'll be wise to not let a man move in with you--if he wants to help you out, let him help you from where he's at (his place).
 
CUT! This is not a hello whats up for Sat. This would be telling also. But taking a pic of genitals and sending it is on a cheating level. So be sure that he has because if he hasn't its because he just hasnt gotten a hold of her yet.
 
Time to bounce.
We gotta stop being soft with men! We need to STOP worrying about their feelings and helpin them survive their messed up situations. Cause they surely will leave us hanging and feeling dumb.
 
mcgheeola said:
I did today i went off on him and i said this what im going to do pack your stuff and you can come pick it up.so he calls to today o his car broke down so he has to get it tomorrow he's at his sons house.
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I would tell him to take his time because he'd only have to beat the trash collector there, because his stuff sho' 'nuff would be on the curb!
 
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Pictures of his peen and other women's business on his phone

Moved in because he couldn't afford his place

constantly complaining about you

got a job but always broke....

ex wife bringing him meals


Come again, OP?

Girl you know exactly what his deal is, the question is why did you put yourself in this situation and why are you questioning the evidence now?

Kindly escort this man out of your life ASAP and then be brutally honest with yourself about why you are asking questions about a relationship that is clearly not healthy for you.

Not trying to be mean, you deserve better. ANY woman deserves better. It just sounds like you don't know that.
 
Is this the same wack dude you have posted about before OP? I don't recall the details but it seems like the guy was just laying up in your spot barely contributing and whatnot.
 
Just talked to one of the other women yesterday she told me everything.He's be givin her money sleeping over there taking here out to eat.they had sex a week ago he has 2 other women in different places.I texted him to let him no what i no he wont call me because he no he's been caught.
 
Wow...well, this makes moving on much easier. You deserve better and he's a complete a$$.

btw....PLEASE go get yourself 'checked' out.

mcgheeola said:
Just talked to one of the other women yesterday she told me everything.He's be givin her money sleeping over there taking here out to eat.they had sex a week ago he has 2 other women in different places.I texted him to let him no what i no he wont call me because he no he's been caught.
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prettyfaceANB said:
Wow...well, this makes moving on much easier. You deserve better and he's a complete a$$.

btw....PLEASE go get yourself 'checked' out.
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Ditto, get checked out ASAP. The ladies have said pretty much everything I wanted to say.

However, a little bit of advice for your future relationship: we teach people how to treat us and this man definitely learned how to treat you like garbage because you allowed him to.

I am sorry you're going through this but for the sake of your well being, don't ever put a man above yourself, he will use you until you're absolutely dry.

Chin up OP, this is a hard lesson learned, never let it happen again:yep:
 
mcgheeola said:
Just talked to one of the other women yesterday she told me everything.He's be givin her money sleeping over there taking here out to eat.they had sex a week ago he has 2 other women in different places.I texted him to let him no what i no he wont call me because he no he's been caught.
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So you've been supporting him and he gives you nothing, but he's been supporting someone else and showering them with affection :nono:

I don't know how old you are mcgheeola, but you have to know that this is beyond not right :nono:

If you've been sleeping with him unprotected, he's been endangering your life with all the women he's been creeping with.

I know you want closure, but at this point what's the use of even trying to have a conversation with this man.

Give him a date to come get his stuff, possibly have a policeman escort him so that he doesn't even fix his mouth to try and justify his ways.

A man like that, there is no way that I'd waste another ounce of energy or breath with him.

You got all the proof you need.
 
My question is what is the age gap between u two..I only ask cause u sound kinda young and naive..that the game he just played on u is what alot of older men do to young girls..and if ur not young then take this as a learning experience of what not to do next time...
 
Yea ill be 37 on the 27th hes 41 I was on the phone with her when he called.he told here that we are just friend.
 
guuuuuuurl....

how does this happen?

op, you play too much. you need to put your big girl panties on and knock this off, right now.
 
He told her that he was staying with an army buddy.she told me to take pictures if his stuff.so she can show it to him to see if hes going to lye.
 
when i initially read this, i was like nawwww....dis a troll. can't be cuz see, i had to read everything u wrote like 5 times cuz i couldn't undastand what you were tryna say wif da run on sentences n what not. i mean i type in ebonics, but dayum.

so, lemme do what i do best.

