Picking the Wrong Guys

[Country gal]

Do you ever feel that you may have picked the wrong guy over and over again? I have that feeling. I tried this last time to pick someone out of the box different than what I normally date. I feel once again I have not made the right choice. The guys for the most part have been decent guys but just not the right one for me. I don't even know what right is for me but I know the shoe doesn't fit. So now I feel like I don't want to even date. I get tired of men specifically saying women want too much. I just feel it is a way for them to get us to settle.

 

[Aidenberry03]

Me too!!!! It must be something in the atmosphere. I will continue to have some faith in knowing that God will but someone in my life, who will be every thing I need.

I think we have to go thru the wrong things, men, etc. to appreciate when the right situations come along.

I am trying to be patient and learn these lessons now, I think I will be well prepared.

 

[MzLady78]

Girl, I'm a serial offender!!!

I pick the same type of guy over and over and over again! Some dude that's not really on my level, but yet I convince myself that I can "work with him". Then when I'm ready to settle down, he got some bs reason for why it's not a good time for him (focusing on his career, one dude wanted to be boxer, so he was training like everyday and had no time for me). And when it gets to be too much and something has to give, it ends up being me. Then I'm pissed cause I'm like "you weren't good enough for me anyway and I just wasted a year of my life (almost all of the situations went on for a year).

But I'm done with that now. I learned my lesson after the last one.

 

[blackmaven]

You will find the right person perhaps take a tiny break from dating. Do not give up!!!! There are still some good men out there looking for a good woman. It will happen when you lease expect it.

 

[SpyCats]

Do you ever feel that you may have picked the wrong guy over and over again? I have that feeling. I tried this last time to pick someone out of the box different than what I normally date. I feel once again I have not made the right choice. The guys for the most part have been decent guys but just not the right one for me. I don't even know what right is for me but I know the shoe doesn't fit. So now I feel like I don't want to even date. I get tired of men specifically saying women want too much. I just feel it is a way for them to get us to settle.

This is me but I have made a conscious decision to stop that cycle. The next person that comes into my life WILL be different because I know better now.

 

[IntelligenceisBeautiful]

Ive chosen the wrong guys for me, thwy weren't necessarily bad ppl., just not for me. I'm making a concious effort to change my negative thoughts and actions, because ultimately the ppl. we chose to have around are a reflection of ourselves in some form.

 

[lexi08]

I definitely think this is true for me. The last few guys I dated were not bad (except for one who I found was a straight up arsehole ), but just turned out to be the I don't really want to settle down type. I had gotten to the point where I stopped dating for long stretches of time. Maybe my luck will change someday.

 

[lexi08]

Do you ever feel that you may have picked the wrong guy over and over again? I have that feeling. I tried this last time to pick someone out of the box different than what I normally date. I feel once again I have not made the right choice. The guys for the most part have been decent guys but just not the right one for me. I don't even know what right is for me but I know the shoe doesn't fit. So now I feel like I don't want to even date. I get tired of men specifically saying women want too much. I just feel it is a way for them to get us to settle.

I also tried to date men who were not the type I would normally date. That did not work for me either so I just gave up on that idea

 

[bLackButtaFly]

Yeh, def. I always pick an unavailable man, geographically unavailable, mentally unavailable, emotionally unavailable, still has a gf I didn't know about unavailable it's always something. But i figure you pick the wrong one until you pick the right one, and then you stop picking.

They've all been different though. My friends say I never date teh same thing twice. Different personalities, backgrounds, states, everything, so maybe my problem is that there is no pattern to my dating. I can't help it I like to try new things

 

[hopeful]

CG, I'm sorry things aren't working out with the last guy, he seemed to have a lot of potential. I just wanted to tell you that I hope that you will eventually find the right one. I think taking a break from dating is a good idea, give yourself a break, relationship stuff can be exhausting.

