Note about my daughter's hair

[KathyMay]

My Babygirl gave me a note that her stepmother sent over for me to read

The note said:

“Kathy, I noticed that Babygirl needs the ends of her hair cut. If you want them cut I can do it or someone else can do it, if you don’t have your own personal person. (her dead ends are preventing her hair from growing)”

Okay I think I am going to thank her stepmother for being concern but I will take care of the matter. My daughter’s hair has dry ends but I am going to start moisturizing more often especially during the winter. I am not going to cut her hair until she gets older.

What would you do if you were in this situation?

 

[LynnieB]

dear stepmom,

thanks so much for your concern but we will not be cutting or trimming her hair right now. i'm aware bg's hair is dry but since it is not splitting or showing any other signs of damage, we're going to work on keeping her hair better moisturized during the colder months.

please, under no circumstances cut her hair without my knowledge or permission.

signed kathy

 

[navsegda]

My Babygirl gave me a note that her stepmother sent over for me to read

The note said:

“Kathy, I noticed that Babygirl needs the ends of her hair cut. If you want them cut I can do it or someone else can do it, if you don’t have your own personal person. (her dead ends are preventing her hair from growing)”

Okay I think I am going to thank her stepmother for being concern but I will take care of the matter. My daughter’s hair has dry ends but I am going to start moisturizing more often especially during the winter. I am not going to cut her hair until she gets older.

What would you do if you were in this situation?

Hair grows from the roots not from the ends. I wish stylists would realize that is just a myth. I would do what you plan on doing...just keeping her ends moisturized. I'd use oil to seal the moisture in. You'd be amazed at the improvement after a little while. Garnier Length & Strength Anti-Split Ends Treatment is a great moisturizer for the ends (as well as the rest of the hair).

 

[shawniegee]

Tell ole' girl, dead ends on a kids hair is nothing to loose sleep over. I'd thank her for her concern, but unless it's regarding your daughter's behaviour or physical wellbeing(i.e. she doesn't seem to be feeling well), please refrain from writing notes or any other kind of communication that doesn't fall under that category, for these are the things that concern me. As far as clipping her ends, no thanks. *****(not really)!!

 

[Supergirl]

How old is your daughter? Is her hair natural or relaxed? If the ends are really bad, I don't see any harm in a little trim. Moisturizing ends that are already damaged isn't really going to help them unfortunately. Moisturizing ends is more of a preventative.

I can appreciate the stepmom for asking your permission first. Heck, I remember being about 7 and my stepmom taking me to the salon and the stylist "trimming" my hair and my mom wasn't informed or asked in advance.

Of course, I don't agree with her statement that the ends prevent the hair from growing. They could prevent it from retaining length, but certainly not from growing.

 

[KathyMay]

Hair grows from the roots not from the ends. I wish stylists would realize that is just a myth. I would do what you plan on doing...just keeping her ends moisturized. I'd use oil to seal the moisture in. You'd be amazed at the improvement after a little while. Garnier Length & Strength Anti-Split Ends Treatment is a great moisturizer for the ends (as well as the rest of the hair).

The hair growing statement had me thinking WTF. I am going to mix up shea butter and aloe vera put on her ends and do a deep conditioner everytime. I wash her hair. Her stepmom just did her hair twice and she is a hair expert.

 

[RabiaElaine]

What do her ends have to do with her hair growing from her scalp???

Anyway I would thank her for her concern but you will be taking care of Babygirl's hair and any needs that her hair has. Currently you aren't planning to cut her ends because they're not damaged, just dry. Let her know what she needs to do in terms of moisturizing Babygirl's hair while she is staying with her and her father.

Well, be thankful that she asked you first, because I'd imagine some other stepmom's out there might just take the matter into their own hands.

I wish you the best with your baby's hair, I know that with your knowledge of hair you will have her hair moist and long in no time!

 

[rdm]

At least she asked.

If there is joint custody, maybe the three parents can work on a regime for bg's hair. Consistency is the key.

 

[EbonyHairedPrincess]

I agree at least she didn't cut it or convince dad to cut it. erplexed

It's disturbing that she doesn't know all hair is dead (just like finger nails are dead) that's why when you cut it it doesn't hurt. Only the follicle is alive.

Thank her for her concern and tell her do not cut her hair and in the future, it's better to consult with you in person to clear up any misconceptions regarding Babygirl. I think from here on out I would braid Babygirl's hair whenever she went to her house to stop the temptation of cutting and to end her critique of Babygirl's hair.

 

[Vshanell]

I think you should take care of the matter in the best way you see fit. I do have to commend her for sending you a note instead of just cutting it off w/o consulting you first. I've heard horror stories about step parents, grandparents, or other relatives chopping children's hair off w/o asking the parents first and that's just wrong.

 

[The Girl]

OMG don't get my started on the Stepmom...mine is biracial. That isnt a bad thing bc I am a Heinz 57 myself!! I stated it only bc her hair concerns are different than my babys (4a/4b). She wants to constantly straighten(press) her hair and trim it when they have salon trips...my reply was a firm NO. I know her ends were not the greatest but I didnt want a scissor happy stylist chopping her hair. Be thankful she asked you and didnt tell you after the fact. There is no nice eay to do it. I am very nonconfrontational personally but when it comes to my Princess...damn near impossible

 

[chayil0427]

I'd just politely reply that you're aware of your daughters hair, but that you, as her mother, know what's best for her at this point. Thank her for her concern. No need to fall out over this.

I remember my grandmother and mother used to argue over what to do to my hair and it made me feel really bad as a child. Don't put your daughter through that.

Chayil