*lights up a newport one hunnit*

so lemme git dis hea straight. u let ole boy dat u phuckin move in cuz u needed help. ok fine. but then he's not holdin up his end of da bargain. so you dayum near broke and he broke.

one day, u go thru his razor phone (i ain't know folks still had dem phones, but anywho...) and find a picture of his penis dat he sent to another chick and in turn found a pic of her.

then u confront him and of course he denies it. then u call some chick up on da phone (cuz u done went thru his phone n found some mo numbas..c'mon na) and start askin her questions about him.

then u call and tell him that ur gonna put his stuff out.

da hell kinda phuckery is this? huh? see, first of all, yall know dat when u go lookin for shyt, u find shyt. why were u goin thru his phone. u knew he wasnt shyt when u got wif him. he's a squatter. squat witchu a few, then go find anotha dummy and go squat with her.

then u call da otha woman to confirm what? that right there is a serious violation becuz u are to NEVA call the other woman. what...yall comparin notes? then she wants you to take a picture of his stuff so she can see if he's lying? i don't get that at all. and i bet u did it to, didn't u? yeah, u did. :rolleyes:

*Sighs and takes a long hard drag*

then u call him to let him know that ur gonna put his stuff out? see, das where u messed up again cuz i would took his shyt out back n burned it.


people will only do what you allow them to do so you can't blame nobody but urself. he 40 and gotta move in wif his son (das lie, by da way), meanwhile back at da ranch, u home callin broads up on da phone askin them dumb shyt about his stoopit azzz. think about it. all u doin is giving then amunition to get at him, das why u neva call da otha woman, cuz when yall hang up, he done moved on to the next one. and in some cases, will go back to da ones he was phuckin. he's what i call a professional squatter.

so all dat callin up women and comparin notes, dummy up n leave it alone and learn something from this. stop letting people use you. and further, stop messin wif broke men who have nothing to offer, while u givin up da puddi for free thinkin u got sumfin goin on.

i've put too much time into this thread and i gotta bounce. i'm still mad that he gotta razor phone n played u like he did.
 
~~HoneyComb~~ said:
Am I understanding this right when you say he "pays no bills"? Is he staying with you while acting a fool? You need to get him out before things get worse :nono: There is no need for you to put up with this foolishness from a man that's not doing anything.
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I stopped after "pays no bills".
 
ThatJerseyGirl said:
when i initially read this, i was like nawwww....dis a troll. can't be cuz see, i had to read everything u wrote like 5 times cuz i couldn't undastand what you were tryna say wif da run on sentences n what not. i mean i type in ebonics, but dayum.

so, lemme do what i do best.

*lights up a newport one hunnit*

so lemme git dis hea straight. u let ole boy dat u phuckin move in cuz u needed help. ok fine. but then he's not holdin up his end of da bargain. so you dayum near broke and he broke.

one day, u go thru his razor phone (i ain't know folks still had dem phones, but anywho...) and find a picture of his penis dat he sent to another chick and in turn found a pic of her.

then u confront him and of course he denies it. then u call some chick up on da phone (cuz u done went thru his phone n found some mo numbas..c'mon na) and start askin her questions about him.

then u call and tell him that ur gonna put his stuff out.

da hell kinda phuckery is this? huh? see, first of all, yall know dat when u go lookin for shyt, u find shyt. why were u goin thru his phone. u knew he wasnt shyt when u got wif him. he's a squatter. squat witchu a few, then go find anotha dummy and go squat with her.

then u call da otha woman to confirm what? that right there is a serious violation becuz u are to NEVA call the other woman. what...yall comparin notes? then she wants you to take a picture of his stuff so she can see if he's lying? i don't get that at all. and i bet u did it to, didn't u? yeah, u did. :rolleyes:

*Sighs and takes a long hard drag*

then u call him to let him know that ur gonna put his stuff out? see, das where u messed up again cuz i would took his shyt out back n burned it.


people will only do what you allow them to do so you can't blame nobody but urself. he 40 and gotta move in wif his son (das lie, by da way), meanwhile back at da ranch, u home callin broads up on da phone askin them dumb shyt about his stoopit azzz. think about it. all u doin is giving then amunition to get at him, das why u neva call da otha woman, cuz when yall hang up, he done moved on to the next one. and in some cases, will go back to da ones he was phuckin. he's what i call a professional squatter.

so all dat callin up women and comparin notes, dummy up n leave it alone and learn something from this. stop letting people use you. and further, stop messin wif broke men who have nothing to offer, while u givin up da puddi for free thinkin u got sumfin goin on.

i've put too much time into this thread and i gotta bounce. i'm still mad that he gotta razor phone n played u like he did.
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I was so looking forward to reading your response and you delivered, as always. I am LMAO at the bolded. :lol:

But seriously, this mess makes me wanna light up a Newport right along with you and I don't even smoke.

There are red flags and there are big a** side of the highway billboards. The pics are the latter. Everything else should have been the nail in the coffin a long time ago.
 
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