 

[candy1214]

I usually end up with decent guys, but we're just headed in different directions. I get super bored easily so I think its just hard for the guy to keep up with me as I'm always looking for something new in life.

In the past though, I have ended up with scumbags...but I consider that their problem and not mine.

 

[cocoberry10]

Do you ever feel that you may have picked the wrong guy over and over again? I have that feeling. I tried this last time to pick someone out of the box different than what I normally date. I feel once again I have not made the right choice. The guys for the most part have been decent guys but just not the right one for me. I don't even know what right is for me but I know the shoe doesn't fit. So now I feel like I don't want to even date. I get tired of men specifically saying women want too much. I just feel it is a way for them to get us to settle.

I don’t know what your specific issue is, but I feel this way. I’ve actually decided to take a break from “dating” until I can figure out what I’m putting out there. It’s funny b/c I’m at the point where I believe that what we put out is what we get back from the person (consciously or subconsciously). You could meet a person while in one mindset and have one experience with them. Then you could meet this same person at a later time, and have a totally different experience with them all because you are in a different place. I truly believe this. Obviously, some people are just jerks, but I don’t think most people are truly so good/evil or black and white.

 

[Desert Skye]

I get tired of men specifically saying women want too much. I just feel it is a way for them to get us to settle.

I hate that mess too. Why cant I demand more? I know I deserve alot with all I am bringing to the table. If this guy cant step up his game to get women then maybe he should stay single. Why must the women lower her standards?

 

[Country gal]

CG, I'm sorry things aren't working out with the last guy, he seemed to have a lot of potential. I just wanted to tell you that I hope that you will eventually find the right one. I think taking a break from dating is a good idea, give yourself a break, relationship stuff can be exhausting.

Thanks, Hopeful. He is a great guy. I am not head over heels in love. He is crazy about me. I don't know if I want to marry him. So it is not fair for him to be lead on and for me to give in only to make him happy.

 

[Country gal]

I usually date different guys from the last boyfriends. They all seem to be family oriented men. This guy is not a scumbag. He is really nice but I feel we are so opposite. The issue is I am finding the right for now, right for the moment, right for the season guys but not the right for a lifetime guy.

Initally I was more concerned about finding a companion. I found one but I need more. I also need to find away to tell him which will be very hard.

 

[hopeful]

You're welcome. No, it's not fair to him or you. I have never understood how people settle on being married to someone they don't feel passionate about. I think marriage takes so much work but when you are crazy about that person it is easier to work things out because you don't want to live your life without them.

 

[Much2much41]

Yeh, def. I always pick an unavailable man, geographically unavailable, mentally unavailable, emotionally unavailable, still has a gf I didn't know about unavailable it's always something. But i figure you pick the wrong one until you pick the right one, and then you stop picking.

They've all been different though. My friends say I never date teh same thing twice. Different personalities, backgrounds, states, everything, so maybe my problem is that there is no pattern to my dating. I can't help it I like to try new things

I could have typed the bolded. That is SOOOOO me. I realized that it's because I'm not fully "available", so I attract what I am. I'm working on some things now so that when I'm ready, I'll find someone who is ready also.

 

[sky_blu]

Me, me, me, me, ME! And I see Im not alone. Even the ones I think are good guys turn out to be so so wrong. Im just about DONE!

 

[Kiadodie]

I could have typed the bolded. That is SOOOOO me. I realized that it's because I'm not fully "available", so I attract what I am. I'm working on some things now so that when I'm ready, I'll find someone who is ready also.

Yes, I realized this to about me. I am not 100% available and I'm working on becoming available and ready for the man of my dreams to come into my life.
I attract and go for unavailable men. I don't know if I do it on purpose or what erplexed. I still don't get it. I guess it has to be cause i'm not fully available either, you know? I think I still have that "fear" in me. Fear of what? I'm not sure yet..

 

[Country gal]

Do you feel you sometimes attract what you are? I am getting hit on by short, fat guys.