sbfairy
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Today I had not one but two people hatin' on my hair. Let me first tell you that I am transitioning, I have about 4 or 5 inches of new growth on my head. However, prior to transitioning I was just barely texlaxed, so unless my hair is down, it looks all natural. Typically I wear my hair in a bun for work.
Anyway, there is this older black woman who works as a unit coordinator on a different floor than I work on (I'm a nurse in smallish town in West Texas), this lady is absolutely beside herself every time she looks at my head. Today she'd just had enough and asked when I was going to "take care of that mess" on my head. I was trying to be respectful so I explained that I was transitioning to natural. Her response was "why do you want to be nappy headed? Girl you better get your done." I didn't respond to that because I could tell that the conversation was going nowhere.
A little later a white guy that I work with told me that he thought my hair felt nappy the other day when he gave me a hug. I think he thought he was being funny but I was not feelin' it. I just looked at him and said "My hair is nappy but it's mine and I love it!" He just looked at me, I could tell that was not the response he was expecting so I said "What? Did you expect me to make excuses for it? Defend it? Offer to straighten it? This is my hair, I love it as it is and I will not change it for anyone." He then apologized but whatever.
The thing I realized today is that I really am happy with my hair right now. I never went natural before because I was afraid of being "nappy headed". When I look at my hair I don't see what those two haters see. The last few years I was relaxed I'd always get sad on touch up day and agonize over whether or not to become natural. I'm glad that decision is behind me. I'm so glad to have LHCF to come to and get inspiration and support. I also realize that I can't wait until my contract is up so I can move to a bigger city.
Anyway, there is this older black woman who works as a unit coordinator on a different floor than I work on (I'm a nurse in smallish town in West Texas), this lady is absolutely beside herself every time she looks at my head. Today she'd just had enough and asked when I was going to "take care of that mess" on my head. I was trying to be respectful so I explained that I was transitioning to natural. Her response was "why do you want to be nappy headed? Girl you better get your done." I didn't respond to that because I could tell that the conversation was going nowhere.
A little later a white guy that I work with told me that he thought my hair felt nappy the other day when he gave me a hug. I think he thought he was being funny but I was not feelin' it. I just looked at him and said "My hair is nappy but it's mine and I love it!" He just looked at me, I could tell that was not the response he was expecting so I said "What? Did you expect me to make excuses for it? Defend it? Offer to straighten it? This is my hair, I love it as it is and I will not change it for anyone." He then apologized but whatever.
The thing I realized today is that I really am happy with my hair right now. I never went natural before because I was afraid of being "nappy headed". When I look at my hair I don't see what those two haters see. The last few years I was relaxed I'd always get sad on touch up day and agonize over whether or not to become natural. I'm glad that decision is behind me. I'm so glad to have LHCF to come to and get inspiration and support. I also realize that I can't wait until my contract is up so I can move to a bigger city.
And when you're happy with yourself, you'll start to realize those who mind (or are bothered by normal things you do that make you happy) don't matter and those who matter don't mind what you do as long as you're happy. 
She has been doing this my whole life though, so I expected it and let it slide. She kept making ignorant comments, so I had to let her know "I love my hair & don't have need anyone else's approval for my choices. And since no one but me is taking care of my hair and paying to get it done, no one else's opinion matters! When someone finances my lifestyle, they can have say...until then, they can keep it to themselves!" She STFU after that 
